Why do men rarely get compliments from women?

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Degenerate · Accepted Answer

Because men aren't judged aestheticaly, we're judged by utility.

People generaly don't seem to care what men look like, short of guys not meeting a certain 'bare minimum' standard of appearance. I don't think that it's quite so bad that there is no concept of an attractive or aestheticaly appealing man, just that people... kinda don't care that much. There are no compliments because no one is looking for that, they aren't really paying attention to your looks past whether or not you are 'presentable'.

Men are judged, and subsiquently complimented, for their actions, contributions and productivity. We are judged for our utility. What we are capable of doing and producing/providing tends to be the thing people latch onto, the part of us that draws the most immediate attention. I think guys tend to have more experience being complimented on having a good job, or on a new car or something that has required action on their part, rather than their person.

I've argued before that men are objectified by our utility and reduced only to what we can do and that this mean that all other aspects of personhood, looks included, are ignored. (Feel free do disagree with that definition by the way)

Novacane · Accepted Answer

There are some factors as to why women typically dont give compliments to men. The main one would be the fact that men hardly ever get a compliment from someone else rather than someone they know as a friend or family related, so when they do receive those compliments men might take that as the woman is flirting with them or at least interested in them which is not the case, therefore, women prefer not to. Another reason is that most women dont find most men attractive so if a woman doesn't find you remotely attractive then they have no reason to give you a compliment unless you are a friend to them.

Babygirl_S · Accepted Answer

I praise men sometimes and the other times I just admire secretly. I don't want to be seen as a thirsty girl as somehow being straight and preoccupied with thoughts about men is looked down on. Unfortunately the society expects women to act as if we don't care and men to chase women. Women are also supposed to be asexual. A woman isn't considered good enough if she is more interested in men than herself or her career. I have been told I'm not ambitious enough just because my biggest dream is to find a good husband. I have been told to have other goals that exclude men.
Even on this website people think I'm mentally ill just because I think a certain celebrity is nature's masterpiece while plenty of girls ask questions about other women and nobody cares about their obsession. Why in the 21st century women are expected to care about other women and totally ignore men?

SEL195 · Accepted Answer

I compliment men I know. Like my brothers and my husband. But i used too be a big flirt before mairraige and always gave small compliments to men just becuase I feel men need to be complimented too. But like genuine compliments. Also it was fun to see them blush

ManOnFire · Answer

To be fair, I don't often compliment women either. Unless I'm really, really cool with her or we've always had a connection/rapport with each other. Complimenting women  too  often goes to their head and just helps to reinforce their ego about being attractive or being able to get sex, or they mistake your compliments for being an attempt at sex or will complain that you made her feel "uncomfortable."

Avicenna · Answer

Because of what often happens when she does- he figures she wants to date him or have sex with him and acts accordingly. Most women don't want to deal with that, so they keep their compliments to themselves.

coachTanthony · Answer

If they are strangers then yeah not going to happen.

NathanDavis · Answer

it is not rare for everyone... just for some, and some get more, some get none... some get a lot

made me remember of a childhood friend, who had HUGE EYELASHES, so every day... going out to places and stuff, all older girls would go crazy and then I didn't see him for years, till we were late 20's and I do remember asking him about, I said... "dude you still have huge eyelashes" and he made a face lmfao... like "it just never stops man"

he still gets a LOT of attention and comments from it, lol

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I've gotten compliments from quite a few different women in the past week, 3 about my looks, 1 that I'm cute when flustered, 2 about my sense of morality, 1 about my drawings, and 2 that I'm funny.

In order to get compliments or praise, you have to impress in some way.

The best way to do that is to just do the things you enjoy and get good at them, also be honest, be direct, be kind, and just in general not worry about who likes you.

There is no point in seeking compliments, instead you should seek fun, and the right kinds of people will enjoy your presence, and you will enjoy theirs, and thats all that really matters.

DoctorSex · Answer

Why do men rarely get compliments from women?

I get it all the time. If you put on the work, you get the compliments. Physical fitness is probably the only graft that you cannot fake. It shows that you went through the fire.. I probably get compliments from women more than the average woman gets from men.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Because why would a woman compliment a guy she doesn't want to fuck other than to say "you're handsome"

If a woman compliments 90% of guys, they're gonna think she probably wants to sleep with them. It's like the switch you can't turn back off.

As a guy, you can just compliment a girl and they smile and feel good. As a woman, you compliment a man and you might have just opened pandoras box if you're not careful.

KrisPW · Answer

I think it's mostly because we don't want to come across as flirting / wanting more. So I rarely compliment strangers, or men I don't know well. But I've also seen how my brothers hang on even the tiniest of compliments for a long time. I try to compliment the men in my life that won't take it for more than it was meant.

dustybiker · Answer

I compliment people when it strikes me. I don’t make a grab for gender proof first. Look how many men here pretend to be woman. I’m sure I’ve complimented one or two of them too.

A_Bell · Answer

I compliment men all the time. I do not see this in real life. Especially waiters, but also coworkers on a nice tie or shirt, etc. Or being helpful. I probably do it too much.

Juxtapose · Answer

Women are scared we will interpret it as flirting so they erroneously stop giving us compliments altogether and that exacerbates the original problem of compliments being so scarious we take it as a sign of interest because it is so unusual.

And round and round the cycle goes.

Subarugirl · Answer

The overwhelming majority of the time I have complimented a man on something he has mistaken it for flirting or that I was making a move on him.. So now I don't compliment men out side of my social or family circle for that reason alone.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

I got several compliments from several people about my hippy hair. I got another from a beautiful lad about my smile. I got many compliments about my intelligence. Men do get compliments from women, but I don’t think as much, or they blindly ignore/forget them.

Lookingforthetruth · Answer

Because women find the vast majority of men (80%) physically unattractive.

