Is dating a wise decision when I’m currently recovering from anorexia?

[Anonymous]

There’s this guy that keeps asking me out, and i always find my way out of them. Not because I’m not interested but only cuz I’m recovering from anorexia and body dysmorphia and don’t have the courage yet. I want to go out with but am worried that I’ll be too much for him to handle. What do u guys think?

[Anonymous]

I’d say don’t date until you feel comfortable with where you are in your recovery. Dealing with eating disorders and body dysmorphia are things that can be a battle for years, and a lifelong struggle for some people so I would not say just never date anyone ever again. But dating someone and being in a relationship means making them a priority, and that’s kind of hard when you’re recovering and really having to focus on getting to a good place with that. So if you aren’t ready, then just tell him. You could say that you like him a lot but just dealing with some tough stuff and need some time before dating again. If he’s a good guy he will understand you can’t date right now.

[lightbulb27]

you answered your own question by how you wrote it... no. Get healthy, then date. Dating is #1 about learning about yourself, your needs, communication #2 learning about the complexities and difficulties of another human being #3 working together constructively to the betterment of both.

In other words... it's a lot of work until you get stabilized... and the work and change never ends. you aren't ready for that.

there's a lot in what brief you wrote. you have strong emotions as some women/people do. you have to learn how to navigate life being in a state of confidence, love, joy, peace and not be subjected into fear, anxiety and depression. that takes work. you have plenty of time to stabilize yourself. good job!

[FreeYourM1nd]

Sure why not, maybe he can take you out to dinners and help you recover even faster

[Anonymous]

I suggest you focus on your mental health for the time being.