Can you be so mentally turned off by somebody that it affects the physical?

[Justneedtokno]

In the beginning, I was physically attracted to this person, but then starting to get to know the person started turning off, still physically, attractive sort of just not trying to do anything

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Is there any chance to regain it

[MCheetah]

Personally speaking, no. That mainly only happens with women. Cause they tend to view the person as "the whole package" more (unless he's short or super ugly), where men can compartmentalize and still sleep with a sexy woman who they know is an awful human being.

Hence, why I can still find women like Kim Kardashian physically attractive, or any "bisexual"/queer female, even though I'd NEVER in a million years want to have anything to do with them, relationship wise. Women have a harder time splitting love and sex apart, where as most men can do it easily and still be turned off physically and turned off, mentally.

With that said though, in maintaining self-respect, I won't look at any women I don't find to be respectful. For example, Instagram ma suggest a model to me or someone who looks hot. But then I go to their profile and see "BLM," self-typed pronouns, or the rainbow emoji, and proceed to restrict or block them, never going back onto their page again. I can find a girl physically attractive regardless of personality, but it still doesn't mean I'm going to give them attention if they're unworthy of my respect. I'd feel like a simp if I still supported someone I found to be an awful human being, regardless of how they look.

In other words, personality is more important to me than looks, even if I still think they look hot.

[Man-O-Metal]

Abso-frickin-lutely. I've met many girls that I found very physically attractive. But after witnessing what they were like personality wise, my insides wrinkled a little bit. I've also had somewhat of the opposite happen. Like, I wasn't 100% physically attracted to the girl. But after listening to her and observing how she carries herself, my heart will start beating faster. Bear in mind I was attracted to those girls. I've also met girls who have wonderful personalities, but I absolutely do not find them attractive. And I feel like girls pretty much experience the same thing.

[Bre_0611]

Oh yes! There were so many problems in my last relationship ( cheating, lying, disrespect, him always starting arguments, bashing me to his family and friends, etc.) to the point after a while I no longer had interest in sleeping with him. I didn't want him touching me, I no longer wanted to cuddle, none of that.

When I met him he was the apple of my eye. I was crazy in love with him for so long but it all came to an end the more issues we had. We grew apart...

[letuswaltzforthedead]

Yeah, that has happened to me. Mind you, just because someone is unattractive to me doesn't mean I will view them as completely unattractive, they can still be attractive in a conventional sense. Usually, it's the behavior of someone that turns me off the most and I just wouldn't view them as a potential partner anymore.

[ManOnFire]

Most definitely. I've known more than one woman that has been very physically attractive, but the more I got to know them and see what their brain was like, the more I became uninterested.

[lightbulb27]

for sure. The physical isn't just what your eye balls see... it's what your mind perceives. Readup on how your emotions work and you'll discover that a lot of what we perceive is "projected", which comes out of our emotional mind.

Your emotions are saying "this is no good for me"... and making him less attractive. Opposite occurs as well.

I suggest next time you get one of his sweaty t-shirts to smell and see if you like it. A very quick indicator biologically... humor, but I'm serious. We don't like to think about how much bacteria we are... but we are 10x more bacteria than cells!

oh my... maybe I said too much..😂

[Grond21]

Oh yes, this is a normal part of the human attraction process. I have met girls I didn't think were physically attractive and then once I got to know their character that changed. And then I have met women where the reverse happened. At first I thought they were beautiful, and by the end of it I didn't think they were attractive at all.
In the latter case, I could still see if some kind of objective beauty but it was so marred by their bad character that I wasn't drawn to them in any way

[HighValue]

I have lost physical attraction to someone before after learning about their bad morals. I have also increased my physical attraction to someone after learning about her good morals. I think how attracted or unattracted to someone we are can change based on how compatible morally and emotionally you are, but there needs to be at least a little bit of attraction to begin with.

[hahahmm]

Yes.

Or in other words... are people just a slave to biological attraction? No we are not. Some people have less self-control than others. Most people have some kind of subconscious level control where if the other person is 'wrong' they will find them less attractive than otherwise. But that requires your brain to be able to identify 'wrong' from 'right' too.

[Anonymous]

It happened to me , I was deeply interested in that girl and did so much , but she always too advantage of me , terrible behaviour and words. It turned me off totally , at the last days she tried to seduce me , behave very nicely , she was literally throwing herself on me but I was so turned off by it , I couldn't even get hard seeing her half naked , sent her home and slowly broke contact forever.

[Anonymous]

This has been done to me and has happened vice versa.

But as a guy I can separate out the physical image by itself and still it as attractive even though I don’t like their personality. That doesn’t mean I will necessary want to hit it again. But men can have that objective judgment i. e. two things can be true at once: her still physically hot but at the same time I know her personality sucks. One fact won’t influence the other.

[DrBanana]

For me?


Oh yeah sure my philosophy had always been looks get you in the door but personally will keep my there.


I’m not Brad Pitt and I’ll admit that but I have had the chance to speak to some very attractive men and women who I though had been stunning people until they showed a terrible personality then all physical/ social attraction just gone like a cracked mirror.

