OK so I went on a date and I don’t know how to feel?

[Justneedtokno]

It was OK we talked. They were quiet moments but no kiss. No nothing just awkward.

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Should I just go with it because he likes me isn’t that what you guys talk about on this site? Yeah I don’t give the good guys a chance.

[DaveJord]

If you went out with him and your not sure how you feel... then do the guy a favor and let him down easy. If you're unsure don't waste his time, or yours.

He'll be annoyed maybe angry, but still in the long run its the best for the both of you. If he was seriously interested then you'd know. If he is seriously interested and don't know, it's his bad. And if your so-so on the subject yourself... its only your bad if you continue seeing him without being honest with him about it.

[Justneedtokno]

I think it just took so long for us to go out

[DaveJord]

Yup, that's a balancing act... there's a term for it. Basically, means you text and after a short period of time everything cools off. Because nobody is really taking any imitative to take the next step. By the time you finally do you have already more or less moved on from the relationship that really never was a relationship, it was just a digital pin pal.

Whenever I meet women and test for a week or so I ask here out. If she's anything along the lines of wanting to take more time to get to know each other... I totally agree with her and how better to do that than meeting for cup of coffee or walk in the park. If within the next week if we don't have plans to meet, then I move on.

Some women will say I was never seriously interest and all I wanted was the one think and once I figure out that wasn't going to happen then I lost interest because I was one of those guys.

Unfortunately, women that say that are the ones that use this excuse to justify themselves... because the truth is that I was seriously interest and wanted more... I lost interest because I wasn't going to play games with some one that was so undecided, uncertain or indifferent about dating me. Is it me or something about me, or is her own insecurities so something about her? Hell, I don't know but I lost interest in finding out.

Weeks of texting back of forth could be wiped away by just meeting for a cup of coffee or walk in the park... and if that doesn't jump start a potential relationship then we both know with days it's not going to work... so don't string out in text over weeks.

[DaveJord]

With good guys you got to given them a chance with one to two weeks or they move on. Only back one hang of for weeks and weeks texting... because at the pion they are only saying and doing all the right things they think you want to score.

The good guys are not going to waste their time and effort, because they want something more and if takes weeks for you get there... well they are moving on.

[Jamie05rhs]

@DaveJord I think it's a mixed bag. I think it's half and half on both sides.

[DaveJord]

@Jamie05rhs Its that always the case, which really my piont to @Justneedtokno... which is be objective about yourself first. And thing you did to contribute to the situation, and things you could of done better... before you try understand what the other person did or didn't do. In the it comes down to love language and if you communicate effectively.

[Jamie05rhs]

Right. I'm just saying that just because a guy does a certain thing doesn't necessarily mean that he wants sex or doesn't want sex.

[DaveJord]

@Jamie05rhs 100% correct... I hate when people scapegoat themselves but jumping on sex bandwagon as their excuse.

[OlderAndWiser]

You don't date much, do you?

[Justneedtokno]

Nope, I’m trying

[OlderAndWiser]

Did it go well enough that you want to see him again?

[Justneedtokno]

I wouldn’t mind seeing him again I just don’t know how he feels and at this point I don’t think we really have a connection but he’s cute

[OlderAndWiser]

Sometimes, it takes two or three dates before both of you are sufficiently relaxed to let your guard down and start interacting normally. GIve him a chance.

[Justneedtokno]

Ok I will

[Sixgunsound]

So it was a bust. There was no connection. It happens, dust yourself off and try again isn’t that how the song goes?

[Havthrills]

If you want to see him again, try a second date. If there's still nothing, then move on. No connection, not the right person.

[Jamie05rhs]

You don't have to feel anything. It's just one date! Lol

Go on another and see what happens.

Relax! :)

[Jamie05rhs]

You women take these things WAY too seriously!

[Jamie05rhs]

@Justneedtokno Yes; I actually do agree with your update.

[Philyouup]

give it a few time, sometimes it take a little bit to get rolling

[WhitneySnow]

You guys didn’t really connect

[Justneedtokno]

No not really

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe give him a second chance. Maybe there’s chemistry there but just buried.

[msc545]

Has this happened before?

[Justneedtokno]

We went out on a lunch day before, and it was pretty cute but even then he kissed me or try to this time not so much

[msc545]

give it a few more dates.

[eagle1951]

sound like you were both shy

[BLP11520]

He have someone else?

[Justneedtokno]

No, he said he was single

[BLP11520]

Okay

[legalboxers]

quiet is good

[Justneedtokno]

I thought if you don’t really have anything in common, it’s really not going anywhere

[legalboxers]

quiet is good.. Im quiet...