Why are long-term relationships so hard to find, even though you want one in real life, yet you were lucky with online dating?

[OnlinePeanut22]

I haven't had much luck really meeting guys who share my interests. Most of the guys I did meet were either not interested in relationships or had girlfriends. That puts me off. I'm not a fan of tall guys. On shorter, I am. Other guys I did meet included my ex-boyfriend in person. My own knowledge of certain online dating. Dating with a disability has been wasted. I tried using Facebook for dating and got a little lucky when I messaged one guy after blocking another who had lead me on. I am aware that I am more unique than some girls or ladies. I'm not interested in having sex or hooking up. I'm aware that many men will take advantage of me or deceive me with ex-boyfriends in an effort to teach them a lesson the hard way and cause them to lose a respectable woman in the process.

[DannyUk2017]

Why? I guess that's simple question.
Because these days all the generations after 90's become Electronic Zombies.
All they care about is just the likes/fame they find on social media!
I hate when i see them just sitting doing lives and asking for people to "tap, tap, tap", few hours later they are still there, really?
Then years pass and start crying that they haven't found a boyfriend... for real? Then get tf out of that zombifying device/situation and get out and meet REAL PEOPLE! 🤦‍♂️
They never knew/learn how to offer a flower, how to go to a cinema night out, how to walk in the park and having stupid/hilarious talks while having ice cream, all they know just : "likes, drugs, getting naked, shaggin like rabbits, regrets/unwanted pregnancies after a day or two".
So the old good days to say I Love You, to Show how you really want her, are Gone! 🤷‍♂️
This is today's reality... Sadly!

[OnlinePeanut22]

What if you already have very limits to guys that I can't meet through pubs or other public places. I also tried groups for learning disabilities and were none guys that I liked. Also, he has tried a youth club and that has guys that I did have a girlfriend already or was my ex boyfriend that I am not interested in but he is still interested in me.

[DannyUk2017]

Don't rush things, i am single since 15y ago, and i'm ok with it. The right person will come at the right time. 😉

[OnlinePeanut22]

That the problem I can't find anyone in real life but only has a bit of luck with online dating with finding a guy with a common interest. Didn't find any guys with a common interest in real life.

[DannyUk2017]

I know how works the "online" stuff so i don't trust it, myself! I only daydream about stuff, that's all.

[OnlinePeanut22]

I only do online dating. Hadn't worked at all in real life.

[DannyUk2017]

Oh, me too, but didn't worked for me either, maybe couse i'm too old... hehe

[magiusX26]

let me start things with a counter question. what qualities do you look for in a long term partner? as well, what qualities to do expect to gave to bring into such a relationship that should compliment what qualities you want in a partner and how should his qualaties compliment yours?

[OnlinePeanut22]

Why is that asking question. I am not be able to understand some thing. I looking for respectful, trustworthy , intelligent, honest and not leading, me. The will turn me off. I got similar quantities to what I want in a guy that already mention. Guys that have girlfriends are already a turn off. Same with cheater are turn off.

[ohsheeT]

After going through a messed up relationship and finally getting her out of my house it took a toll on me I always said I would get back in the dating when I could find myself again because I became this person that didn't like anybody anymore LOL just because of the crap I had to deal with with her getting her out of my house and just a bunch of other stuff with her

Even though at that time I felt like I lost myself but I found myself pretty fast again but I never lost my passion my desire My romantic side and I felt a long distance relationship or any relationship online could have its benefits in many different ways

When in a relationship and two energies become one it is the most beautiful thing in the world I am an empath and I have always felt peoples energies and emotions whether I'm standing 2 feet away or if I'm 15,000 miles away

Meeting new people online has really been an eye-opening blessing for me in so many different ways because of many of the conversations that I've had the the type of friendships that I've had and feeling their energy from these many miles away has really taught me a lot of things not only about other people but about myself

I have always said you have to experience something to be able to understand that and if you can ever have a long distance relationship of any kind it is a very beautiful thing I think when we are ready we will all go out and search for that person that you can stand 2 feet away from and feel that energy but it is a very beautiful experience to fill the energy of somebody that is long distance and have that type of relationship I guess you have to experience it to understand it but it is a very beautiful thing especially when that person can feel the same thing you feel as if you're two feet away

[OnlinePeanut22]

I am not interested in long distance relationships. Only long term relationship.

[Finchie40]

Because people today are so brainwashed into their cell phones living in false reality , everyone is a cheater everyone is selfish , All girls just want your money and all guys want is sex , Social media played a big part in damaging relationships, filling people’s brains with bullshit advice and making people believe that loyalty and faithfulness doesn’t exist anymore , So to find someone today that isn’t brainwashed is hard to come by because everyone basically lives on their phones , all girls have back up plans and all girl’s have the grass is greener syndrome in them , All guys just think with their dicks and just want a girl for sex until another one comes along , It’s a sad world we live in , so basically people have just been focusing on themselves and having a hard time trusting others , without trust and respect no relationship will survive so people today feel it’s a waste of time

[OnlinePeanut22]

Already I am very limited to guys that can date and didn't find anyone in real life with a learning disability. That didn't have a girlfriend but met guys that had girlfriends at youth club. I have tried groups for learning disability and none there I liked.