[Sixgunsound]

Absolutely. There's very little chance to regain it. Every time I hear Miss something or other candidates spout off about marxism or feminism (though I repeat myself) they have permanently ended any attraction they might once have posessed.

[fembotnpc777]

That stuff kind of goes up and down while you're getting to know someone.
To answer your original question, however: that shit happens to me on GAG all the time.

[MCheetah]

"happens to me on GAG all the time"
How? You're new to the site and just signed up. Unless this is an alt account of someone's.

[Owasso]

Yes. That's the way I am with women now. I'm biologically only attracted to them, but after the last 10 years and the NEVERENDING beating from just being born a monster male... I can't even stand to be in their presence anymore, no matter how they look. There's no feeling left, only total apathy.

[abc3643]

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It happened between my wife and me over time.

[rachel776]

yeah and then they become unattractive to me physically

[Pegases]

Definitely possible. It's possible to regain it, but in your situation is it worth it? You clearly don't like his character. Perhaps it's time to move on.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Absolutely.

If a woman is the most physically attractive person on earth (by my preference standards), but she is irritating to be around (again, by my preference standards), I'm not going to want anything to do with her.

[TheSpaceGnome]

In regards to update, probably not, its more a compatibility issue.

[JDavid25]

Yeah, that happens all the time.. Like when I see a beautiful woman trying hard to be or do something she is not or can't.. I lose all attraction and become more embarrassed for her..

[Subarugirl]

Uh yeah. You biggest and most prominent sex organ is your brain.

[FilmGuy93]

Of course. That happens to me with lots of women. I’ve known some absolute beauties that I wouldn’t touch with a ten-foot pole because of who they are as people.

[WarrenH]

Hell Yes!

I’ve had rock-hard boners turned to shriveled sausage because of mental turn-offs.

[Rania05]

Isn't this how things are supposed to be? Your body reactions towards other people comes from your favorability of them

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

That's very true. I literally have seen beautiful women physically speaking but once their ugly attitude appeared they instantly appeared less beautiful.

Attitude and personality makes a huge difference.

[BJP21]

It happened to me, but it was also a result of the mental and emotional abuse she subjected me to. she's a good looking girl, but how she treats people is an automatic shut off to me.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes that’s happened to me. She looks good physically but her personality was a complete turn off.

[PinkRose24]

Yes. You could think a guy is cute but once you get to know him, he could end up being annoying AF or not your type.

[slatyb]

Of course you can. Once you decide someone is ugly inside, it's hard to see beyond that.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Yes. I don't care if a woman is beautiful, if she is disrespectful and has poor communication, it's over

[Anonymous]

Yeah, that's happened to me. It's also happened to me in reverse where I wasn't physically attracted at first but then got to know him.

[hammeronfire]

Yes. There was one girl where I used to work who was really hot, however, she was the absolute biggest thundercunt I’ve ever met in my life and no amount of good looks can save that awful personality

[krin_m]

Oh, most certainly. Physical beauty is only a part of the attraction.

[Kinkyhubby]

Beauty is the first attraction, bit howbthe act and think is the internal beauty, and I I don't like that, they are no longer beautiful to me.

[ArtemisSilver]

It happens so so often. Pretty women say something vile and I'm just done.

[TroyDT2]

As the saying goes, "An 8 who's a B is a 2."

[Crankor]

Absolutely... there are people that are only physically attracted after they are mentally attracted

[msc545]

An ugly personality ruins everything, even physical attraction.

[Voldra]

For sure & there's been times I wasn't attracted at first but grew to feel that way overtime.

[Philyouup]

i try not to let people do that to me. it’s something you don’t have to do.

[Anonymous]

Yes I've actually had that happen several times. It's so bad sometimes whenever I see pictures of certain women all I can say is ewww yuck or ewww gross

[Anonymous]

Yeah that can happen, it doesn't work the same way around though. No matter how mentally compatible someone is, if they're not physically attracted it doesn't work.

[Alex8736]

things that turn someone off mentally is a sign that it's not always about looks

[Havthrills]

Yep. Certainly can and dies happen.

[Havthrills]

*does

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

Heck yea easily

[Sofimalite]

Yes, I definitely can. And I had been.

[VIVANT]

💯 yes

[exitseven]

Yes, this has happened to me before.

[Andres77]

Their smell can do that

[Andres77]

sure take a shower.

[Rockstarrrrr]

All the time lol...

[Agape93]

Yeap

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes. I've had this happen before.

[Jamie05rhs]

Re: update: Do you WANT to regain it?

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Absolutely, it’s happened to me even.

[Anonymous]

I don't think I could EVER be that FICKLE.

[misfittoy]

100 percent

[Faith18letsgo]

Definitely.

[melanieeeB]

Of course

[sheikalana]

Absolutely.

[Smoothing]

Absolutely

[Smoothing]

I have met girls whom I was really attracted to and then once I begun to see how horrible their character were. The physical attraction disappeared all together.

[EaterPeter]

Yes.

[BLP11520]

Oh yes... it happens

[Nominal]

Yes.

[Nominal]

For example i have few neighboars 'females'. Everytime į see them, i want to get close and kill. Smack that bitch head to The ground enought times till she dead.