Why do men rarely get compliments from women?

[Anonymous]

[Degenerate]

Because men aren't judged aestheticaly, we're judged by utility.

People generaly don't seem to care what men look like, short of guys not meeting a certain 'bare minimum' standard of appearance. I don't think that it's quite so bad that there is no concept of an attractive or aestheticaly appealing man, just that people... kinda don't care that much. There are no compliments because no one is looking for that, they aren't really paying attention to your looks past whether or not you are 'presentable'.

Men are judged, and subsiquently complimented, for their actions, contributions and productivity. We are judged for our utility. What we are capable of doing and producing/providing tends to be the thing people latch onto, the part of us that draws the most immediate attention. I think guys tend to have more experience being complimented on having a good job, or on a new car or something that has required action on their part, rather than their person.

I've argued before that men are objectified by our utility and reduced only to what we can do and that this mean that all other aspects of personhood, looks included, are ignored. (Feel free do disagree with that definition by the way)

[AsaKyo]

Woah, you actually gave a serious answer

So proud of you n' love you <3 <3 <3

[Degenerate]

Let's have intimate sex

[AsaKyo]

After I bleach my skin we can

[Degenerate]

The only thing getting painted is yo face

[Novacane]

There are some factors as to why women typically dont give compliments to men. The main one would be the fact that men hardly ever get a compliment from someone else rather than someone they know as a friend or family related, so when they do receive those compliments men might take that as the woman is flirting with them or at least interested in them which is not the case, therefore, women prefer not to. Another reason is that most women dont find most men attractive so if a woman doesn't find you remotely attractive then they have no reason to give you a compliment unless you are a friend to them.

[Babygirl_S]

I praise men sometimes and the other times I just admire secretly. I don't want to be seen as a thirsty girl as somehow being straight and preoccupied with thoughts about men is looked down on. Unfortunately the society expects women to act as if we don't care and men to chase women. Women are also supposed to be asexual. A woman isn't considered good enough if she is more interested in men than herself or her career. I have been told I'm not ambitious enough just because my biggest dream is to find a good husband. I have been told to have other goals that exclude men.
Even on this website people think I'm mentally ill just because I think a certain celebrity is nature's masterpiece while plenty of girls ask questions about other women and nobody cares about their obsession. Why in the 21st century women are expected to care about other women and totally ignore men?

[insteadfew]

" being straight and preoccupied with thoughts about men" seriously 😳?

[Babygirl_S]

Why? Is it wrong?

[insteadfew]

Being straight is looked down upon?

[Babygirl_S]

Yes women who are obsessed with female celebrities are considered more normal than me.

[insteadfew]

There are more women who are obsessed with female celebrities and moe attracted towards female body?

[Babygirl_S]

It seems to be true

[insteadfew]

Maybe because women have mot aesthetic and beautiful body with nice neat soft curves and smooth skin?

[SEL195]

I compliment men I know. Like my brothers and my husband. But i used too be a big flirt before mairraige and always gave small compliments to men just becuase I feel men need to be complimented too. But like genuine compliments. Also it was fun to see them blush

[ManOnFire]

To be fair, I don't often compliment women either. Unless I'm really, really cool with her or we've always had a connection/rapport with each other. Complimenting women too often goes to their head and just helps to reinforce their ego about being attractive or being able to get sex, or they mistake your compliments for being an attempt at sex or will complain that you made her feel "uncomfortable."

[Avicenna]

Because of what often happens when she does- he figures she wants to date him or have sex with him and acts accordingly. Most women don't want to deal with that, so they keep their compliments to themselves.

[coachTanthony]

If they are strangers then yeah not going to happen.

[NathanDavis]

it is not rare for everyone... just for some, and some get more, some get none... some get a lot

made me remember of a childhood friend, who had HUGE EYELASHES, so every day... going out to places and stuff, all older girls would go crazy and then I didn't see him for years, till we were late 20's and I do remember asking him about, I said... "dude you still have huge eyelashes" and he made a face lmfao... like "it just never stops man"

he still gets a LOT of attention and comments from it, lol

[TheSpaceGnome]

I've gotten compliments from quite a few different women in the past week, 3 about my looks, 1 that I'm cute when flustered, 2 about my sense of morality, 1 about my drawings, and 2 that I'm funny.

