Assuming she's not a hypocrite and wants tradition when it benefits it, then I'd go with the modern woman.
As for the woman who said men want traditional women when they aren't themselves, how are women any different:
They still want men to make the first move.
They want a man to pay all their bills.
They don't want to live up to their own traditional values, because the 'housework should be divided', no if you want a man to pay all your fucking bills, do your own fucking part as well or date a simp who'll do exactly that and then you can lose respect for him and then complain about men again, because of your own dumb decision making.
They don't even offer a virgin body because they were being a bunch of slappers in their 20s, claiming they were 'young and dumb', all whilst claiming to 'mature faster', having the upper hand in dating and 'having an easier time getting laid' and still making shitty excuses.
But no let's complain about the hypocrisy of men sleeping around and getting praised for it, whilst women get shamed, only to participate in that double standard by choosing to date the promiscuous guys anyway.
Look at the huge difference between men and women in the poll. When will modern women learn that majority of men want an old school wife who puts her family above her career? I want to know that my wife will always be proud of my success, give me a hug and food when I come home from work, wear skirts and pretty dresses, be intimate and loving, go out to romantic dinners, things like that. One big lie modern women are told is that traditional means a wife who is locked inside the house as if it was a prison and is never allowed to leave. She has the freedom to go wherever she wants. I would appreciate if she tells me where she's going so I know where to look in case of emergency.
I'm a bit of both, I love cooking for my boyfriend, surprising him, caring for him but to me thats just being a partner and lover. He also does the same, and sometimes cooks for me, however I'm not traditional in the sense I could never stay home all day everyday, some days sure! But not 24/7. I also want children when the type is right.
I'm also a modern woman in the way I'm in university studying computing for a year, and then after this I'll be doing 3 years of either cyber security or computer science. I grew up poor, and I see the affect it has on children, so when I have children I want them to not have to worry about where their next meal is coming from, I also chose a computing degree as it's flexible for career options, meaning my schedule means I could work from home some days, which = more time with kiddies! But I also love learning, so its not the sole reason for getting a degree.
Interesting pool, I believe the bond between the husband and wife is one of the most important thing for the child, especially in younger years, it is very important for the bond to be strong. In this messed up world this is still something people can recognize i think. and so basically as long as the partners manage to do that, whether it’s through ‘modern’ or ‘traditional’ behaviors, then I think they are achieving their goal. Also modernity has come with huge changes psychology, increased freedom and allows both men and women to chose with their heart… so not all bad right
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I definitely lean more towards modern woman. I'm more focused on what I want to do with my career and less focused on getting married or having a relationship with someone. I'm open to a relationship and possibly marriage one day (depending on the person) but it's not something I prioritize. You guys can have a fit over my decision, but I'm one individual and it's MY life. Don't understand what all the fuss is about on why it's so terrible that women have the option to have careers and not get married, have kids or stay home. There's always going to be men and women who want to be traditional and have that, and there's always going to be men and women who don't want that because we're all different individuals living our lives as it should be. Don't worry, the population won't be running out anytime soon.
It's really conflicting because I wouldn't mind being a mom and would like to have my own kids, but I could always adopt if I change my mind. I can cook basic foods (grilled cheese, spaghetti, etc) but I'm no chef. I'm right in the middle between being girly and a tomboy. I wear both dresses and jeans/t shirts, will wear makeup one day and be natural the next day. If you're taking me out on a date, you're paying. If I'm taking you out, I'm paying. If a boyfriend/spouse were involved, we would both be 50/50 with the bills and with household chores, (cooking, cleaning, trash, etc.)
I´d like the mix because though traditional sounds good at first glance. It also comes with a lot of responsibility and stress. I´m honest I´m not that keen on having kids simply because I´m not good with kids especially young ones.
Besides that I come from a liberal country. Here most students of universities are female, feminism has been influencing culture and church alike the chance of finding a completely traditional woman seems small.
Plus I´m only used to liberal or moderate traditional women (they have conservative values but have an academic degree and a job) so I´m preparing myself for a situation where both are working. Most women I know are not very keen on being a stay at home wife so why should I make them then?
I like traditional values nevertheless and I build my life on them as best as I can but I can´t imagine asking of a woman to stay arguing cooking and cleaning is a woman´s job that time seems over to me.
Yes even though I’m 21, I’m often described as “an old man stuck in a young man’s body”.
I’m the epitome of a traditional man. I love to shop by tradition rather than go along with the trend; I prefer to shop at brands that are well made but rarely known by the masses - eg. IWC for watches, Barbour for scarves and knitwear and Rodd and Gunn for leather bags.
I prefer to send handwritten letters using a fountain pen that’s sealed with wax, I shave with a shavette, I buy shirting fabrics from English Mills and have some of my shirts made at the tailor and I attend Church (mass) in Latin. I could go on and on but I think that would be enough to describe me for now!
I’m a mix of both. I love doing things for my partner, but like us both to share the housework and so on. I love feeling taken care of and safe with him, and love being supportive to him and showing him so much love. I would love a nice, romantic wedding.
I do not want kids personally (at the moment at least I don’t know if my opinion will change in the future - probably not) which isn’t very traditional, and I want to be able to support myself, be financially stable on my own, travel the world, get a good education & work etc. and I do not believe in old fashioned ideas. I’m a feminist (no, not a feminazi, or a man hater) which I guess isn’t traditional, I want men and women to be treated equally, have the same opportunities, etc. and do believe more women should be in power!
So overall probably quite modern with little bits of traditional in me.
Forget the name of the movie but in it, the wife who looks much like Option B sits the family down for a Power Point presentation on why they are complete shit. Very funny watching the husband and kids squirming through the PP.
