The key is clear, open, honest communication, and make sure your actions consistently show the same as your words. Trust is very important to get over a past pain, but be patient as the trust develops. Make sure he always feels safe, so never accuse, assume, blame, criticize, demand, rationalize or tell him what he should or shouldn't do. It will take him a while to trust your pattern is consistent, but it's that consistency that will allow him to trust again.
Most guys give women about three to five real chances at a serious relationship. They can go into them later, but they will always be ready to jump ship when things get bad.
With another time where they feel. safe, they might get comfortable again, but as a human, you can only get hurt so much. Most guys who have been burnt too much will always have that little voice that says she can go postal at anytime.
in my case, there is nothing that can help or fix things. closest would be an extreme such as every human being loose the capacity and ability to be any degree of a shitty person (not excluding guys here partially because some of the bad behaviours of women belong at the feet of men they have had in their lives and switch back and forth that going further and further back in time) .
My self confidence. Regardless of what happens, I learn from previous relationships and what to look out for. I stand by my standards very strictly and make no exceptions with dating and relationships.
What hurts people when they make compromises for people that are entirely unfit for them
A lot of time and plenty examples of demonstrating trust.
Just as an aside, the way you type/text physically hurts me. It's such an eyesore. Is "you" really that much harder to type?
I would say that's on him to go to therapy and seek help for. Not your responsibility.
You could help by just listening to him, and if you do argue make sure it doesn't get anywhere near that type of abuse.
For me it wasn't physically abuse it was emotional and mental abuse the constant cheating was getting out of hand with her. Her constant disloyalty was to much and she crossed boundaries stuff i would never had done especially stuff that would of upset her. I continuously put her feelings into consideration and ahead of my own and thought before speaking and acting and posting. She on the other hand didn't
Get you another one. But noticed the clear signs. Once you find a better one you'll notice. this will always be trial and error since society has trained our women to be our enemy at this point
I don't trust anyone completely until they've been through trial by fire.
Three things that will instantly make me check out aside of cheating... Mental, Verbal, Emotional, or Physical abuse.
As long as the new girl doesn't do these things we are good to go.
Prove herself to me. Trust is earned and from the time we meet she's either earning it or losing it. The choice is up to her. But there's no shortcut to my heart. She wants it she's going to have to work for it.
Time and consistency build trust. Be exceedingly kind and loving. That helps.
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