How can I overcome the fear of “hitting the wall” as a woman?

[Anonymous]

I’m 25. I’ve never received any male attention due to obesity. I’m now getting help for emotional eating and losing weight now. I was excited because I thought I’d finally get attention from men which is something I’ve never experienced. While most women my age have had dozens, if not hundreds of men show interest in them. But my excitement disappeared once I learned men prefer women between 18-24 and “hitting the wall” which can start at 25 and ends by 30-35.

To think I’m now losing my youthful appearance and it will be bad at 30, genuinely scares me and I’ve cried about it multiple times. I thought losing weight and learning what men want in women so I can be that reflection, would be all I needed. Now I envy any woman younger than me, I hate going on social media because that’s all I see and I compare myself to them because there’s nothing I can do to fix my age. I feel I’ve thrown my life away and a guy will never find me beautiful.

I know most women will think I’m being dramatic or that I don’t love myself, but when you never have a guy look at or acknowledge you, it does take a toll on you and you want to experience it. Please don’t judge me, I am simply looking for advice to help me better prepare for this.

[GohanAwakens]

Not all woman look their best before mid to late 20's. Many look their best in their 30's and some even in their 40's. Not only that but many men are attracted to woman in their 30's, 40's, 50's. Yes as the age increases the numbers reduce somewhat but men are men and there will always be a significant number attracted to your age group. The best thing you can do for your confidence (I'm guessing) is continue to lose weight and trust that woman in their 30's are not done in life. Not by a long way

[loveslongnails]

Dramatic isn't the right word - fearful is more accurate. You're getting worried about the numbers when you shouldn't. There are plenty of men in their early to mid thirties who haven't found the right woman yet, and you could be her. Just stay on your path, stay positive, and emit positive vibes. That will attract the right men. Forget the other noise, it doesn't mean a thing.

[MzAsh]

The type of guys carrying on about the wall are the guys I recommend avoiding. Women over 30 are still hot. You have one hell of a scarcity mentality that going to be tough conquer, but you’ll need to if you want to vet a decent guy instead of clinging to the first guy who shows you attention.

[ElizaPam]

You never got male attention because of obesity? Damn I'm trans and still get male attention. But at 27 I know I'm past my peak as a woman and that is depressing.

[noohair]

You are as young or old as you feel in your mind.
I got married at 39. Divorced at 66.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

The wall is a myth. Literally internet fueled bullshit.