Is it considered creepy to approach a girl minding her own business in public and start talking to her because you find her attractive?

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Yes

No

[Anonymous]

You notice how all these say “well it’s not creepy if you read my mind”. So basically you got the following 3 variables:

1. is she taken or not?

2. Is she having a bad day or not?

3. Last but not least does she find you attractive or not?

Yes two different guys can say the exact same thing, same tone and at the same time. Let’s just have a caveat that both guys kept the initial comment non-sexual (yet assertive)

One guy she will find cute and funny. The other guy will creep her out for the grave sin of being a unattractive stranger.

I know all of this because I have both been attractive and unattractive in my life. Ugly duckling in my junior high and HS freshman years. Then got into sports and conditioning and blossomed into athletic tall man. Enjoyed being always being considered “cute and handsome” all the way until my early 30s.

Now I’m 41. I am still in great shape but I am definitely not baby faced any more. Many women act much differently when I approach them vs even 10 years ago. Many of them really are that superficial. Even the grown ass ones in their 30s

[Chazmatazz269]

If she’s interested in you, it’s not creepy.
If she’s not interested in you, it’s creepy.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

When I need to be left alone in order to complete whenever task I was attending to, I politely requested that he/they respect my privacy. However, some guys were just insistent & inconsiderate. I consider those annoying rather than creepy.

When I wasn't very busy, I entertained a bit of banter and some serious discussions.

[annabananna]

It depends where I am. If I am in an area where I feel safe then I wouldn’t find it creepy at all and more open to strangers but if I’m walking on the street of New Orleans where a lot of stuff happens I’m on guard and more likely to find someone creepy.

[Agagagagaga]

So it has nothing to do with the person but the environment. Interesting.

[annabananna]

For me it is mostly environment. Now if you come at me in a way that gives me a reason to be creeped out that’s different. I once had a guy who was persistent that I get in his car and asked me a bunch of weird questions that made me suspicious he had bad motives. That’s rare though and most men know not to act like that guy.

[Avicenna]

No, but it should be done respectfully and you should not have expectations- just see how it goes

[ShellyB]

Simply doing this is not creepy it happens frequently. It CAN be creepy depending who does it or how it is done. It can also be scary in some situations. But it can also be flattering, funny or even lead to a date. My advice for guys trying this is, make sure you do not seem possibly dangerous, and if you can make her laugh that's a good idea. Also if you do not have this type of thing happen to you, try to imagine it and keep in mind that you are surprised every time and whoever walks up has been looking at you and planning a move so don't try to imagine how she will feel if she knows what is going on, try to imagine how she will feel when completely surprised with no idea what kind of guy you are.

[MoniqueTLC]

The act in itself is not creepy, it's just how you go about it. Don't stand there just staring at her a few metres away before you decide to speak to her. Approach with assertiveness and confidence like it's nothing new to you and you'll be okay.

[Anonymous]

I've approached women before (I no longer do so). About 99% were receptive. But it all comes down to whether you are attractive. Creepy is determined by her and that means as a man, you are giving your power away to every single woman you approach... because you are giving her the power to decide whether you keep your freedom or not:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/PxuUkYiaUc8

[Voldra]

I would say yes unless she approaches me, touch, hovers around me or makes eye contact / smiles. Women give not so subtle ques to men that are aware of them, unfortunately no one teaches us this & most men need to develop their radar to understand this.

[MiseriaCantareAFI]

Prob. Unless you know her, even then it can be a little weird, depending

I once recognized a girl I went to high school with, at my college. I wasn't really a part of her clique but, I knew of her since she was in my graduating class. I went up to her to say hi but, i could tell she was like, yeah, not interested

Usually, she has to be giving you "come here", signs

[shaysh87]

its only creepy if she is not attracted to you

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

How can we assume

[shaysh87]

@captain-obvious

would you be turned on if an unattractive woman approached you?

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

I wouldn’t be creeped out

[shaysh87]

well if a girl doesn't find u attractive, you would be considered a "creep"

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

But why?

[shaysh87]

because she doesn't like it when unattractive guys hit on her.
you need to understand that the attractive girls tend to get hit on a lot. there is a good chance you're not the first guy who has approached her.

[shaysh87]

Imagine having a new people every week annoying you, bugging you for your phone number, not taking no for an answer. this is what its like. Life as a very attractive girl.

[dustybiker]

Maybe not if you approach her and casually say that. 😁

[Aerissa_Jade]

I say yes, but not if you get eye contact first and got her attention to start talking. If you however interrupt whatever she is doing, say reading a book... then yeah annoying and creepy.

[Anonymous]

everything's creepy unless she actually finds you attractive. You could approach a girl dresssed like a 2 dollar hooker at a club, do nothing except politely ask if she'd like to dance, and find your face/story plastered all over social media the next day as she tells the world how "creepy" you are. 😣

[DaisyM23]

honestly, and i think this is maybe what everyone thinks but no one says, it depends on where you are, what you look like and what you say

[Nikki1989]

Not at all creepy if handled with some class.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

What do you mean with class

[Truthatanycost]

It's code word for 'attractive' or 'good looking'

[Staximus]

I think that all has to do with whether she finds you attractive or not, how you are looking at her, if you keep bothering her when she wants you to fuck off, what you are saying to her, etc etc etc

[curlyfirecracker]

It is flattering, but just don't be creepy about it.

[sophiesouthxx]

If she is wearing headphones or listening to music or looking down at her phone she won't want to be approached. Thats how I try to signal to others

[exitseven]

I voted no but the real answer is if you are a good looking guy it is not creepy but if you are short, fat and bald it most definitely is creepy.

[Anonymous]

No, but there are a lot of factors, such as where you are and how they are feeling. How you express your interest and interact with them in general is probably the most important part

[MCheetah]

No! F*ck the three b*tches on here who said otherwise!

[Guy13]

Not to me upon proper introduction. I do it all the time

[VanguardTitan]

I don't know about creepy but goddamn that's anxiety inducing. How do you people actually go up to random strangers and strike up a conversation? I'd pass out from fear.