Are you afraid to approach a pretty girl?

Question

Guys, are you easily comfortable approaching a pretty girl you see knowing you can potentially be rejected? Would you rather pass the opportunity in getting to know her? And what makes a girl look unapproachable?

JSmuve · Accepted Answer

If I need something from her, like directions or something and no one else is around, then sure, I'll approach her with little issue because what I need is simple and not remotely related to her looks. I can get straight to the point, there's complete transparency, and its non-threatening to her. So I'd be completely comfortable.

If its approaching her because I find her attractive and want her number so I can eventually sleep with her, then that becomes more uncomfortable because there's no obvious path to get there. I first have to make small talk about something which can go up in flames because I don't enjoy it and it shows. So it becomes disingenuous and because she knows I didn't come to talk about the weather, she knows I've got ulterior motives, which makes her suspicious of me and more likely to reject me. But I can't be honest about my intentions, at least not immediately because she'll definitely reject me. And all this going in within earshot of a bunch of people makes the experience very uncomfortable.

There's plenty of stuff that makes a woman unapproachable. Avoiding eye contact, not smiling, arms crossed, being on her phone, listening to music, wearing a ring on her left ring finger, being with other people especially guys, walking fast, looking busy. All these things say stay away from me.

Knighted2170 · Accepted Answer

Nope. Not intimidated at all.

What’s she going to do? Tell me no? If I never talk to her it like getting a no to begin with. So really the only thing that could change my position in life is if she said yes.

I don’t see what the big deal is. Sure, she could be extraordinarily rude, so what. I already had no from the start. So why get butt hurt over it?

If I approach, I at least give her a chance to say yes to me. Now my life can go in a different direction. Give her a chance, she may just be waiting for me to walk up to her. You never know.

nomadia · Accepted Answer

Here the problem most guys have. Beautiful girls, well most of them are usually dating already and they may be scared of rejection. Sometimes they just dont because they know to themselves, hey this girl is beautiful and she'll never go out with me so what these guys do they get in the friend zone, and they hang around until they think they have a shot with u. Some advice for guys, always try out of ur league, cuz u never who has low self-esteem. Just kidding, but seriously, 90%of the time the beautiful girl dont get asked out cuz the thinks ur to beautiful to be attracted to them

Youryeodongsaeng · Accepted Answer

I’d say I’d never approach anyone unless I wanted to greet them. But I’d mostly wave, due to my shyness.

FranLimonade · Accepted Answer

Loll apparently most guys aren't. I've seen so many pretty girls with not-so-pretty guys.

LawrenceKen · Answer

Yes, but the opposite is true too.
Women feel intimidated by a good looking man.
I guess it sounds like a contradiction but there are a lot of attractive people who don't get approached, also it depends if you are shy and good looking because to some people you can come off as snobbish, because attractive people are automatically labeled to be extroverted and confident.

Truthatanycost · Answer

I've approached many girls, and most were responsive in a very positive way.

As for your question about what makes a girl approachable. When I used to approach, I didn't worry about that. I just approached any girl I found attractive. If they looked unapproachable, my approach would always warm them up... if they looked sad... it wouldn't be long till they were smiling from being around me.

However, I no longer see approaching girls as worthy of my time, so no longer do so. Fear has nothing to do with it...

BirdFan360 · Answer

Yes, I am afraid to approach a pretty girl. Dose that make me a wuss? Don't know. The reason is simple and can cause controversy: When someone is attractive, that very often comes with a slight flavor of arrogance. Not usually noticed by the person, but I find that trait unattractive. If the unicorn exists that is humble AND takes care of her appearance (I would do the same for her), then I'd be more brave and approach.

Thing is, I got me some physical problems so I know rejection is highly likely. (am 5'7)
I'm happy cheering from the sidelines. I can't be prince charming, but I can be this guy:

Are you afraid to approach a pretty girl?

T_Bonerism · Answer

Generally speaking, I get intimidated by most attractive females and typically either pass up on the chance, or just settle with only ever being friends because I don't want the rejection. I only ever consider asking people out that I know or have met a couple times, never strangers.

6lacier · Answer

Afraid.

Examples of unapproachable women:

-Marching down the street in high heels with her nose turned up
-Wearing headphones
-On her phone
-Not noticing you
-Resting bitch face/unsmiling
-With her friends
-Very confident and assertive
-Expensively dressed
-Busy-looking
-Bad mood

alvincasey · Answer

Yes. It has to do with the social culture where I live. It's commonly referred to as the "Seattle Chill". People out here are very polite but not very friendly.
It's not just pretty girls. People out here get weirded out anytime they are spoken to by a stranger other than transactional reasons

nathanp97 · Answer

No, at least for me I try to make excuses not to approach girls. For example, she is out of my league, she probably has a boyfriend, etc... and the better looking a girl is the easier it is to make the excuses. It isn't a fear of approaching pretty girls it is the fear of rejection which occurs more frequently if they are out of your league.

