@bones_20 Because guys in their 20's have no reason to settle down. There's no biological clock that women have; so, they'll slowly become more appealing to women as they learn style, grow in confidence, and typically build a strong financial base. What happens for guys in their 30's is that they'll gain perspective on what's important in life, which is typically family. This may sound similar to what women experience (after they hoe it up in their 20's), but it'll be a voluntary choice for men, it'll be something that's forced upon women (they won't get as much male attention, and their ability to have children diminishes). When someone has voluntarily chosen to settle down they're not going to settle, which is why he's aiming for you (a girl in her prime). Alternatively, when a person feels the window closing they'll make a choice out of desperation- and often later regret it. Lastly, a guy in his 30's has already gone through struggles, and knows how to navigate life. Who better to lead you? Who can you better depend on, and who to better know how to treat a girl (and I don't mean "treat her like a princess, [bs]" I mean lead her, support her, but keep her in line by maintaining her respect for you). Guys in their 20's are spontaneous and wild, which is why they're chosen to go fight wars, and often die in accidents at a far higher rate than women (or older men). A guy in his 30's is far more consistent with the path he's taking.
Some of the young women who asked the same questions about me in my thirties. Many have since gotten divorced. I’m 58 and go on five mile walks regularly. They could have had longer marriages with me.
If you're into a "dalliance," then OK. If you're into it for the long run, look to the future. Where will you both be in 10 years? 20 years? There's a reason couples tend to do best when within a few years of each other.
Do what you like and don't care about the gap, BUT... don't be naive about it either. It's likely you're a novelty to him at the moment, and novelties wear off, wear out and get discarded.
I believe age has nothing to do with the possibility of success in a relationship. You'll never know unless you try. I suppose the only difficulty might be if you both share the Same level of maturity
Make sure he's not a player or doesn't have a track record of only dating younger women
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As a guy in that age bracket let me just ask what do you think you got in common with him? Because there's a reason age gaps larger than 10 years. seldom work out.
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Guys in their 30's are a far better bet for a girl in her 20's, if you're looking to settle down.
Can I ask why you think that?
@bones_20 Because guys in their 20's have no reason to settle down. There's no biological clock that women have; so, they'll slowly become more appealing to women as they learn style, grow in confidence, and typically build a strong financial base. What happens for guys in their 30's is that they'll gain perspective on what's important in life, which is typically family. This may sound similar to what women experience (after they hoe it up in their 20's), but it'll be a voluntary choice for men, it'll be something that's forced upon women (they won't get as much male attention, and their ability to have children diminishes).
When someone has voluntarily chosen to settle down they're not going to settle, which is why he's aiming for you (a girl in her prime). Alternatively, when a person feels the window closing they'll make a choice out of desperation- and often later regret it.
Lastly, a guy in his 30's has already gone through struggles, and knows how to navigate life. Who better to lead you? Who can you better depend on, and who to better know how to treat a girl (and I don't mean "treat her like a princess, [bs]" I mean lead her, support her, but keep her in line by maintaining her respect for you).
Guys in their 20's are spontaneous and wild, which is why they're chosen to go fight wars, and often die in accidents at a far higher rate than women (or older men). A guy in his 30's is far more consistent with the path he's taking.
Some of the young women who asked the same questions about me in my thirties. Many have since gotten divorced. I’m 58 and go on five mile walks regularly. They could have had longer marriages with me.
Go for it girl. He sounds great and doesn’t have the kind of baggage I’ve heard a lot of older guys have.
Who cares what a couple of internet strangers think? You like him right? Listen to your heart!
if you like him , tell him that your feeling is mutual 😍
Go for it. Better and older man's darling than a younger man's fool.
As we get older I think we start appreciating girls more.
If you're into a "dalliance," then OK.
If you're into it for the long run, look to the future.
Where will you both be in 10 years? 20 years?
There's a reason couples tend to do best when within a few years of each other.
You're both of legal age of consent. Age gap issues are opinionated... The only opinions that matter are his and yours, in this case.
Absolutely. My wife and I on our wedding day
I guess it could work. Probabymote like a Commodity exchange…
21 and 40 is a no. But 21 and 38 is good. I feel those 2 years in a man make a lot of difference.
Do what you like and don't care about the gap, BUT... don't be naive about it either. It's likely you're a novelty to him at the moment, and novelties wear off, wear out and get discarded.
I believe age has nothing to do with the possibility of success in a relationship. You'll never know unless you try. I suppose the only difficulty might be if you both share the Same level of maturity
If you are happy and he is happy it's all good
personally I wouldn't go for someone THAT old but if you like him then go for it :)
Make sure he's not a player or doesn't have a track record of only dating younger women
As a guy in that age bracket let me just ask what do you think you got in common with him? Because there's a reason age gaps larger than 10 years. seldom work out.
He sounds like he doesn’t have any baggage so it might work out. If he had kids, an ex or multiple exes, it would be a bad idea.
What's his bag looking like? And I personally wouldn't because then he most likely to die when ur only fifty something which is pretty depressing
Whatever works for you. I doubt the breakup rate is much higher than for couples very close in age.