Why does my boyfriend always compare himself to other guys that I have dated?

[Anonymous]

I dated a lot of darker guys through out my life and as of recently I found my partner who is on the lighter side. I really love him to the point that I want to marry him but he's driving me insane every time he compares himself to what I would have had or was accustom to. (Yes it is what you're thinking). I'm satisfied with what I have and I'm quite contented.

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I misworded part of my explanation by saying a lot of guys. I dated a few and most of them did not include sex.

[magiusX26]

same types of reasons women compare themselves to most every other female out there. be it his EXes (boob size, ass size, weight, height, hair color, nose sizes, lip color [both types], etc) , the cashier at a local shop, actresses on tv/movies, porn, social media, randim woman walking within eye range.

[Anonymous]

I blame porn honestly.

We have set this insane standard on darker guys where everyone agrees they are hung like horses.

One of my exes confessed to me that her African ex was less hung than me and I'm by no mean packing insane sizes.

What your boyfriend needs is the reassurance that when you say dark guys you're not talking about something as big as a sword (unless it is)

In which case I'd say lying is a mercy in this case

[hahahmm]

I like it when women tell a guy about their exe (s) 100 times and then when the guy mentions her ex once he's the one with issues.

[Asker]

I never mentioned my ex. He did his own research actually and plus people who knew me told him it was a shock to see us together.

[hahahmm]

Then you're with the wrong guy. You need a guy who is okay being with a woman who has had 20, 50, 500 partners. Especially if those partners are different from him in as many ways as possible. Or your other option is to tell the people you know to shut up, stop putting your business on social media... and start over with a new guy.

[Anonymous]

Because it's unnatural for a woman to have had so many previous partners... you were not naturally built for it so don't expect men to act in a natural way towards it.

[Asker]

I didn't mean a lot as in several guys. With the part that I'm not built for it some of my "relationships" did not include sexual encounter. I only slept with guys that I believe where serious about me and I can count that on one hand. I don't blame you for the thinking my wording were off.

[hahahmm]

That's a good point.

[Guy13]

Because he is trying to turn you off... stupid... or insecure !!!

[Guy13]

Perhaps, all three...

[ElementoP]

He just wants to know how his 5 inch piss rocket lines up with the 8 inch pythons you're used to

[SpaceGalaxy]

He is insecure BUT he likes you and you should keep him for now. I understand him

[Calenderagressive]

Because they probably feel they're not good enough

[Midgetmcwidget]

Insecure

[maximumpower]

Self-esteem issues.