Adam1978 · Answer

Its not so much about her being pretty, its the same with approach anyone you know nothing about, it so easy to not act while any type of approach can quickly blow up in your face today. And it feels like that there is no safe way to query interest to day from a attractive stranger.

VikingWarLord · Answer

In this #MeToo and #TimesUp era, I rarely approach any females in America.

But over in Southeast Asia like the Philippines, I am treated like a KING (I have blonde hair and blue eyes and 6'2 ~ These chics love me there). Any other White American dudes, I advise to go there, you won't ever wanna come back. You can get 5 bitches A NIGHT there just for being a white American.

Seket · Answer

Just a greeting and friendzone is fine. If things can go well, I'll definitely go for romance even with the risk of rejection.

My definition of unapproachable would be if she is annoyed by something. Thickness of her wallet or the shine from her wheels won't hold me back.

Stingray444 · Answer

Yea, Not because I think I don't look good, (I think I look cool 😜) but just naturally seeing a cute girl makes me nervous lol

Also, I assume that very cute girls already have BFs... And if she's with a dude (brother, boyfriend, friend, etc.) Then I would even try not to glance at her, assuming that it's her boyfriend, and it's not worth starting anything lol...

somewhatsentient · Answer

Yeah i dont approach anyone after being rejected as much as i have been. If you're interested in someone as the girl you should make the move. Girls can get away with stuff like that way easier than a guy can.

I once was walking down the street and passed a girl and her friend and said "hey, you're very pretty" and she yelled "RAPE" and then laughed and ran away with her friend... soooo yeah guys probably won't make the first move very often with girls like that out there.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I used to run the other direction from someone I was attracted to, so yes. Now, I will, if I feel good. If I don't feel "up", I won't.

What makes you look approachable is that you look approachable:) e. g. you look like you are a nice person.

man_with_a_pan · Answer

Yes & no, depending on whether the guy's an f***boy or not. F***boys always go for the prettiest girls first, while the nice guys and others are more shy, thinking the pretty girl bring out of their league or already having a boyfriend (which in most cases is true)

Psynax · Answer

If the person has something I notice as beneficial and can earn something from, the looks means nothing and it won't stop me from trying to get what I want.

Cleerlakesnake · Answer

A girl saying no isn't a soul crushing rejection. It is literally the fastest and easiest way to look for a better match. My advice to guys, especially the easily hurt by rejection types... Keep moving while she is still fumbling through polite "no" options and absolutely walk away mid sentence if it's rude. She may be great, maybe not. You caught the nah... Move on.

Curmudgeon · Answer

Yes, and any younger guy who says he is not is a liar, unless he has been through a lot at a young age. The older and more experienced one is, the less it matters.

UglyestGuyEver · Answer

i wouldn't say im afraid to, its just id rather not, i know im not very attractive to many girls at all, or at least i feel im not, i have probably like a 30 percent success rate and im not willing to risk trying to flirt with her, also i would feel very uncomfortable and wouldn't really know what to say,
if 1 of my friends dared me to approach her though id do it no problem, im not scared

TheKack · Answer

Yes i get very nervous around women if I'm interested in them. If I go into it with the idea that I'm there to be acquaintances or friends, I'm fine. Rejection, especially when you've been single as long as me, is scary as hell.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

For reasons of my personal safety I don't approach females.

Shy_Steve · Answer

Definitely not probably because i get anxiety and have trouble approaching most people i do not know.
Usually if she is not really smiling then i would steer clear or if she is frustrated with something, But even then if she was smiling i would not approach.

nostalgicanalyst · Answer

Well I am a sort of egotist if I feel that girl is a little arrogant about her looks I might rather step on her than approach her... thee thing is body language plays a vital role and I don't see if I just approach for a conversation why would I be rejected from talking to her and yeah having a wicked sense of humour helps you talk to any girlif I get good vibes then why would I approach her but the thing is I suck at pickup lines.

Landshrk0068 · Answer

Why would I be afraid? The worst that can happen is she'll say no. Rejection happens everyday, to everyone, A LOT. It's not the fucking end of the world, your life, will, and does go on.

