PARTIES AND FRIENDS (MALE)?

[SickB3atZ]

If you ask your girlfriend/ex (reconciliation) why it's necessary to go to wild parties and not listen to what the other person has to say about it, is she wrong or am I? Secondly why do girls want guy friends and guy bestfriends when you are in a relationship with a Guy and do not care if your boyfriend doesn't like it?

[Anonymous]

We have lives of our own and we shouldn't have to give that up when we get a boyfriend. I don't have sex with other guys when I have a boyfriend but I can still have friends and do fun things with them.

[SickB3atZ]

Okay but why not be clear to your Boyfriend that some of these guys are interested in you and just see what he has to say... not just tell him to f#off and not let him have an opinion for n Boyfriend that looks super suspicious and super off putting

[Opinion Owner]

Many guys are interested in me when I have a boyfriend but I don't let them interfere with my relationship.

[SickB3atZ]

You see that's the issue my girlfriend/ex would flirt with them and block them only to unblock them a week or two after

[Opinion Owner]

Then you shouldn't date a girl like that.

[DoctorSex]

You're being used.

Run. Trust me. This will not end well for you. Ignoring this advice will cost you dearly.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[SickB3atZ]

What would happen if i ignore the advice just out of interest sake

[DoctorSex]

Heart break. Your heartbreak. There is 0% chance of escaping it with a woman who is behaving like this.

I'm a man who trains young men who are shy "simpish" as the young kids say, and I transform them into the type of men women chase after. I know that sounds like a cliché advert but I wish you could speak to my students.

The basic philosophy of my teaching is to recognise that the being you're dealing with is,

Primarily: Female
Secondary: A culture
Thirdly: Her name/family

In that exact order. A lot of men get this order backwards and that's why they get themselves into trouble with women thinking, "Jane is different, if he only knew Jane"

Look at it this way, if you own a young cat or know of someone who does, head round to there's and take your shoelace off. Now place the shoe lace on the ground Infront of the cat and slowly pull one end of the lace away from the cat, and watch it pounce!!! LOL

99% of cats behave like this REGARDLESS OF THE BREED, because it's a cat's nature to hunt, it's instinctive, below the level of consciousness.

The same philosophy has to be employed when dealing with women. When I read your post I was reading her reactions and behaviour because this informed me of what mindset this female is in. Forget her words. Study her actions and they'll tell you everything you need to know. Apologies for being long winded.

But I'm telling you the truth here. I've answered a lot of questions today and no answer am I more certain of than this one.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[Guy13]

I do not get that mind set. You have more detail⁉️

[SickB3atZ]

I have more detail yes

[Guy13]

That would be nice as your question vaguely specific…like having to read your mind 🤷🏻‍♂️

[SickB3atZ]

Well i as a person i don't like parties at all simply because I've lived a past and have seen the bad shit that happens at parties.. not every party goes like that i can understand that but like if you explained to your girl what has happened in your past and she still doesn't take to heart what you have witnessed and show any sort of break through to her that she must be careful... how tf would you react... I'm worried man.. she's currently now at a party while we speak and i cannot stress enough about her.. thankfully she keeps in touch but whyy is it necessary to put herself at risk in any way just to F# up your liver, watse money and meet people she doesn't need in her life... i have no problem with her meeting people but at least tell me who it is and what is his/hers intentions... as for the guy friends situation i don't mind it but why keep it away that her guy bestfriend has feelings for her

[Guy13]

So she’s having relations with other men and you are not married. Do you think you can survive it or have to leave. It sounds like you have given everything that one can give ⁉️

[SickB3atZ]

Bro this relationship has torn me apart in many ways.. in so many ways that i struggled to sleep or eat for 14days, i kept seeing and hallucinating her after not sleeping for about 4 days , i cried day in day out , my depression was so bad at one point i wanted to commit suicide, but my friends pulled me through and I'm again in this situation this time my heart is harder and my mind is stronger, everything i do is wrong in her eyes , i asked her a simple question and she can't give me a straight answer. The question:" WILL YOU WAIT FOR ME FOR 14 MONTHS TO SEE IF WE ARE MEANT FOR EACH OTHER GIVING US BOTH TIME TO GET ON OUR FEET AND BUILD A LIFE TOGETHER?" She can't give me a clear answer now she uses the excuse of being in depression to go to parties where i know bad shit happens...

[Guy13]

You know you are dating a bossy or dominant woman, right. Some would say Narcissist

[SickB3atZ]

Ehhh the problem is she's a totally different person in real life... one can describe her as a Online warrior... but yes i would agree with you it does feel like a narcissistic relationship

[Guy13]

Addicted, can't function without her, your feelings health, or whatever secondary and self-caused are pretty good signs. Counselor might be a good idea?

[SickB3atZ]

Yeah probably... thanks for giving your opion it means a lot to me, you have no idea.. its just strange how guys that's lived a past we've lived are so easily addicted to a person who show little to no care to anything you as an individual feel.. perhaps going back to who i was before i changed from bad to better was the worst mistake I've made

[Guy13]

I don't know man but best with it all. Definitely consuming and difficult.

[SickB3atZ]

Thank you will try and pull through as best i can as an individual and see where this horid thing we call life gets me to go... none of us are certain about our future but we can for sure try.. all the best @قبلیبلیبل

[Avicenna]

Don’t forget there’s two dudes to every story. That said, if the two of you aren’t in agreement on important issues like that, you should break up.

[In_Trance]

You're wrong

[SickB3atZ]

Okay so please explain to me why I'm wrong

[In_Trance]

First off if she wants to go to parties she doesn't need to give anyone else a reason. She does it because she wants to and that's all that matters.
So if you didn't have that conversation before you got involved with her that's on you.
Now I know you'll think that this is disrespectful to a certain degree when you're in a relationship and I happen to agree with you. All the more reason you need to have this conversation before you commit.
Secondly women have male friends for the same reason men have female friends... To keep their options open, validation, to know that someone else out there still thinks of them in a certain light.
You do this too. Everyone does.
If you fail to recognize that, that's on you too.