Girls, Would you stay with a man for 18 years if he never proposed to you, yet and you want marriage?

[Ginger1907]

[Anonymous]

You're obviously not asking for yourself, but this is a case by case thing.

The Master and Lady of my House have been together for over a decade as a M/s relationship. She wants marriage, he doesn't and it fell through once years ago. It's a sore spot for her, though he treats her better than most husbands would, and she is sworn and faithful to him, bound by honor.

What is the kicker is that though I am now sworn to her, he confided in me one time, in confidence, while I was with my previous owner that the reason he was considering calling the marriage off was BECAUSE he loves her. That he'd been married twice, and divorced twice, and he didn't want that, that he wasn't good at marriage. It rips at me because I was not yet sworn to her, and he told me this in confidence, so it is the one secret I've kept from her for years.

Some people marry for love, some avoid it for love.

[pupluv45]

he's calling marriage off because he doesn't want to go through the hassle of a divorce again. A man who has married twice is a man who has a hard time holding onto a marriage. Either this or he has poor judgement in picking women.

[Opinion Owner]

@pupluv45 actually, all three. When you have the kind of self-made wealth that these folks do, divorce gets hairy. That said, many of us who are wired to do well in the Leather community and in M/s relationships do not typically do well with "vanilla" relationships, so no, he doesn't do well holding onto marriage. And finally, hearing both he and my Lady speak of his ex's, he doesn't pick women very well... The fact that my Lady is not his typical type may speak to their success.

[Daniela1982]

Someone is a grade A "Sucker" to stay with someone for that long with no marriage proposal. Maybe someone didn't have to work the whole time or something and all her needs were met. You could say that is almost like being married, just without a piece of paper.

[CelineBV]

I wouldn't even stay for 2 years without getting proposed you. Paying with bills, cooking for him, cleaning and doing all that just so he can have one foot out the door anytime while I've wasted my years is indeed a rip-off. You're doing all for free without commitment.

[Paulalove98]

I definitely wanna get married in the right time but 18 years I'd just assume my boyfriend wouldn't wanna marry and this is still an in or out thing.. I think it's good to be honest early on about where your head is.

[peacesncream]

I wouldn't because I want to get married but I want wait 18 years later by then I would know all about you n your family or eles me n him would have to be friends I would find someone who wants to marry

[Aerissa_Jade]

Here if you live together for ten years, your now common law marriage.

As for me, I would not stay with a man didn't want to get married, for even a year.

[Anonymous]

You're 23, so I assume you're asking this for someone else or as a general question. I think this question is far too common today. Most men are very marriage averse now. Which I don't understand. Why are men so against marriage now?

[midnightmoon05]

No… takes 3 years. to move on to the next chapter… if it doesn’t … usually it may not happen. But would def. not stay more than 5 years.

[Haha456]

if you're cooking for him, washing his clothes , dishes, paying his bills, yes you are getting ripped off.

[LovingLoverReturned]

Depends if he knows I want to be married and also Depends on the reason he hasn't proposed yet

[19magic]

Of course not everything is about marriage, you can raise and have a perfect family without the signed piece of paper and rings.

[melanieeeB]

Yeah cause I don't aime for marriage but more a true connection and partnership

[melanieeeB]

I don't think that you need to be married to have a great partner for life on your side