[OnlinePeanut22]

Already I am very limited to guys that can date and didn't find anyone in real life with a learning disability. That didn't have a girlfriend but met guys that had girlfriends at youth clubs. I have tried groups for learning disabilities and none there I liked.

[ChiTown33]

Doesn't sound like you're really trying. I think you think you want a long term relationship. But in actuality don't want to put forth any real effort. It's OK this is pretty common with women. Because iall I'm really hearing is all the roadblocks you're creating.

[OnlinePeanut22]

I already tried in real life and most guys already have girlfriends. How can I try? If a guy that I kept meeting already is taken. Group I has also tried. None of them were attracted to. Has been rejected more than once. One guy that wasn't interested in a relationship. That why I want back to online dating since real life hasn't even work for finding a partner. I also don't have friends that are single.

[ChiTown33]

"I haven't had much luck with guys who share my interests". "I'm not a fan of taller guys, on short. I am".
I know rejection sucks. An I get, you're attracted to what you're attracted to. But the way I see it you got too choices. 1. Lower your standards 2. Stop trying to date.
I get where you're coming from which is why I chose option 2.. I'm not going to try to force anything with anyone that doesn't respect or value me. And so few women respect or value men today. Unfortunately you might be feeling some of the fallout from that. At any rate I wish you luck.

[OnlinePeanut22]

If I am lower my standard I always get used.

[ChiTown33]

Well you're probably not actually lowering your standards. You're most likely just picking low quality guys. There is a difference.

[OnlinePeanut22]

I already got used by lower quality guys.

[OnlinePeanut22]

That not going to change by lower my standards is going to attract more lower quality guys that I don't want.

[ChiTown33]

I think you're totally misunderstanding me. Just because a guy is HOT does not make him high quality. He may think so but that don't make it so. I think you need to stop and really look at what you're trying to accomplish. Do you want to be with someone you're really physically attracted to or do you want to be with someone who's going to treat you well. Sorry life isn't a fairytale. You don't typically get everything you want.

[OnlinePeanut22]

Where did I say anything about hot guys? I didn't. I just said lower quality guys.

[OnlinePeanut22]

You misunderstand what I was

[ChiTown33]

I read your original question. You gave yourself away when you said how picky you were. It became very obvious the type of guys you were drawn to. Only you can fix your problem. And until you want to do that. This will continue. Good luck!

[OnlinePeanut22]

I am not interested in any hot guys. Where did I say that in my question? I am not picky at all. I dated short guys through college. I think you miss understanding me once again.

[ChiTown33]

I'm not going to repeat it your own. Quote for you a second time. N/m I don't need to waste my time trying to help someone that doesn't really want help. Just keep doing what you've been doing. Clearly that's working. 🙄

[OnlinePeanut22]

I didn’t say anything about hots guys. Your still hasn’t miss understood me once again

[AsaKyo]

Cause' people just don't give a shit about relationships anymore. I hate to say that, but all people want is either to fuck around or be there until it gets hard, then they wanna dip.

[FilmGuy93]

Online dating is mostly focused on hooking up.

[OnlinePeanut22]

Why do you think like that? I am not interested in hocking up or friends with benefit. I can't find anyone near me or have a common interest.

[FilmGuy93]

Because online apps are just an extremely shallow way to meet people

[OnlinePeanut22]

What if you tried to find a partner in real life but none of them had any common interest or were too tall. Or guys that already have girlfriends. That is how my real life is going and I am single. I can find one guy through online dating and did have a common interest.

[FilmGuy93]

A lot of romance is just luck of draw type stuff. You have to get out into the world and live your life in a spiritually fulfilling way with the faith that that will bring you in touch with men who will continue to fulfill you. Finding men who want to fulfill you is tricky, but we are out there.

I started to make an intentional effort to figure out how to be more emotionally connected with my girl, and I can see the joy and life it's bringing her. I think it's worth the effort for men to do, but I think it's even more worth women's effort to insist on finding men who uplift them.

[OnlinePeanut22]

I can't find guys in real life

[FilmGuy93]

I met my girl online, but it was through Reddit, not a dating app.

[Jecob]

why you want LDR?
I have been there and it was shit and miserable life

[Jecob]

in LDR your entire world will be inside this rectangle screen, you will leave two sprite lives. one with your online boyfriend and other with the rest of people around you.
I was there for more than 4 years.

[OnlinePeanut22]

No I don't want LDR. I said I wanted a long-term relationship. Not going to an airplane

[Jecob]

ohhh sorry 😂

[Jecob]

to answer your question, I think before most of men afraid of responsibility and thinks they could do better.
just check tinder app, you will see most of young girls writing looking for elegant man who spoil me bla bla bla. and women in early 30s only write looking for long term/ serious relationship

[OnlinePeanut22]

I am not interested in women. Just looking for a respectful man with a learning disability and did have bad experience with some women having friends that are not my friends anymore.