Would stay with a man if you suggested that you guys get married on June and he turned you down saying that he’ll marry you April 2024?

[Anonymous]

You’ve been together for 2.5, you’re tired of sneaking around like teenagers and just want a future with him now and you told him how hurt you feel that you guys can’t start your future now but he calls your decisions not smart saying he doesn’t have enough money and he said that April 2024 is going to be the date to do all that stuff. But that means that you’ll spend 4 years total sneaking into his bedroom and he’ll be 27 when he moves out from his parents.

[PetiteBabe64]

As long as You can find a Qualified Person to do the marriage Thing say the words you can get married it doesn’t have to be Expensive to get married. You can get qualified online by Taking a Online Course just Become qualified set Up a place to do the marriage it could be a park With a few chairs outside.
Here’s a link to some information
https://www.brides.com/how-to-become-a-wedding-officiant-5024933

Here’s some more good info to get qualified. If you have someone who Loves you They will understand and be empathetic and because they care about you they will Become qualified So they can Get you married. But if they don’t Love you they will refuse to understand You and Will make you wait years and you know your boyfriend than anybody. Is he a reliable person? Does he keep his word when he says he’s gonna do something? Or does he tend to change his mind a lot?
https://unministry.org/?gclid=Cj0KCQjwhsmaBhCvARIsAIbEbH6FspRvn_k33OcF0MO4P7XJQJrQShDxemCeWxw-JwWld8CVwUoJkHQaAoXAEALw_wcB

[PetiteBabe64]

Is he currently saving? From what you have said. He doesn’t seem like a honorable person. Seems like the type to Bring up a lot of excuses to get out of doing something.

[Asker]

I don’t know he said he is. He always looks at apartments and talks about having children. But he refuses to move out without saving like 30,000 which is a lot and currently he has probably 5,000

[Asker]

He had 10,000 dollars but had a problem with the bank and is waiting for his money back

[PetiteBabe64]

So He has 15,00 dollars but says He needs 30,000 to move out Well there you have it Money is more important than having a life with you. Time to Move on and forget about him.

[PetiteBabe64]

What you need is a good Country man.

[Asker]

Do you live in the US? Everything is expensive now and inflation is sky rocketing so that’s probably why. Also he wants to have children with me and having a child costs like 19,000 dollars 😭 he told me that he didn’t want to live a check to check life but I don't know 30,000 is a bit much

[PetiteBabe64]

My Dad gives me checks didn’t Grow up in poor family My dad is rich So to me everything Is Not expensive. If you can’t support yourself how are you gonna support a Child. Gotta be able to support yourself And not struggle before you bring a child into the world. You can get a better Job coco cola and Dr Pepper Pays good. Coco cola pays from 17 to 20 something an hour depending on What job you do. Dr Pepper pays

KEURIG DR PEPPER INC HOURLY PAY RATE

Avg. Base Salary (USD)

$34/hour
View Avg Salary By Year
How much do Keurig Dr Pepper Inc employees Hourly make in the United States?
Keurig Dr Pepper Inc pays an average hourly rate of $34 and hourly wages range from a low of $30 to a high of $40. Individual pay rates will, of course, vary depending on the job, department, location, as well as the individual skills and education of each employee.

Not sure if That is The actual pay it was just off some website. I like to Do research for people on this website so I can better assist with my answers.

[PetiteBabe64]

But def get a different Job something that Pays good not no 13 15 an hour get a good job good job means great pay.

[Changiis07]

It's okay to wait. He said it himself it isn't smart right now because it is better to have a savings and all. No need to rush it plus it's best for the both to be happy going into the future together and not feel pressure from it because it's only been 2 and half years. Anything can happen and okay what if you do get married earlier, what if it leads to a divorce. I mean it's best to take things slow and wait for the right moment for the both

[Guy13]

No one who is serious operates in this way. Where’s the damn 💍 is what I would be saying. And if he gives you broke ass can't find 10,000 to adorn his princess then get out while you can.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you're dealing with a bum using you just for sex. If grown adults have to sneak around then he is NOT serious about marriage. Else at least he would propose

[LazerBean]

I wouldn't have been with him in the first place. He does that because you let him get away with it. He's getting everything he wants without having to actually give anything.

[Asker]

It’s just so odd. He’s so sweet but it’s been this long and I have not met ang if his friends, he doesn’t make plans to change up things other than us staying home, and he wants to save 30,000 dollars in order to move out. Isn’t that a bit much?

[LazerBean]

It definitely is odd. The moment the guy I married decided that he wanted to get married, he started working his ass off to have enough money to do so within a year. Both of our dads did the same. The fact that this guy is in his mid 20 already and still won't do it is pretty shameful.

[Asker]

My parents don’t want me to get married until i graduate 🤦🏽‍♀️ But this guy has promised to marry me since our first momth together and it’s been this long. I even told him that I was starting to feel empty during sex because we’re not married. Still tells me that moving out in June wouldn’t be a good idea. He talks about leases and all this stuff and that he needs more money and doesn’t want to live from check to check so I try to understand.

[Asker]

I even offered to work in a factory again. Did I basically propose to him and get turned down? Lol

[LazerBean]

Promising to marry you after a month was definitely the first red flag. Personally, I would dump him and never have anything to do with him or anyone like him again.

[Paulalove98]

Why or what makes him say your decisions aren't smart?

[D-Pad_Chad]

Why do you want to get married?

[Asker]

To move out

[D-Pad_Chad]

You needs a kob and a copy of apartment finder, not a husband

[D-Pad_Chad]

Job* but what I'm saying is that's a terrible reason for marriage

[Asker]

There are a lot of reasons I was just tired. I know that i want to be with tgis person, i want a future with him etc.