Your brainwashed. You know you're in a toxic relationship you really don't need us to tell you it's more than obvious. You yourself know you're in a bad relationship yet somehow you're looking for some sort of affirmation looking for someone to tell you oh yeah you'll be okay nothing to worry about you're most likely not going to get it from anyone here unless they're true troll.
The fact that he choked you to unconsciousness is enough for police to arrest him is that your federal offense and he could do life in prison just figured I'd tossed that in there new laws about choking have been passed it's called attempted murder now. Oh by the way he's destroying your brain cells every single time he does that.
Enabling him no you're not enabling him I only say this because the term of enabling means that you were doing something to make this behavior happen and you are not this is his behavior he's going to act that way whether he's with you or not he's going to wait till the next person and the next and if you ever have kids he's going to be violent towards them too these people just look for an excuse to be violent it's always somebody else's fault.
However you are choosing to keep yourself in danger. You're enabling yourself to stay in harm's Way. These relationships never get better you know that we all know that.
Go to a domestic violence shelter they were protect you they will help you get a restraining order and they will help you find funds to get back on your feet they will even help you find permanent housing. They will get you counseling and teach you how to see the signs of an abusive person so that you can avoid this happening again in the future. There are several hotlines that you can call for domestic violence you need to start getting counseling.
we can tell you that you need to seek help and get out to we're blue in the face or until we run out of typing space on here but in the end the choice is yours. you're not going to leave until you're ready to leave. Even though the right time to leave was ages ago. I just hope you get to that stage of ready to leave before the choice is taken from you and you end up leaving in a body bag.
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If he’s giving you black eyes and manipulating you like that then it’s only a matter of time before he kills you. Get him out of your life asap and do it in the safest way possible. You may need a restraining order against him too judging by how manipulative and abusive he is. Seriously you weren’t born to be tortured by him. You’re just emotionally attached. You’ll see his truth in time and you’ll get over him. It’s gonna hurt for a little while but trust me one day you’ll wake up and won’t even think about him. You’ll be glad you made this decision someday.
Stop stop stop stop stop you can't do this you cannot do this anymore 1 lb of pressure in the wrong spot will kill you it would be an accident but it could happen this is not going to end until you end it this is not love this is not passion this is you making an excuse for somebody that you love it does not love you if he truly loves you he would not touch you it would not hurt you mentally physically or verbally you are an excuse for him if you want your boyfriend to change and if you really really want to help him you need to walk away you need to give him a good year did he can prove it to you did he is changed. Going to change until he kills you you don't understand everything you just said I felt it I felt it through my my Center core I'm telling you you need to walk away I feel something bad and if he is taking you that far before he doesn't know where you stopped you need to make that choice for him by walking away can you please send me a private message
There is someone who needs to improve and is working on it and if they fail it's a pain in the ass, and then there is your guy: seriously dangerous. You need to get the hell out of this relationship and never look back. Contact a women's shelter, make a safety and exit plan, and gtfo! Learn more about healthy relationships, heal, be single for a year, then dip your toes back into the dating game if you feel ready. Do not rebound too fast, if you are not ready your new relationship will not go well.
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You have to break up - His tempers will only get worse and he will try to kill you one day if you stay
He's abusing you. If you stay he will probably kill you. Think about what your life is like right now. Do you want to live like this for the rest of your life? He doesn't want to "get better". If he didn't want to physically hurt you, he wouldn't, it's that simple. I have dealt with anger issues, I have PTSD that causes me to become very angry very quickly if I am triggered, and yet I do not physically hurt people, because I still control my actions no matter what I feel. There is no excuse for hurting someone you love.
You need to leave him and ignore any attempts of him trying to apologize because he’s not sorry and it’s only going to get worse until he ends you don’t fool yourself into thinking you can change him or he’s working through some stuff or that he gets you more than anyone ever has that’s just being a victim don’t put up with this for a second if you have an older brother or if your dad is in the picture tell them and block him from all sites even close those sites and reopen under another name and block him. You’re not making good decisions right now you need to involve family and friends in this and anyone you can trust and listen to them. My god this makes me want to break this dudes legs. You deserve better and for you not to see this is very scary does he treat everyone this way does he treat his dog this way he should treat you like someone he loves not worse than how he would treat his dog you know what you need to do
I have a dumbass online female friend who is in the same exact position as you are and she also refuses to leave him. Ffs this guy will kill you one day if you don't leave immediately. You need to show him the consequences of his actions by leaving him. Maybe only then he might change but at that point you would've moved on. You've tried and it only keeps getting worse. And since his actions are meeting no consequences from your side he'll just do it again after a couple of weeks. This is not okay.
I think you know already how bad the situation is. I’d advise you to get out of there immediately. It doesn’t matter how “nice” he is on good days, under no circumstance should he almost kill you. Your life could be in danger. Please, get as far away as possible.
Write everything he’s done to you down. Go to the police station and hand them the notes.
Do this for yourself and everyone in your life that loves you. It might only be now that you realize something is wrong. You want to live healthier. You deserve to live healthier. Please, be safe.You should record his outbursts, but actually first breakup with him and NEVER let him back in your life. See follow my second plan first and then you will be safe healthy and alive without recording the ,,, h,,,. You deserve better. Good luck and stay HEALTHY. Do the smart thing
WHOA! Even the Martian Communists would say that flag's too red! If he's choking you to near unconsciousness, he could easily have KILLED you. Graveyard dead.
One way or another, you need to call a halt to this. ASAP.That guy won't change his behavior. You are ONLY a doll to be used and abused, a thing he owns. Your relation with him is very toxic, but addictive for someone in quest of affection. You will never be really happy with him. You would be better in an psychiatric asylum than with him. Go get help!
This sounds like a very dangerous situation that you are in, I think it's best for you to get out and go someplace safe. If he comes after you, report it and get a restraining order.
Yeah. Theyll never change. Im talking from experience here, not a boyfriend but a parent, but yeah you need to try to force then to change or leave
You need to get away from this situation, you are not safe where you are.
Get local police involved and get a paper trail on this, it is not going to end good.These situations rarely get better. You need to get out NOW.
You need to get out now. This is not healthy and your life is in danger. You are insane to overlook the violence. You must have a low opinion of yourself.
and I keep wondering why I am single when scum like that have girlfriends...
Totally. Sometimes distance is needed too. But people are only going to change when they want to. It doesn't matter what external forces there are. They need to want to change themselves.
PLEASE LEAVE! YOU DESERVE WAY BETTER THAN TO BE TREATED LIKE TRASH!
You're living in a fantasy world. Get out, before you end up on the news, dead.
dont stay with a man who beats you. hors deserve it tho.
The issue is more of, why are you staying with him when it is a danger to you and your health.
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