Older guy & younger girl. Is almost a 20 year age difference too much?

[Anonymous]

I’m 24 and he’s 43 and people have already made the comment “is this your daughter / father” to us. We’ve known each other for 4 years, have been sexually active for a few years and just started dating. I’ve initiated all contact and I was the one to suggest we start dating.
I’ve been a GaG’r for a year and am at 6XPER. This is anonymous so people don’t message me too bad. A few people here have already told me to break up with him.
Not us in the photo. lol

[Weapon77]

As a general rule that is way too big an age difference and usually is dangerous. He might be using you for sex and discard you when you don't put out or he gets bored. But they are always exceptions. It is encouraging that you are 24 and not like 18 or 19, so you are probably stable enough to make good decisions and assessments of the situation. If you can genuinely say he is different from every othet guy you know (in good ways) and you are not being taken advantage of or infatuated with his money or something then I think you might be safe. But please think about what will happen when you are 44 and he is 63, or you 54 and him 73 (he might be dead by this point or close to it)... If you can honestly say you would stay with him through that, not just to get through it, but because you love him, then maybe you are okay.
You definitely might be an exception, but every relationship like this I've seen is because the man emotionally manipulated the girl into thinking he was the only guy who would treat her right and take care of her--that he was her only way to be happy. Eventually these guys started abusing the girls, cheating on them, dumping them out of nowhere, or all of the above. It hits close to home and makes me really nervous. Please be careful and consider asking a counselor what she thinks (not saying you need therapy, just counsel) about the situation. If a professional believes it is a healthy relationship then you may be just fine!

[AynonOMouse]

It's fine. If you are happy with each other and want the same things for your future (kids/or no kids, where to live, etc.) then I say stay together.

Would you rather be with someone that makes you happy, but others criticize, or would you rather be with someone others approve of, but you are not happy and end up separated eventually anyways because you didn't have similar goals/values?

[Jaguar1818]

As long as it's a good relationship go for it. After all better an older person, than a child. Who cares what people say, love knows no bounds.

[Lance1965]

I married a 22 year old when I was 41 and we heard every father-daughter comment you can think of. From day one people will always tell my ex she was crazy to be with an "old man" like me so people were dooming our realtionship before it even had a chance to grow. However as it turned out they are 100% right, the age differences did cause huge problems. We were rarely on the same page about anything.

[abundantlyrich]

You must have known her for a few years, before deciding to marry?

[Anonymous]

I'm around that age too but the difference is I look about 24 years old. I was hanging with this 31 year old woman once and people were asking her what she was doing with a younger guy...

In your case, since you care a lot about what others think, this will eventually destroy the relationship.

[LiLOwL]

This is so cringe m8. Like you even look like him. If you didn't say that you are in a relationship with him I would say that you are his daughter.

[jimyee]

An anon claim exper 6 after a year? Sounds like you don't gag much.

[Asker]

11 months to be exact.
MHO 35%
7 badges, but only have 6 engaged and 6 social butterfly. Not on here all the time.

[Nonfrivolous]

@whywhywhyElif this 44yo man is hitting on me and im just 18!!!

[whywhywhyElif]

Hahahahah 😂😂😂✨❤

[whywhywhyElif]

Shhhhh

[outside_Toronto]

You'll most likely have some fun in the short term, but I don't see any long term viability to it

[Anonymous]

As long as compatibility is there and everything is legal, then age is just a #

[Anonymous]

And I bet he is wealthy, you are not with him for looks and old dick.

[Asker]

Definitely not wealthy!!!
Is gainfully employed at the same place I work. He’s significantly more senior then I am and makes good money.

[Dchrls78104]

Some people might say so.
I don't 😊

[Skali9119Liska]

This makes me want to be an old man 🙃

[laughinglad999]

no it is not love is love dont break up enjoy

[reptocarl]

My girlfriend is 30

[abundantlyrich]

That guy looks 55.

[abundantlyrich]

What happens when he is 53, put on weight, and can't have sex anymore?

[Asker]

Well, hopefully he won’t put on weight. As long as he stays in the army, he can’t put weight on.

[_Senpai]

Gross