I’ve been a GaG’r for a year and am at 6XPER. This is anonymous so people don’t message me too bad. A few people here have already told me to break up with him.
Not us in the photo. lol
Most Helpful Guys
As a general rule that is way too big an age difference and usually is dangerous. He might be using you for sex and discard you when you don't put out or he gets bored. But they are always exceptions. It is encouraging that you are 24 and not like 18 or 19, so you are probably stable enough to make good decisions and assessments of the situation. If you can genuinely say he is different from every othet guy you know (in good ways) and you are not being taken advantage of or infatuated with his money or something then I think you might be safe. But please think about what will happen when you are 44 and he is 63, or you 54 and him 73 (he might be dead by this point or close to it)... If you can honestly say you would stay with him through that, not just to get through it, but because you love him, then maybe you are okay.
You definitely might be an exception, but every relationship like this I've seen is because the man emotionally manipulated the girl into thinking he was the only guy who would treat her right and take care of her--that he was her only way to be happy. Eventually these guys started abusing the girls, cheating on them, dumping them out of nowhere, or all of the above. It hits close to home and makes me really nervous. Please be careful and consider asking a counselor what she thinks (not saying you need therapy, just counsel) about the situation. If a professional believes it is a healthy relationship then you may be just fine!
It's fine. If you are happy with each other and want the same things for your future (kids/or no kids, where to live, etc.) then I say stay together.
Would you rather be with someone that makes you happy, but others criticize, or would you rather be with someone others approve of, but you are not happy and end up separated eventually anyways because you didn't have similar goals/values?
Most Helpful Girl
As long as it's a good relationship go for it. After all better an older person, than a child. Who cares what people say, love knows no bounds.