Been talking to a guy for 6 months but are together 2 months he has already asked me if we could have a kid, would I be crazy to accept?

[Anonymous]

[Avicenna]

Well, I think you should want to ensure that your relationship is stable before you agree to try to have a kid, and that means more time. Maybe after you've been together a year without problems and there are no financial issues. It's perfectly fine to want a kid, but you want to be reasonably confident that it's with the right person- being a single parent is tough.

[OrdinaryDaniel]

Absolutely not. Not yet at least. Why would you throw away your youth when you are so young. Having a baby is difficult and troublesome.

[Asker]

He's over 30 so ready to settle down I guess

[neeeeeeeko]

6 months is a short amount of time to make a decision that will affect you for the rest of your life.

[OlderAndWiser]

Have you yet encountered any coflicts or unpleasant differences/disagreements with him?

[Asker]

No everything is going very well
He seems like a genuine man

[OlderAndWiser]

You are still in the honeymoon phase and it is easy to get wrapped up in the magic of how it feels but part of the magic comes from the fact that you don't know him that well and your mind fills in all the blanks with the most favorable answers. When you get to know him better, it won't be perfect. . . but it might still be very good. You don't really know a partner until you have encountered a few conflicts/dsagreements/differences. He is on his best behavior now, as are most serious suitors, but when people experience conflict they will very quickly "lower their guard," stopped trying to make a good impression, and reveal more of their true self.

Imagine having a baby with this guy and then you discover that he is a pedophile, a closet alcoholic, a narcissist, an overly controlling persona, etc. You are not just talking about choosing a partner for yourself; you are talking about choosing a father for your future child. If you make a mistake in choosing a partner, you can break up or get a divorce but your child won't have a chance to get a different father.

If this is right, it will still be right a year from now. Slow down and see what happens. I know that is easier for me to say than it is for you to do, but think about all of the long term consequences of making a bad choice on the basis of initial impressions. If you think that couldn't happen to you, look around at all of the other people who rushed into relationships and ultimately realized they had made a bad choice. At this point in the relationship, most of them felt the way that you do!

[Asker]

Excellent response thank you

[OlderAndWiser]

Thank you and good luck!

[PortraitOfTerd]

yes, no kid wants to be born and he will regret that u didn't abort him when he grows up, i know i did, life is so pointless and boring, such a dragg /// like one big cage., if u had a heart u wouldn't bring anyone into this world

[PortraitOfTerd]

im being serious too this is not a troll response, if my mum aborted me id be so greatful

[PortraitOfTerd]

im sorry i jus feel bad for any future kid that has to be born, poor basterds

[exitseven]

Very crazy. A kid is not a potted plant. They are a life long responsibility.

[one2many]

Yes, you will be crazy if you accept... Having a kid , is something special, warm.. it 'll no longer be you, but two.

[spartan55]

You'd be stupid and crazy. You don't know him yet.

[Vendela]

Yes! What do you think kids are? Pets?

[Wise4myage]

Yikes, runnnnn!

[lofii]

Accept his offer