JimboGB · Answer

Not in the slightest, worst thing that can happen is she says, no. Then you remember there is plenty more fish in the sea and the earth is full of water lol

Zaylahdi · Answer

Not exactly comfortable , depends on the eye of the beholder as most say, but if thought she was attractive I'd give it a shot regardless of rejection idm. A lot of makeup , revealing clothes , a lip filler makes a girl to me unapproachable

BestUserName100 · Answer

Hell yes. It’s like you walk up all confidenent like then when you get close, you quickly turn around and walk the other way.

Edanurus · Answer

I wouldn't say comfortable, its a lot like a job interview in that respect not going to lose my cool over it but I'd rather the interview was over so I can get on to thw actual job.

Billy96 · Answer

Well in school ik some girls were kinda like out of me league They seemed like stuck up Like their $hit don't stink 🙄

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Yeah. I'm not the kind if guy to just approach someone like that.

crazy8000 · Answer

Why should I be that? It's just a person just like anyone else.

blutwolfe · Answer

well I would never approach you and waste my time knowing I would most likely get rejected unless there is some clear signs

TeenMale15 · Answer

To me, a girl looks unapproachable if I think she's too good for me. I have somewhat low self esteem, so the only thing holding me back is the fact that I never feel like i'm good enough.

TripleAce · Answer

I generally don't approach anyone unless its clear she's noticing me... I mean why would I approach a girl that doesn't even look my way lol

cengizakın · Answer

I used to be uncomfortable approching beautiful girls. Now I see that comfortable guys get the girls even if they are not handsome. So guys feel free to approch any girl.

Skipperben11 · Answer

I don't know. I hate rejection and I'm generally pretty shy

AcidT0y · Answer

Nope we're all just people. I don't take rejection personally, not everyone can be interested

Liam_Hayden · Answer

No. I have no fear of rejection. You never get a hit if you don't swing.

savalisk · Answer

As a guy I have to admit, approaching gets easier the more you attempt it. I find age has given me more confidence.

Anonymous · Answer

Fucking terrified. I've got a general inability to interact with other people in way that isn't painfully awkward anyway, but added to that the fact I've got the face of a potato and a body like a plastic bag full of mayonnaise means that I'm not the most confident man around

Anonymous · Answer

Um yeah definitely, it's all about the guys insecurities and thinking the girl is better looking than him without thinking about how SHE perceives HIM, I do it to myself all the time knowing I'm going to regret not asking but then I end up not asking (for number and/or date)

Jager66 · Answer

I don't approach women at random with the goal of romance, I need more than "how she looks" to want to pursue anything with her.

GhostMochi · Answer

No, I'm afraid to approach a mean kitty cat in my driveway.

Rangers · Answer

No, but it's a bit pointless because they're always taken

clampfan101 · Answer

To be honest, yes. I’m shy, hard on myself, and feel like every pretty girl is already dating. (Not saying they say yes too easily, just “how could no one have asked yet?”)

iFarted · Answer

I only approach if the girl gives me hints/signals of acknowledgement.

Stayhomenaked · Answer

I don’t approach a girl unless she smiles first. That’s the initial clue I can at least say hi.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t approach. I’m sorry but so many women say guys approaching them is creepy it’s best to just let the women approach guys don’t find it creepy it makes sense for the women to do the approaching

Chimang77 · Answer

No. The wisest thing my father told me was that the prettiest girls are the most lonely. It gave me the utmost confidence

flaminhotcheetos · Answer

hecc im a girl and I'm still afraid of pretty girls 😭

GreenGold1992 · Answer

Very afraid, it took me 2 months to approach a very pretty girl at the mental health office I work at

JaydenKays · Answer

I do get scared approaching a pretty girl feels like she will reject you telling you , you are not my class

Anonymous · Answer

Never. I was actually more motivated.  To me, a girl was unapproachable if she was not single or appeared unfriendly/full of herself.

Juxtapose · Answer

I befriend them first regardless unless I *KNOW* they are as slutty as I am :P And if she's rude or uninterested, I'm out.

Lance1965 · Answer

Nope but things can turn me off from approaching like walking through a store with a small army of kids for example.

DDpsy · Answer

Yes. pretty girls are a dime a dozen I can pass the opportunity of getting to know them quite easily for whatever reason I see fit.

hard4u81 · Answer

Never be afraid, be nervous, I will always approach a girl I think is pretty...

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I just don't know what to say. I have really hard time with this. Just not to long ago I wanted to talk to a girl at Wal-Mart but just had no idea what to say.

winterfox10 · Answer

No, but I don't bother approaching women these days. I let them come to me, with phenomenal results.

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