Is the “one that got away” a real concept? can you actually move through life thinking you lost the best you’ll ever have?

[Anonymous]

I can imagine that it’ll be like “oh they were so sweet and kind and beautiful, I wish we could be together” rather than “how could I have let them get away!!! They will always be the best!!” And have this mindset for the next 69 years of living

It’s not a real concept

It’s very much real

[Anonymous]

Actually the “how could I have let them get away” is the most common one that I hear. Taking someone for granted is a tale as old as time. People will think the grass is greener on the other side, or fall into the 80/20 trap. But I’m almost all cases they are losing the person who loved them dearly, stood by them despite all the drama and bs, and never again find someone who measures up. That is the guilt that sits with them for years to come. Some people do get lucky and settle down with another amazing person, but no matter what that person will never be the one that got away.

[FilmGuy93]

It's very real, but the one that got away isn't the best girl you've met; she's just a good one that you're certain would have been a good fit, but things just didn't work out. My "one that got away" was a girl I knew in highschool that I still believe to this day would have been a fantastic girlfriend, had we dated. She just wasn't interested in me though. I never stood a chance, it turns out.

[BarryLiverstone]

Often times that’s the case when people settle or get into a relationship with a toxic person. They will remember better times in the past and worry they missed out on someone better for them. Ever felt like that?

[Googlemyahoo]

It only feels that way if you allow yourself to

[noohair]

I have found that I can't grow if I live in the past. I always look forward.