In order to get compliments or praise, you have to impress in some way.

The best way to do that is to just do the things you enjoy and get good at them, also be honest, be direct, be kind, and just in general not worry about who likes you.

There is no point in seeking compliments, instead you should seek fun, and the right kinds of people will enjoy your presence, and you will enjoy theirs, and thats all that really matters.

[DoctorSex]

I get it all the time. If you put on the work, you get the compliments. Physical fitness is probably the only graft that you cannot fake. It shows that you went through the fire.. I probably get compliments from women more than the average woman gets from men.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Because why would a woman compliment a guy she doesn't want to fuck other than to say "you're handsome"

If a woman compliments 90% of guys, they're gonna think she probably wants to sleep with them. It's like the switch you can't turn back off.

As a guy, you can just compliment a girl and they smile and feel good. As a woman, you compliment a man and you might have just opened pandoras box if you're not careful.

[KrisPW]

I think it's mostly because we don't want to come across as flirting / wanting more. So I rarely compliment strangers, or men I don't know well. But I've also seen how my brothers hang on even the tiniest of compliments for a long time. I try to compliment the men in my life that won't take it for more than it was meant.

[dustybiker]

I compliment people when it strikes me. I don’t make a grab for gender proof first. Look how many men here pretend to be woman. I’m sure I’ve complimented one or two of them too.

[Luopio27]

Depends what kind of women. Those supermodels are often too prettyclass to compliment others because they are too busy with chasing assholes.


If you meet 40+ women at work, do your job right, you get compliments. Work at the elderly home, you will drown in grafitude and compliments.

[A_Bell]

I compliment men all the time. I do not see this in real life.

Especially waiters, but also coworkers on a nice tie or shirt, etc. Or being helpful. I probably do it too much.

[Juxtapose]

Women are scared we will interpret it as flirting so they erroneously stop giving us compliments altogether and that exacerbates the original problem of compliments being so scarious we take it as a sign of interest because it is so unusual.

And round and round the cycle goes.

[Subarugirl]

The overwhelming majority of the time I have complimented a man on something he has mistaken it for flirting or that I was making a move on him.. So now I don't compliment men out side of my social or family circle for that reason alone.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Subarugirl. Men think it's flirting because men never get complemented.

[Subarugirl]

@KrakenAttackin then maybe they should work on their ability to recognize social cues…

[HippieVeganJewslim]

I got several compliments from several people about my hippy hair. I got another from a beautiful lad about my smile. I got many compliments about my intelligence. Men do get compliments from women, but I don’t think as much, or they blindly ignore/forget them.

[Lookingforthetruth]

Because women find the vast majority of men (80%) physically unattractive.

This is why men are always told they need to improve and build up their wealth, material possession, status and in some cases hit the gym to attract women.

It's also a partial reason for why women don't approach most men.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Men are just the disposable ones of the 2. We're less valued because we don't have the abilities women have that's why men have to make use of themselves the other ways to get compliments.

[JulianGronkowski]

Earlier this year a girl told me she liked my socks, and it was the first compliment I’ve ever received from a woman. It was nice 😊. Honestly, a lot of women just aren’t great people. This woman I’m referring to is incredibly genuine, sweet, and selfless, and I haven’t met many women who are that way. Women just want to be chased by the hot guys, and they don’t need to compliment the guys to get what they want. Simple as that.

[misogynistic_pig]

Women rate 80% of men as "below average", while men rate women on a bell curve.

[curlyfirecracker]

I tend to when I see something worth complimenting... usually, I have an appreciation for older guys who dress well and take care of themselves instead of letting themselves go... more often than not, they don't take it seriously.

[sunflower00]

Men do get compliments and I have complimented men, but I think quite often the man takes it as a sign that the woman wants sex which usually isn’t the case so we might try to avoid that misunderstanding.

[RandomGuy1032]

you're lying because you can easily adjust how you compliment someone to be platonic

[sunflower00]

I’m not lying, even if you make it sound platonic people can still pick up on it wrong and get their hopes up. Misunderstandings happen, and sometimes it can just be easier to avoid it. But I compliment my boyfriend all the time, and I compliment my dad, and my guy friend