This is why men are always told they need to improve and build up their wealth, material possession, status and in some cases hit the gym to attract women.

It's also a partial reason for why women don't approach most men.

Luopio27 · Answer

Depends what kind of women. Those supermodels are often too prettyclass to compliment others because they are too busy with chasing assholes.

If you meet 40+ women at work, do your job right, you get compliments. Work at the elderly home, you will drown in grafitude and compliments.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Men are just the disposable ones of the 2. We're less valued because we don't have the abilities women have that's why men have to make use of themselves the other ways to get compliments.

JulianGronkowski · Answer

Earlier this year a girl told me she liked my socks, and it was the first compliment I’ve ever received from a woman. It was nice 😊. Honestly, a lot of women just aren’t great people. This woman I’m referring to is incredibly genuine, sweet, and selfless, and I haven’t met many women who are that way. Women just want to be chased by the hot guys, and they don’t need to compliment the guys to get what they want. Simple as that.

misogynistic_pig · Answer

Women rate 80% of men as "below average", while men rate women on a bell curve.

curlyfirecracker · Answer

I tend to when I see something worth complimenting... usually, I have an appreciation for older guys who dress well and take care of themselves instead of letting themselves go... more often than not, they don't take it seriously.

sunflower00 · Answer

Men do get compliments and I have complimented men, but I think quite often the man takes it as a sign that the woman wants sex which usually isn’t the case so we might try to avoid that misunderstanding.

MystiKaL · Answer

It all depends on how much of an impact you have on the girl. Compliments ain't always about looks. I am not a good looking guy, but I get compliments on how funny and smart I am, so I'll take that :)

Anonymous · Answer

Oh they'll give them. But generally only if they want something. To women guys only exist to service them in some way. If she wants something out of a guy she will. If a woman doesn't compliment you it means you're just simply of no use to her is all.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I have, so I don't know. not often, but some along the way and it's not that I'm that great. I think you have to be inviting. It also doesn't hurt to ask people... Stop being lame:)

BlueScorpio · Answer

I don't give a compliment unless I see something new he's done, like a haircut. When I see my male coworkers get one I compliment them on it. One time I told a coworker I liked his beard lol

Kayla45 · Answer

What do you mean? I always thank male employees of stores, etc. They put forth hard work and it's nice to tell them thank you, or good work.

Biancam13 · Answer

Because guys tend to think you're into them when you do that.

Bethany22 · Answer

I compliment men a lot. Learned recently though that it's a social faux pas to tell a guy he looks good for his age, or that he's cute

Sukaaa · Answer

I don't know i think they might get but it is how it is always expected from men to complement woman i guess

HorggleThorp · Answer

I used to compliment men a lot, and it makes them think I like them sexually. Thus, I quit doing it.

PetiteBabe64 · Answer

Because Men are Lazy it’s there default Faculty mode.

AmysQs5 · Answer

Lots of guys are surprised when I compliment them. I think it's not common

melanieeeB · Answer

Men do get compliments, if you don't then well 🤷🏽‍♀️

Nikki1989 · Answer

I compliment anyone if I think they really deserve it.

stellamint · Answer

Every time I complimented a man, he thought I was flirting with him, so that's why I stopped doing it. Now, I only compliment a my boyfriend, or someone who am I attracted to.

genericname85 · Answer

because you mostly give compliments in order to get someones sexual attention. since women are drowned ins exual attention, they don't need to give compliments.

BeMuse · Answer

It's pretty common for me to get compliments from women.

normalice · Answer

The only compliment guys tend to receive properly is how wonderful they are in bed

AndrésC64 · Answer

I'd say that it's due to society and the fact that men are the ones that are "supposed to" be giving them, and women therefore don't think of giving them.

jshm2 · Answer

Because they expect you not to be a drama bitch about it.

Steamnir · Answer

Because when you compliment a man, he thinks u want sex

fonduegirl · Answer

They do get compliments, just not as often as women.

tonamimargaux · Answer

Well that’s not completely true. I compliment anyone I find worthy.

Katyalov · Answer

Because God forbid you over inflate their egos. The only one I’m giving any compliments to is my guy.

Anonymous · Answer

Today's women don't like to show any respect, admiration or appreciation for men because they feel it somehow takes something away from women. They see it as a zero sum game. We have feminism to thank for that.

Paul09 · Answer

Great question. But when I do get that extremely rare compliment from a women, I blush. Feels great to get one. Sticks to you the whole day or 2. Imagine if they did it more often

LovingJo · Answer

I don't know? Why do they? I compliment anyone, not just because of being male or female 🙂

Anonymous · Answer

I've had compliment from women quite a few times, but it's mostly been from the ones that found me attractive in some way.

Exterminatore · Answer

Sounds like a you problem. I don’t have this issue.

TroyDT2 · Answer

I do fairly frequently and I'm not all that so maybe it's the women you encounter.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Guess they haven’t earned them. Normally compliments are consistent when effort is made

Hanrej · Answer

Because making men feel worthless is how they garantee men will allways offer more into a relationship.

TheFlak38 · Answer

society doesn't give a shit about men. The vagina is god.

zagor · Answer

Because a lot of men interpret that as "Let's have sex".

Chthou95 · Answer

80% of men dont get any compliments. But the top 20% of men definitely do. You have to acknowledge as well that most men are invisible to women

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Because women are inherently self-centered and think the world revolves around them.

Joker_ · Answer

fortunately we only value the compliments we get from other guys

grega239 · Answer

I don't know. Its not required to live so who cares

AngryCarl · Answer

It's not that rare. Women complement me a lot.

Anonymous · Answer

It's unfashionable these days for women to say anything positive about men.

Anonymous · Answer

Because women believe only they deserve compliments and it's a man's job to give them to them...

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