How do you approach a woman without looking like a creep or making her feel randomly uncomfortable?

[torossia1171]

I go to university and there's a lot of women there and I want to talk to one and hopefully develop a friendship that becomes a relationship and we get to have some fun times with each other, my fear is that I'm 5'4 ft tall and 120 pounds and I'm white and living in the United states I get the impression that guys who look like me don't fit the Western male beauty standard (being tall and über muscular and having an aggressive personality and being dark skinned), I have aspergers but I know how to have a conversation with anyone but I have this feeling in the back of my mind that they will not have any interest in wanting to interact or communicate with me and all I would do is introduce myself and if she's alone sitting somewhere I'd ask if a seat next her is taken and I'd she says no then I'll initiate a conversation and ask about her experience at college and keep it vanilla and if we vibe then I'll ask for her number and see if she gives it to me and we hang out.

[Femphile_xoxo]

Hey, don't doubt yourself! If I was in your position I would just simply get to know them. I'm sorry, I'm someone who naturally makes friends. Just simply sit somewhere random and start a conversation. Talk to someone in the coffee shop if you see she's reading something interesting. Just treat them like any dude.
Sorry if this isn't really helpful!! What I'm trying to say is, just get out there! The best way to create a friendship that later turns into a relationship is to just simply have a bunch of friendships. If you find you're interested in one of them and you think there's a chance she might be interested in you, ask if she wants to go out as a date sometime. If she says no, it might be a bit awkward for a bit but if your friendship is strong enough you can reset if not, oh well.

(basically, just put yourself out there!! and good luck!!! )

[_pinkme]

Being dark skinned? Where did you get the impression that being dark skinned was a standard of beauty? It can’t be a standard of beauty because racism is a systematic issue. Sure black culture is glorified and people steal it but on black people, black culture isn’t seen in a position light

[torossia1171]

Then how do you explain blacked. com or the white and black women who exclude white slim young guys like me from socializing?

[_pinkme]

@torossia1171 I don’t think it’s anything personal. Since systematic racism exists on all levels of government and civilian life, I think, in black spaces, black people feel safer with black people. For example, when white people would call the cops (who is known for killing black people for fun) on black people just for doing something simple like walking, or dancing, etc. It’s a dangerous situation

I don’t know what blacked. com is

[torossia1171]

But why is that an excuse to disenfranchise me from socializing with women?

[_pinkme]

@torossia1171 Not an excuse, more like safety. It’s literally a life and death situation

I personally don’t exclude anyone unless they’re Republican

[torossia1171]

That's still a stupid teenager shit thing to do.

[_pinkme]

@torossia1171 Actually it isn’t stupid because Republicans are sexist and are against human rights for certain people. They’re bad people so why would I want to be friends with people like that

[Anonymous]

the best way to not seem creepy is to take no for an answer when it’s said (lots of guys pretend they don’t know what that means), also smile and talk about similar interests.

[torossia1171]

I don't have a problem with taking no for an answer, my concern is if she overeacts

[Secret6620]

Just be yourself and don't fear rejection. It will be difficult at first but practice makes perfect.

[Anonymous]

Be charming

[torossia1171]

What do you call "charming"? Or at least elaborate.