Is it hard sharing your life with someone after you been single for so long? Do women don't want to date virgins because it's a hassle?

[poneglyphs]

I been single all of my life and was wondering is it hard opening up or letting a stranger into your life? What challenges do I face because I'm such a late bloomer? Is that also why women find virgins a turn off because they have to teach them everything?

[quaranta]

It can be hard, yes. You get used to be single and you might fear losing your autonomy, getting overwhelmed when things are too rushed for you (and for you, any pace might feel rushed). I am single from really a lot of years but I had a lot of experiences before quitting. I'm right now dating 1 person and I feel really afraid to lose my autonomy now, but I'm working on that.
I personally find virgins (of any age) a turn off but that's not because of quality of sex at all. It's because if they never seen women then I'd have to deal with the same insecurities I had in my teenage when I had to do with guys who could find me ugly or unattractive, or who would give mixed signals, because they are just not "prepared" to the real thing, expecting things to be much more "perfect" and not realistic. They didn't shape their sexuality around the flaws they might encounter later in life. So I don't want to feel ugly or "not enough" and all those things I naturally felt in teenage and which are happily something that belongs to the past, and this is why I'd avoid virgins first of all.
Another reason is not about being virgin but about having no relationship experiences, which means no developed skills in knowing himself during conflicts, handling conflicts, keeping things balanced in the relationship (avoiding to get clingy or playing silent games), managing boundaries, jealousy, and communicating discomforts without passive aggression but actual rational addressing. Many (and many more) skills are now (in my early 30s) absolutely fundamental for me to be interested in any relationship because I had enough of dealing with some problems I faced in my early 20s already, so, someone without any experience sounds like a dangerous pick to be involved with for me now.
Said that, this is me, but that doesn't mean other women would have any problem with these points. Afterall you see even women in their 30s getting into completely abusive relationships with total d***heads with the communication skills of a screaming baby (or lacking those skills themselves too), and women 30+ having objectively poor sexual experiences with their husbands (because of the woman too, not just the man).
Another prejudice (not mine) could be that women could wonder why you had no experiences, what's behind that, if you were extremely stubborn/mgtow/sexist, if you were extremely insecure, if you are a strictly religious person, etc. Generally it doesn't mean good things, so I think you should get to explain them why, if they ask, with something that doesn't sound like a red flag.
So what happens to you is only that -some- girls might have prejudices like I do, but not all of them, just your pool may be restricted a bit but afterall you'll end up with one girl, not 100. And I think the best pick should be someone who is at your same stage, so, a woman who is either a virgin too or had only 1-2 timid experiences, and who had no big flirts so far. Perhaps, that would mean most likely she is much younger than you. So in my opinion your target should be specific to the page you are now, not aiming to girls around your age unless they had equivalent experience too (of course it could work anyway but I'd see less chances).

[poneglyphs]

That's knda hard, for me I have been a virgin because of insecurities, not thinking I'm good enough, don't have lots of successful dates, and being broke most of the time. Probably a red flag for most women. 😕😕😕

Yeah, I don't have any relationship experience or know how to handle anything you told me about 🥺🥺🥺

[quaranta]

Well I guess you should date girls with no/few experiences (which means probably much younger) and not through dating apps because they just harm your self esteem more and are not made for slowly knowing each other. I think it should go better by friends of friends, colleagues, people at gym/courses etc. Sure you can keep staying on dating apps but you have to resist getting meant like a "product" to compare to others, and ghosted, turned down etc. Some men just quit dating apps because it objectively harms their confidence. It doesn't reflect their real value and the apps are not made to follow natural ways to know and like each other, but objectify people and promote toxic communication.

[LazerBean]

There are plenty of women who prefer versions, but most of them are religious so unless you are also religious they probably will not accept you.

[poneglyphs]

I'm not religious

[exitseven]

Are you still wearing that T-shirt that says "I Am A Virgin"? I thought I told you to throw it in the trash. It will not matter to anyone. Do not make it a thing.

And yes, I was alone for a long time before I met my wife. I got used to it. Probably a little too used to it. I could be selfish at times and there were times when I neglected to tell her what was going on with me. It became problematic. My wife used to call it the lonesome cowboy routine. She did not like it.

[poneglyphs]

If you mean anime shirts I do but only to bed. I see 😇

[exitseven]

if you find a girl to go to bed with you, lose the t-shirt.

[poneglyphs]

Aww okay 🥺

But it's comfy

[exitseven]

Thank you for the MHO😎

[Avicenna]

There will be a lot for you to get used to. If a woman really likes you, she won't care.

[poneglyphs]

True, but I have to find a woman first

[Avicenna]

Are you willing to date a fat and ugly one?

[RealMarek]

How difficult it is to live with someone depends on you and the woman. It can be horrible. It can be great. Virginity doesn’t have much to do with it.

[poneglyphs]

Hmm, I see.

[NathanDavis]

the fact that you think or see it like you have to be taught by a woman is in itself trouble enough

most women do not want a 20, 30, or 40 year old baby... they want a man, lol

[poneglyphs]

Oh, well, it's not like I know what women want or expectations? I don't know how to date or let alone be in a relationship?

[NathanDavis]

maybe it's time to get a professional therapist

[poneglyphs]

Uhh, why?

[NathanDavis]

because you need some serious help... and commitment to it

[poneglyphs]

Uhh, I do? But why tho?

[NathanDavis]

because just recently you surpassed the one thousand questions... and 90% of them are

"how do I get laid easily with absolutely no effort from my part at all?"

or

"why I cannot get laid easily from zero effort at all from my part?"

this is why you need the professional help from a doctor

[poneglyphs]

Oh, lmao.

[Anonymous]

I think its easy as long as you get along well with the other person.

[Anonymous]

I Hate human nature at times