Am I right to feel irritated?

[Anonymous]

I am not sure if I am overthinking this or if I have the right to feel a bit irritated. I have been seeing this guy for about three months now. We have made efforts to see each other regularly (once a week, sometimes more if we can swing it) and we talk everyday. Recently he had mentioned being open to taking trips together. We have a long weekend and so I suggested we try and do something. We had planned to spend fri, sat and a little of sun together. Friday he wanted to check out some cars at a place that's about 2 hours away. The initial plan was to go with him to check out the cars hang out around the area (there are some hiking trails nearby) and spend the night at his place then spend Saturday and I leave. Some stuff came up on both our ends which made sleeping over not a possibility. But I had checked with him this morning (fri) to confirm plans and he mentioned he had called in sick and that he might just go check out the cars on his own in the AM and come back and hang. I said okay sure as I couldn't take time off work. He then said his dog would be alone so he won't leave till 330... I suggested that if he can wait to 5 I can finish work and join him. He didn't respond to that. I then got busy with work and it is now 4pm and I have not heard from him in terms of plans and what we are doing. At this point I feel like he is sorta blowing me off. Although till date he has been good so I am willing to give hi. The benefit of the doubt. I am a bit irritated but not sure if I am overthinking or I am in the right. Also not sure how to address it, if at all i should. Please advise.

[PinkCloud7]

I get the irritation, but at this point you have nothing to go on. Let him try to fix/explain, laugh at the "awesome" weekend if you can, tell him you had a great night (and try to do that: pizza party in you pj, a dinner out to decompress, whatever you feel is fun) suggest that he come up with a better plan next time and/or now that he has lost his turn of doing what he wanted to do- next time you get to pick where you guys are going and take him shopping. Muhaha😘💃

Hugs :)

[Asker]

I did exactly that I went out with a girlfriend and he did call so told him I hadn't heard from him so went out with a girlfriend and he is welcome to join us. He couldn't make it to us on time due to traffic so I just told him he has to make it up to me now and not worry. We will likely meet tomorrow but I will let him do the planning. Thank you :)

[Ευδεμονια]

I think sincerely he seems to be searching excuses to delay your meeting. It was sweet of him to think about a weekend together but maybe he has been deluded by the cancelled slept together.
So he thinks about his interest in cars so maybe he is already went there to see cars… I sincerely, in your shoes, deal with it by returning home after work, as nothing was planned, and wait his call. You proposed to meet and you’ve been very disposable but or he has a very bad communication or he’s a jerk.
You should ignore that and let him search for you.

[IAteTwoFullHams]

Sounds like he's probably out looking at cars while you're at work and plans to hang out with you after work.

Maybe his communication hasn't been ideal, but I don't think we've really crossed over into inconsiderate territory.

[Sarahplus2]

His dog can't be alone? Sounds like a procrastinator.

[Avicenna]

Yeah, you have every right to be irritated with him