My boyfriend just called me useless and heartless?

[Anonymous]

I have been crying for 3 hours my boyfriend wants me to donate money to orphan kids, but i dont have as much money as he wants me to donate, i said i really want to help, he said i dont and started insulting me then he said we shouldn't be in relationship anymore i apologized 30 times he said no what hurt the most were the insults him saying im heartless and only care for myself and that he wants to find the right woman because me not donating means im not the right woman for him

[Charlesbrandonf]

It’s good. He called you that which is 100 true because it’s so useless to show feelings and love to someone who don’t see you as a human.


He is right you’re not right for him. He acts like he is good and now you’re bad? Why can’t he make money and donate his money to orphans. What the fuck. Empty pockets always talk about donating.


He absolutely right you should not be with him, who insults you and gets mad over donation to orphans thinking you’ve money. Let’s see how good is he ask him to make money and give to orphans. And tell him you’ll learn from him.


I don’t see bill gates or Elon musk donating half of their to orphans.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for the answear. Well he didn't hurt me only yesterday, he hurt me before that too. I said to him one time to just dump me he refused he said "don't worry, won't leave you, we will bond" Then yesterday he started the discussion again about orphan kids we had it week ago he said so I look good infront of his family if i donate. Then I said I will not he just said let's end our relationship that we don't fit together that he don't want make mistake in his life I ignored him he then sent 😞this emoji. Then hour later he texted me like nothing happened that he wants video chat with me

[Lliam]

Wow. You dodged a bullet. Celebrate. The guy is a brute. Imagine how horrible he would be if you were married.

He is also irresponsible with money if he wants you to give away more than you can afford.

A "boyfriend" has NO right to tell you how to spend YOUR money. It's your right to decide not only how much or IF you want to donate to charity at this time, but also WHICH charity or charities you wish to help. A boyfriend has a right to discuss and share opinions, but he has no right to dictate your choices.

Calling you useless and heartless is cold blooded. It demonstrated how heartless HE is. And calling you useless shows how much he appreciates you.
Don't take it to heart. His opinion is valueless.

[Smashingdoozy]

Why is he still your boyfriend. Sounds like a controlling dick who you're better off without

[misfittoy]

orphans? meaning donate to him because im not buying his BS, dump him he's the useless one

[Guy13]

Threatening and Gaslighting is not good.

[Asker]

Aside that he said i'm the only woman he talks to but seeing his instagram he follows 100 different woman

[Asker]

Honestly he just went and destroyed me with words as much as he can before yesterday he complained saying im losing interest and ask me what i find good about him then today this this orphan kid thing we left the discussion 2 week ago today he start again

[Onlyonceatime]

@guy13 is right. He is gaslighting you probably because he wants the money for himself or something. The guy sounds like a degenerate.

[RavVid]

Well there is discretionary expenditure and then there is rent. First do you have any discretionary income?

That he wants to give to a worthwhile charity is a noble thing. But he should recognize that your income might not support that. One person's dollars are not another persons dollars.

I am donating to Ukraine. I cannot do as much as I would like to but i have committed to myself to do so every fortnight as i am paid. It does mean I go without but I don't begrudge that.

If he is trying to make you give more than you possibly can than he is being a dick. If you could but would prefer tonot forgo the coffees than maybe he has a point.

[Asker]

He wants me to pay to charity but only so I get "closer" to his family. Believe me, if i had the money i would pay i try to help everywhere as much as can but im not finanically stable yet i am a student he puts me under pressure

[RavVid]

Not so noble then if it is just to be "closer". It is selfish of him is now my opinion.

[HighValue]

People should prioritize their own family and themselves FIRST over any strangers. Only help others if you want to AFTER you are doing well yourself.

It seems to me like he is using it as an excuse to cause the relationship to end because he wants to be with others/sleep around and he wants some excuse to blame it on you when the relationship ends even though he is the one in the wrong here.

I'd suggest you leave him.

[BJP21]

Thats gaslighting and emotional abuse, my foot up his ass sideways. There are other ways to help than just donating money.

[Asker]

He's not hurting me with words the first time he says very often that he's insecure about me if I'm the right woman in his life and that he don't want to make a mistake was all this he said after hurting me then now one hour ago he text me acting like nothing happened

[Asker]

But this is also the man to whom I said just lets end this relationship he refused saying he wants to bond with me and that im destroying my mind with exessive thoughts

[Cuddlekisser]

Sounds he is searching a reason to end the relationship and he didn't find a better excuse. I am sorry.

[Asker]

If only lol. This is the man who worried that if I didn't text long, means I lost interest. The man who was destroying himself, when I left him for 2 week alone. The man who said please dont take my heart and leave, the man who said when i said just end the relationship no i will not we will bond. Honestly looking back, big ouch

[Cuddlekisser]

Hmmm I see... It seems I honestly have to confess that there are people out there I am by any means unable to understand... :(

[Danny_dan92]

This guy shouldn’t be your boyfriend.


If he wants to donate money to orphans it should be HIS money. Tf? I don't know who he thinks he is where he can control your finances like this.


Fucken piece of shit honestly

[Batsy01010101]

did he donate? how much? look times are tough donate if you have it if not then don't. me i donate whenever i can and have the extra to but i'm not going to make myself go broke doing it in the process

[Asker]

He wants me to donate, so I leave a good impression on his family. If i have the money I would donate without anyone having to tell me I help whereever i can

[boggboss]

So you are in a abusive relationship and he wants ti end it I say go for it

[Asker]

Yes honestly he just went and destroyed me with words as much as he can before yesterday he complained saying im losing interest and ask me what i find good about him then today this this orphan kid thing we left the discussion 2 week ago today he start again

[boggboss]

U need to end this relationship

[Asker]

He just texted me recently acting like nothing happened

[Anonymous]

First of all, how dare your boyfriend call you useless and heartless right out the gate. Wouldn't you have to cheat on him to be called such names? Second of all, you know good in well what he's totally stupid about and that's your financial situation. If you don't have the money, way the hell is he forcing you to donate? He's the useless and heartless one! Not you! If anything, dumb his butt and find someone that'll respect you!

[Dinosaursandanime65]

People self project all the time, balance Willa being peace

[Yellovv]

If he know you don't have enough money for that why he is keep pushing you for that, dump him..

[Cheerfull009]

Convince him that you like to donate but not now because of money, tell him , you will donate when you will have money

[spartan55]

Where do girls find these turds?

[Anonymous]

Let's see the bright side. No one can ever use you if you're useless

[Luckycharms12]

Why doesn't he donate his money

[Reesi]

Sorry that happened