What are your expectations from a guy while dating and in a relationship?

[athelete_7]

[xJeremyx]

I'm a guy, so here are my expectations for myself when I am in a relationship.

1. Humility. This is something I have struggled with most of my life, and I am trying to be more humble.

2. Respect for both my partner and myself. I have to respect my partner and her boundaries, her desires, her opinions and habits, but I also have to realise when those do not line up with what I want in a relationship with a woman. I need to respect myself and be able to get out of situations that are harmful to me.

3. Open communication. I expect myself to tell her exactly what I want and feel, and I want the same from her.

4. Validating her emotions and expressing mine better. I want her to know that her emotions are respected by me, and I want to help her to help me with my own emotional problems.

5. Putting in effort. I expect myself to match the level of effort she is putting into the relationship.

6. Quality time and good expression of love. I would expect myself to spend time with her and to get to know her love languages, as well as letting her know my own. So we can love each other better.

There probably are others, but these are the ones that I can think of right now.

[Hairylegs222]

Great question. Here for answers. Surprised no one has said making her laugh. Seems like I always have to be a comedian when dating or in a relationship to keep that good vibe going and her hopefully staying in a good mood.

[Steamnir]

I expect if he doesn't like me to end it fast and to know what he wants and what he doesn't want.
to be obvious and straight forward and not be too emotional when he get rejected

to act like a man and leave emotions and drama for women

to not prolong decisions when it comes to staying or leaving

To always say what he thinks instead of doing stuff that makes me question his behavior

Being respectful and tolerant and aware of etiquette is out of question

[Monalisa77]

Ridiculous, men can be emotional too. If you say that to a man they will likely end up dead

[Steamnir]

@Monalisa77 you dont want to be with a man who can't control his emotions or defined as emotional, u as a woman who would end up dead. Being emotional means you can't control your behavior, if you give emotions to a strong physique like a man, he will kill you or hurt you.

[Monalisa77]

Of course i dont want them crying all the time, but to say someone can't be emotional at all is ridiculous. I think a sensitive guy is fine. For eg when my brother thinks he will lose his kids due to his ex, he can't be emotional?

[Monalisa77]

Lol thats even more ridiclous to geneeralize, if anything an angry man who xant show emotion will end up killing u, theyll lash out if theyre not allowed to show emotion

[Steamnir]

@Monalisa77 you mean being sad then, cause emotional means excessive expression of emotions and men shouldn't be like that, they need to be strong, life won't make an emotional man survive as a lot of shit happens during life, if u give yourself to expressing emotions for long and not solving it, you won't win at life

[Monalisa77]

No thats not right, when i saw my brother crying over it i didn't think of him any less of a man. You can't force people to shut down their emotion
My mother is very cold and i find that very hard to deal with she never shows emotion

[Monalisa77]

Depression is very common in men, 3 of my family members died from depression who were men. Its actually very rare to find females with depression, or rather they cover it up better

[Steamnir]

@Monalisa77 your brother is expressing sadness over losing his kids, they are part of him and thats pretty serious, what i mean is expressing excessive emotions over losing me for example, when we know each other for two month, or when i make him mad, he become too angry uncontrollably. I dont like excessive expression of emotions, and your brother isn't the right example for this right now

[Monalisa77]

Angry is different and i agree your situation is ott, but for instances like my brother or losing a loved one, crying shouldn't be shamed no matter what gender

[xJeremyx]

Honestly, regardless of gender, we all need a good grasp on our emotions. Its not wrong to have them, neither is it wrong to express them, but we need to know very clearly how to properly express them without harming the people around us, be it verbally, physically or mentally.

And remember, we should only expect from our partners what they can feasibly accomplish.

It is not wrong to want a man (or woman, in my case) with certain qualities, and it is our personal choice whether we want to accept a person as our partner, based on their faults and strengths.

So, it is not wrong to want a man or woman who is in control of his/her emotions, but it is morally questionable when one wants a partner who does not express his/her emotions. Thats harmful.

I think what @Steamnir means is that she does not want a man who attaches his emotions all over anything and everything, and losing his cool over spilt milk, and I agree. I wouldn't want a woman like that either.

[sweet-chocolate]

I expect a lot of laughter, Date/Game nights, Him cooking for me from time to time lol, Forehead kisses, CHOCOLATEEEEE, 'I love you's, Cuddles, and Gifts (preferably novels).

He should also look after me ( physically, mentally, etc) the same way I'll be looking after him. I want someone who adds to my happiness & is willing to explore stuff with me.

[jennifer_bloom]

I expect respect and attention and curiosity about my life - I need both of us to have and respectful, clear and fair boundaries - and I prefer a guy that is funny and affectionate and thoughtful.

[Guy13]

Loyalty priority and time together

[Paulalove98]

Someone who’s respectful, kind, loyal, caring& a thoughtful person overall, also makes the effort to make time for me and make me smile as I do the same for him.

[BlueScorpio]

Be sweet, a little romantic, easy to talk to, loves cuddles, likes spending time with each other.

[18Uma21]

Manly
Masculine
Intimidating
I want everyone to be intimidated by him
Confident
Tough
Witty
Charismatic
Workaholic
(In private I want him to be playful)

I want him to make me feel big and proud

[Anonymous]

I expect him to treat me as well as I treat him. I expect him to be loyal, honest and kind, but to act like a man. I don't need an emotional, dramatic woman with a penis.

[Alexa41991]

Respect, communication, loyalty, understanding, a lot of love and just to enjoy each other's company always!!

[dustybiker]

Never expect anything. Only setting yourself up. If you must you should offer first what you want in return.

[xJeremyx]

Excellent. Simply excellent.

[dustybiker]

@xJeremyx Thank you.

[AsaKyo]

Don't lie to me about being in love with me, I guess?

[whereismyjohnny]

I expect him to be honest, loyal, respect me and communicate.

[AliciaLee]

Honesty, Loyalty, and Respect make for a strong relationship to prosper.

[WhitneySnow]

Respect loyalty and that he really cares about me

[DancingQueen16]

I want them to respect my boundaries and not get insanely jealous if I just talk to another male

[melloncolliehills]

Exclusivity
Thoughtfulness
Support
Companionship
Respect
Intimacy
Attention

[AddylynnNightingale]

No cheating.

[athelete_7]

Thats bare minimum tbh

[AddylynnNightingale]

Sure is. I figured the others will mention the other things I'm looking for. We're not that different.

[athelete_7]

True most peeps have similar expectations

[AddylynnNightingale]

You directed it to just us, but I'm sure guys have similar wishes. I'm just looking at the first comment when scrolling. Dear jennifer's comment. You'd like those qualities in your partner too, wouldn't you say?

[athelete_7]

Yep. I am loyal and expect loyality. 😅 i feel thats unsaid when u commit to someone or something. Its so bare minimum that it is expected unsaidly.

[AddylynnNightingale]

I know right! So Imma stick with the lame "No cheating".

[athelete_7]

🫂🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝. wasn't calling u lame 😅 . I just said it is expected from every relationship. ( without even saying )