Is it considered creepy to approach a girl minding her own business in public and start talking to her because you find her attractive?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You notice how all these say “well it’s not creepy if you read my mind”. So basically you got the following 3 variables:

1. is she taken or not?

2. Is she having a bad day or not?

3. Last but not least does she find you attractive or not?

Yes two different guys can say the exact same thing, same tone and at the same time. Let’s just have a caveat that both guys kept the initial comment non-sexual (yet assertive)

One guy she will find cute and funny. The other guy will creep her out for the grave sin of being a unattractive stranger.

I know all of this because I have both been attractive and unattractive in my life. Ugly duckling in my junior high and HS freshman years. Then got into sports and conditioning and blossomed into athletic tall man. Enjoyed being always being considered “cute and handsome” all the way until my early 30s.

Now I’m 41. I am still in great shape but I am definitely not baby faced any more. Many women act much differently when I approach them vs even 10 years ago. Many of them really are that superficial. Even the grown ass ones in their 30s

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

If she’s interested in you, it’s not creepy. If she’s not interested in you, it’s creepy.

DeeDeeDeVour · Accepted Answer

When I need to be left alone in order to complete whenever task I was attending to, I politely requested that he/they respect my privacy. However, some guys were just insistent & inconsiderate. I consider those annoying rather than creepy.

When I wasn't very busy, I entertained a bit of banter and some serious discussions.

annabananna · Accepted Answer

It depends where I am. If I am in an area where I feel safe then I wouldn’t find it creepy at all and more open to strangers but if I’m walking on the street of New Orleans where a lot of stuff happens I’m on guard and more likely to find someone creepy.

Avicenna · Answer

No, but it should be done respectfully and you should not have expectations- just see how it goes

ShellyB · Answer

Simply doing this is not creepy it happens frequently. It CAN be creepy depending who does it or how it is done. It can also be scary in some situations. But it can also be flattering, funny or even lead to a date. My advice for guys trying this is, make sure you do not seem possibly dangerous, and if you can make her laugh that's a good idea. Also if you do not have this type of thing happen to you, try to imagine it and keep in mind that you are surprised every time and whoever walks up has been looking at you and planning a move so don't try to imagine how she will feel if she knows what is going on, try to imagine how she will feel when completely surprised with no idea what kind of guy you are.

MoniqueTLC · Answer

The act in itself is not creepy, it's just how you go about it. Don't stand there just staring at her a few metres away before you decide to speak to her. Approach with assertiveness and confidence like it's nothing new to you and you'll be okay.

Anonymous · Answer

I've approached women before (I no longer do so). About 99% were receptive. But it all comes down to whether you are attractive. Creepy is determined by her and that means as a man, you are giving your power away to every single woman you approach... because you are giving her the power to decide whether you keep your freedom or not:

Voldra · Answer

I would say yes unless she approaches me, touch, hovers around me or makes eye contact / smiles. Women give not so subtle ques to men that are aware of them, unfortunately no one teaches us this & most men need to develop their radar to understand this.

MiseriaCantareAFI · Answer

Prob. Unless you know her, even then it can be a little weird, depending

I once recognized a girl I went to high school with, at my college. I wasn't really a part of her clique but, I knew of her since she was in my graduating class. I went up to her to say hi but, i could tell she was like, yeah, not interested

Usually, she has to be giving you "come here", signs

Nikki1989 · Answer

Not at all creepy if handled with some class.

shaysh87 · Answer

its only creepy if she is not attracted to you

dustybiker · Answer

Maybe not if you approach her and casually say that. 😁

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

I say yes, but not if you get eye contact first and got her attention to start talking. If you however interrupt whatever she is doing, say reading a book... then yeah annoying and creepy.

Anonymous · Answer

everything's creepy unless she actually finds you attractive. You could approach a girl dresssed like a 2 dollar hooker at a club, do nothing except politely ask if she'd like to dance, and find your face/story plastered all over social media the next day as she tells the world how "creepy" you are. 😣

DaisyM23 · Answer

honestly, and i think this is maybe what everyone thinks but no one says, it depends on where you are, what you look like and what you say

Staximus · Answer

I think that all has to do with whether she finds you attractive or not, how you are looking at her, if you keep bothering her when she wants you to fuck off, what you are saying to her, etc etc etc

curlyfirecracker · Answer

It is flattering, but just don't be creepy about it.

sophiesouthxx · Answer

If she is wearing headphones or listening to music or looking down at her phone she won't want to be approached. Thats how I try to signal to others

exitseven · Answer

I voted no but the real answer is if you are a good looking guy it is not creepy but if you are short, fat and bald it most definitely is creepy.

Anonymous · Answer

No, but there are a lot of factors, such as where you are and how they are feeling. How you express your interest and interact with them in general is probably the most important part

MCheetah · Answer

No! F*ck the three b*tches on here who said otherwise!

Guy13 · Answer

Not to me upon proper introduction. I do it all the time

VanguardTitan · Answer

I don't know about creepy but goddamn that's anxiety inducing. How do you people actually go up to random strangers and strike up a conversation? I'd pass out from fear.

Stevefiveo · Answer

Just don't be creepy about it. You have read her and know that if she's not interested, to back off.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Wouldn’t say creepy but I feel like it’s intimidating as we are usually taller and she might feel in danger.

Anonymous · Answer

It used to be very normal. Now it’s creepy. Don’t talk to women fellas. They’ll just complain about it on Reddit or GaG.

genericname85 · Answer

If she thinks you're hot, then it's ok. If she thinks you're ugly, it's creepy.

MountAverage · Answer

It's all about HOW you do it. If you act awkward or creepy, then she will feel uncomfortable.

Wise4myage · Answer

No, because that's how a lot of people meet.

Anonymous · Answer

Do you have a dick and balls attached to your body? Then grab them and own your instincts be a man for fuck sakes quit putting the pussy on a pedestal

Fuentes · Answer

Today's age it can be or you'll end up on tiktok looking like your bothering her lol

Twalli · Answer

If it's at a sports bar or some such, then it, it's different.

Dreamclouds · Answer

No, it is perfectly normal to do that never be afraid to pursue what your heart tells you

Anonymous · Answer

It is if you have your dick out when you're doing it.

Yyyyu · Answer

Not really just leave after she say not interested

PetiteBabe64 · Answer

No unless The girl has a Weak mind

Robbey · Answer

Not necessarily.

Summeroflove · Answer

Depends on context.

TroyDT2 · Answer

Depends upon the girl and the location.

BJP21 · Answer

As long as you fallow basic etiquette.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

No... or at least it shouldn't be.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Didn’t people sued to do that all the time?

AddylynnNightingale · Answer

It's not go ahead.

NatalieIshereO · Answer

Not in my opinion

jamartheg · Answer

As long as you are rude to her it won’t be creepy

ThebestIndian · Answer

If girl likes to talk, it isn't creepy

Anonymous · Answer

It's only creepy if you're not attractive

Iron_Man · Answer

It’s weird

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