Is it attractive to men when they find out a girl has been through so much trauma but still overcame it? would that be a turn on for you guys?

[Nicoleme]

[ohsheeT]

All I have to do is look into somebody's eyes and I can tell you how happy they are what they've been through the pain the hurt the love the excitement it does not matter what a girl goes through I'm going to fill it I'm going to see it and I'm going to know it I can't say that it is a turn on but what I do love is when somebody has been through something and they didn't sit there and mope about it they stood up and they fought their way through it because that tells me so much about them that's the type of person that I like I want a person that has been through s*** because they've also know the way to get out of it and they also know that that's not who they want to be they keep going forward because they know they are stronger they know they want something different and they're going to fight their way to get that now that to me is a turn on I love women like that who are capable of understanding and doing that and don't want to sit around on their pity pot saying poor poor pitiful me that's the girl I walk away from but one that tries to go forward and does it with no b**** Barker bite they just do it that's what turns me on

[Lliam]

Not a turn on. It would give me no erotic thoughts. But I would admire her.

I started dating a 30 year old woman when I was 37. Early on, I found out that she had been molested on a regular basis for close to 10 years by her step father. He stopped when she reached puberty.

It severely messed with her mind. She moved out, got married and had a child when she was 16 or 17. She became an alcoholic. She got divorced a few years later and the husband got primary custody of her son.

When I met her, she had a good career, had beat alcoholism, and had been in therapy for years. She had pulled herself together and become the most remarkable woman I had ever met to that date. She was the only girlfriend I had ever loved with my heart and soul.

I felt extreme anger and sorrow for what she had lived through and I wanted to fuck up her step father. But he lived in another state and she had put him behind her.

[AsaKyo]

Did you marry her?

[Lliam]

@AsaKyo. No. We lived together even though we had our own places. It was one of the most wonderful times in my life. Unfortunately, for reasons that are complicated, we split up. It didn't have anything to do with cheating or anything mean.
After the split, it took me a year to pull myself together. I wound up meeting my future wife when I was 40.

[BrunoCuritiba]

I don't think she's an attractive woman, I think she's a strong person and deserves to be proud of it.

[genericname85]

i think it's pretty safe to say that your trauma is never a turn on for men. i mean i don't think this is even a gender thing. i think trauma is generally a thing people are not particularly attracted to xD

[ALPHABLACK]

You can call me women hater gay or whatever the only thing that comes to my mind when I see a women is a BIG TROUBLE

[JustADudePlayinADude]

No, not a turn on. Not a deal breaker so long as they have actually overcome it. It is not my job to fix you, and I will not devote the time to it.

[Alcoholic_Wannabe]

I don't think anything of it. It's kind of a given for women rn tbh.. to the point where men who say they don't want "damaged goods" are literally going to die single.

[Ironic_Method]

Not necessarily a turn on, but not a turn off either. I suppose we might have some trauma bonding to do and they do tend to be kinkier...

[FilmGuy93]

I would respect her more. It's not really a turn-on thing though.

[CerberusXXL]

Most men love a strong woman, we have all had our battles and still carry our scars either internally or externally, but we all have them.

[Caliguy88]

I’d try not to think about it I guess. It wouldn’t hurt or help my feelings.

[AndrésC64]

I think it's impressive. Overcoming diversity takes a lot of strength and determination.

[doug_walker]

This wouldn't be a turn-on or a keycard to automatically like her. It just shows that she is strong, and I would admire her for it.

[KrakenAttackin]

Never stick your dick in crazy.

[MiseriaCantareAFI]

not at all. in fact, it's a turn off for me

[Anonymous]

Nope.