Girls, whats the bare minimum you expect from a man you're dating?

[Anonymous]

[DizzyDesii]

His presence needs to be consistent. We need to communicate in some form daily but do not need to see eachother daily/weekly. We need to feel safe and comfortable with one another and be able to confide in eachother. We need to be sexually/physically/emotionally attracted to one another and not afraid of showing affection/vulnerability/pda. We need to be able to state our goals and intentions, come to an agreement and stand on it. We both need to be respectful and he needs to be a great listener. We need to have common interests/hobbies OR if different, it needs to grab the intention of the other. Like my dude is into stuff that although I’m not trying to take on, I love watching him partake in it

[Asker]

U have a new man?

[DizzyDesii]

The same one these past few months

[Asker]

I thought u broke up

[DizzyDesii]

For a few hours

[Asker]

What did he do

[DizzyDesii]

Became an overthinking indecisive nervous wreck after a vulnerable moment between us

[Asker]

That's childhood trauma from his parents and teachers saying shit like "say yes ma'am" after saying "yes".

[DizzyDesii]

His dad was worse than that and his boss is nearly as bad as his dad. he's not used to being able to speak for himself because he was always biting his tongue. And when he does speakup, he doubts his dominance and backs down and becomes indecisive. It can be frustrating at times.

[Asker]

I try to protect my nephew from that treatment. Next time I'm just going to cause a scene and tell him he doesn't have to do or say anything he doesn't feel he has to for any good reason

[DizzyDesii]

I can't even get this guy to standup to his racist dad nor his boss who threatens to fire him anytime he tries to defend himself.

[Asker]

That's because there Is a "power" in submission. A false power for people who do not believe in freedom. People like that have a "logical" mind. But rhere couldn't be anything less logical than denying the validity of self serving emotions

[DizzyDesii]

I like submissive dudes, but he's not submissive with me at all. I’m like the only time he feels dominant and I don't know why because I’m also dominant. I only become submissive depending on sexual acts. I don't know why he won't tell his dad to fck off but i know for his boss, its because he's so close to his goal of starting his own business but has to finish up dealings with this man first. Just sucks because he's looking at 2-3 more years working for this guy

[Asker]

a lot of people think there's a "boss" and there are "employees". They have It all backwards. There is simply freedom. The "boss" is merely a person who can promote and enhance other people's freedom.

[DizzyDesii]

Great indication

[Asker]

We should be friends

[DizzyDesii]

I’d never fuck a friend so sure

[Asker]

I'm a demon 😈

[DizzyDesii]

I dont mess with demons in general so friendship terminated. It officially lasted less than an hour. Smh

[kylee2437]

I expect him to be open. Be open about communication, efforts, feelings, his wants/needs , etc. actions need to match words. It drives me up the wall when a guy says he wants a relationship but he can’t even ask me out on a date and makes communication hard.

[Asker]

So you expect him to call and text and then take you on an interesting date... then smash good

[kylee2437]

He has to earn his way to that ☺️ will most likely give into sex only if a guy suggests dating in question first

[Asker]

Everyone has to earn their relationship status but yea I can make it go faster than normal with the right words unleashing ur pent up sexual desire

[kylee2437]

If you are a grown woman - words don’t excite us

[kylee2437]

You have it easy with girls your age but once you keep getting older - good luck with that

[Asker]

Maybe u don't have any pent up needs then. I feel like I could talk my way into ur pants tho

[Asker]

Oh yea u want money nowadays? Problem is u aren't a prude and when the times right u gonna have that sex

[kylee2437]

What 18 year old has money? Lol I wouldn’t of to an 18 year old for all that and grown women that do are insane

[MzAsh]

Hypothetically speaking for dating, he’d have to demonstrate that he has brains, listening skills, communication skills, polite and respectful, and not give any signals that he’s a bigot or has any major personality flaws.

[Asker]

Lmfao you sound like you got white gloves on and you're about to do an inspection

[MzAsh]

Maybe I am 😂

[Raeannox]

Self awareness, competence, comprehension, open and transparent communication, chivalry, thoughtfulness, secure and confident within himself, sex positive and self-development.

[moconnell]

my bar is so low. he just has to not be a shitty person and actually respect me and my feelings,

[Anonymous]

Good dick.

[Asker]

Nah you also expect him to approach, be entertaining, etc. Be real.