In real life it is not so far removed from that. There are continual negotiations, I'll do X only if you do Y. That really gets up my nose. I'm happy to do things for you but if I need you to do something for me it is a negotiation. And I haven't mentioned the corporate performance reviews yet.
I'm much happier with traditional women who I associate with prioritizing family life and accepting men being different and being men in the same way we accept women being different and being girls.
I want to be a traditional woman because I grew up in a traditional family. My mom took care of me and my brother while my dad worked. My dad got sick and now he can’t work so now my mom works. She is always stressed out because my dad doesn’t do any household work.
I read studies on this topic, which found that woman who work and have children are unhappier than woman who are traditional women and have children. That is because woman have to take on a “second shift” once they get home which includes taking of the children and doing household work that their significant other didn’t do.
"The modern women can no longer cook, they no longer want children and they are no longer warm, tidy and loving creatures who think spending time with their family is a good thing. They are probably too "independent" and "strong" to even have a family of their own. The only thing modern women have to offer men today is sex. So instead of being loving housewives who cook and raise children, they are reduced to being sexual objects only - and they are so messed up emotionally and intellectually that they often spend most of the money they make on their jobs on plastic surgery, cosmetics and tons of clothes they think will make them look good, in a desperate attempt to stay or become more attractive. Well, they have no other qualities attractive to men, so what else can we expect? This is the fruit of feminism. The fruit of "women's liberation"."
I am a combination. I believe in the traditional gender roles, I believe in marriage I am a hopeless, romantic at heart, but I also work pay all my bills.
My mother and father were together till death due part. My mother died. My mother was mainly the breadwinner paid the bill, and my father worked as well but he’s a different breed he fix things things he cut the grass. He did pretty much everything and love cooked. He made the decisions when it came to religion and other things, but it was mainly shared.
I grew up differently. That’s why I believe a woman can have it all.
I am fortunate to live in a community where women being traditional is still accepted and valued, where family is still the most important priority for many women, where marriage is still respected and commitment is taken very seriously, where many children still have real mothers and feel like they are the center of her universe and grow up knowing they are loved and valued, where men want and expect their wives to be good mothers to their children during their formative years, which is so critical you their mental and emotional development and to the adults they will become.
There's no question that modern women make poor mothers and wives. They are a compromise at best. They have reduced their value to men to little more than sex. If I as a man am going to take on the risk that modern marriage poses to men, it will be with a real woman, not a modern one.
Mix of both. I learned to be self sufficient a long time ago after I moved out for college. I cook, clean, pay my bills, my mortgage, studying for my masters and have a full time job (with a beautiful paycheck).
I've got a man who's also a mix. I make almost twice what he earns. With all that, it's never been a problem and going on 2 years soon.
That is hard for a guy to answer on here. If I say I like a traditional woman with virtue more, I will be called a sexist, or someone will have Suspicions that I am against feminism and cannot get laid. Or I want women in the kitchen. Or they will think I am insecure for saying I do not want a woman who has slept around.
If my answer is the ladder, I will be accused of being a cuck or simp who panders to women. They will suspect me of being a submissive man who says, "yes, dear," to all my wife's requests, so no matter what answer I give, I will be accused of something false.
I will leave it at prefer not to say.
I mean to survive I have to be a mix of both. My bills don’t get magically paid by me sitting around doing nothing. And my house doesn’t stay magically clean despite me hardly being home to make a mess. So I have to be a balance of both. If I meet someone and start dating them I’ll probably remain the same as I am now. Work and take care of my home, he is however expected to take on 50% of the load if he’s living in my home.
It depends what you mean by modern and traditional. I think most women are a mix of the two, to one degree or another. Most women are educated, have jobs and are self-sufficient as single women, as they should be.
The real distinction comes down to two things:
1) The importance they place on family, and their willingness to take time away from their careers to give their children the benefit of having a good mother at home with them during the early years of their lives, which countless studies have shown is super important in child development. Mothers who place their career ambitions ahead of their children and families are "modern women" and not suitable candidates for marriage for good, family oriented man.
2) How they view men and marriage. The women I think of as "modern women" have terrible attitudes toward men, heterosexual relationships and marriage and should be avoided.
u I guess I’m both? Not sure. Maybe modern because I have a career - I work full time, so does my husband. I also cook and keep up the house, but so does he.
Staying at home isn’t what I am interested in. We’re also not privileged enough to even afford that!
Definitely traditional! I've been a stay at home mom for the last 8 years and no plans on ever working. I just prefer to be raising kids and taking care of things at home.
I prefer someone who knows the life they want to live and is a fair, decent and considerate person. Anyone male or female who has unrealistic or unfair expectations or life outlooks is someone who needs to mature. The older successful marriages we see are built on men and women working together to find their roles and goals in a relationship.
I'd prefer a non inflated economy that was stable and not in debt.
Then I would truly enjoy a traditional marriage and if a woman wanted to be modern and a guy wanted that, they could live that life more comfortably. I avoid "vote b" like the plague on a personal level. I keep it strickly work related and leave the room asap.
Traditional of-course. Modern western women are whores in my opinion. Femimism has destroyed the family home and tore both men and women apart by brain washing women into believing that they should be working instead of raising there family.
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Modern women want men to be traditional whenever it benefits her but to accept her being 'modern' in all areas of life. It's a bad deal for the guy. Of course there's different degrees to it from 'a little modern' to full blown borderline butch lesbian.
"R. I. P. modern woman it looks like you'll either adapt or die alone."
Lol. More like men will either learn to like modern women or die alone. The modern woman isn't going anywhere.
More for me, I guess.
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