How long should I be with him before moving on to someone who is willing to have more children? I really want one more?

[millyneenee]

I do date a lot of older guys. I am 24 years old with one child. My boyfriend is 43 with three children. I want at least one more child. I made a joke he said he didn’t plan on having more kids , at least now now.

[Avicenna]

Did you ask him why? Was it due to financial reasons or does he feel he's too old to have newborn? Or some other reason. You need to fully understand his thinking and then ask him what could change his mind and agree to have another one. I have three kids with one woman and one with another, and it's not something you decide to do lightly.

[Guy13]

This is a huge decision... He's 65 by the time kid gets to college. He is too old to father another child... What to do?

[DermalPunch]

Well, that isn't really for us to decide. We don't know what other goals you have. If you want to have kids with him and you feel you must be pregnant and you say that yiu require it and he doesn't want to then you should make the choice to move on.

[LazerBean]

You should have found that out if you wanted kids before even getting into a relationship with him.

[DermalPunch]

I disagree. People can change their minds. It's silly to stay if the person made it clear they weren't budging about it.

[LazerBean]

Your future is going to see a lot of disappointments if you're just going to assume that everyone's going to change to see things your way.

[DermalPunch]

I figured you would have a condescending answer like that. My future is looking very bright on that front and I have never required a partner to change to see things my way. That's your assumption. In my experience, people do change and in my past relationships we've often opened each other up to new perspectives due to the merging of our unique experiences. This being through communication. Men change for women all the time. Most women don't know how to influence their men is the issue.

[LazerBean]

"Past relationships" as in your advice is coming from someone who is nearly 40, been through many partners, and yet still has not figured out how to find a compatible person. That does not exactly scream "credibility".

[Anonymous]

Lol you chose someone old enough to be your dad.. That's your first mistake. Get with someone younger..