Yeah thats a red flag for most sane guys, but its not the scars themselves that are the problem.
Your wording makes it seem like you are worried about how they effect your appearance, as in whether or not you are still attractive despite the scars. But you should be worried about how cutting yourself makes you seem too dangerous to be around, and how it acts as a point of concern to worry about your own safety as well.
I'd not be able to trust a woman who self harms, I wouldn't trust her with her own saftey, let alone mine. I'd be too afraid that at any point she could snap and hurt me or herself.It just seems too risky to be with someone like that, and I'm not sure how she could manage to prove otherwise.
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No. Actually, I'd be intrigued about what led you to do that to begin with... it means you're an introverted type of person who doesn't show your hand. That intrigues me. Then of course, I have a 1 in 100 million background of my own, and get told that consistently around the country. Looks are deceiving... sometimes for better, sometimes for worse... most people are both very transparent, or as you say, extremely judgmental... usually without knowing a damn thing about a person. They're very naive.
A lot of people wouldn’t mind. Obviously they’d probably question it to themselves if they’ve glanced at your scar but it’s not something someone would think of after. It won’t change anything. The ones that do care are people who think self-harm is “emo”. These are people who aren’t good and aren’t considerate of others. You should be thankful they aren’t in your life. So overall, people wouldn’t mind also as it doesn’t change who you are.
in my opinion, no. But frankly, you shouldn't date anyone who would be turned off or repulsed by them. Or someone who fetishizes them.
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It can definitely be a deal breaker for some probably more so because of what it reflects about the person and not so much about how it looks visually.
turn off? yes. dealbreaker? no
but it does come into question why these scars are there in the first place
I don't care about the scars. It's the stress of having to worry about what she is going to do to herself that I don't want to deal with.
Some guys might find it a turn-off but they shouldn't.
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Not a dealbreaker, but sad hopefully it doesn’t happen again
It's understandable. A way of dealing with pain.
Big red flag, to much baggage and hassles
Scars are cool
Yes , probably. Self harm scars are scary
I should think so.
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