Someone kissed me when they know I’m seeing someone that they know. What should I do?

[SparkleGlue]

What do i do? I have been seeing my ASD guy long distance for about 6 months, we see each other once a week/fortnight, sometimes less, and we slept together recently, but the relationship hasn’t been defined/we haven’t had the is this exclusive talk. I went out last night with a friend I’ve not seen for years and we ended up kissing. Well, more she kissed me, that’s not something I would do. She’s not my type and I am in no way attracted to her but I didn’t stop her. I was so taken by surprise. I only JUST remember it happening, I was so drunk. There’s a big black out period in my memory. I don’t know what to do, I’m so upset it happened. I don’t know HOW it happened, only that I would not have instigated it. I feel she took advantage of me. I’m not interested in her in any way shape or form, or anyone else for that matter. What should I do? Should I tell my guy? I’m beside myself. I’m also worried she’ll tell him. We all know each other. I feel disgusted.

[Anonymous]

You need to have a talk with your friend FIRST. You need to remind her about what she did and how YOU feel about it. I mean, if you REALLY believe she took advantage of you, then you ought to settle this score, right? Because friends don't take advantage of friends.

I am curious, though... Why did you feel the need to bring up the fact that you and your guy are not yet "official?" Why does that matter?

[SparkleGlue]

We haven’t discussed not seeing/dating other people. It’s all pretty casual at the moment.

[Opinion Owner]

I see.

It's just that you make it sound like the relationship means a lot more to you than it being "casual." And I guess since your boyfriend has ASD, it's part of why you're worried now that I think about it. Probably because he might respond so negatively that it results in a rift between seeing him or ever hanging out with your friend again.

Maybe you can let this whole thing slide for now. But only on the condition that you are *absolutely certain* with yourself that you felt nothing when your friend kissed you. You should let her know that, by the way.

Would you consider having a more serious, committed relationship with your partner?

[slatyb]

Forget about it. Tell him if you want to, or don't.

[Avicenna]

Yeah, you should tell him

[Iron_Man]

Wow your a mess gender confusion

[SparkleGlue]

Gender confusion?

[Iron_Man]

Read your very own question

[SparkleGlue]

I know my gender. What’s your point.

[Iron_Man]

You let a girl kiss you that’s the problem. You are supposed to have a boyfriend.

[Iron_Man]

Being drunk has nothing to do with it

[Anonymous]

Why do anything?

[In_Trance]

stop putting yourself in these situations