Why I can't get forget my first crush and love?

[Anonymous]

It's been years since I transferred into a new school and now in college rn. But, I still can't get forget my crush a. k. a my first love. Its been 6 years since I last met him and I'm very sure that he's not single rn. But, I'm still hoping to just meet him once. He was the first guy who told me and make me beautiful as ever and he made me fall In love with him and lastly he said he didn't love me when my friend ( she was jealous) asked about it. I was shocked and hurt. I thought he had the same feelings towards me. He always tell his friends that I'm beautiful (tbh, i'm just an ordinary girl) and a good girl (not really, I get angry easily). Since then he stopped talking to me and I transferred into a new school. I tried asking my friends whether he asked about me or not, and they just said he asked them "where she transferred?" I had a few crushes after that but it just didn't last long. Back to back, I'm just thinking about him. I'm scared to be in relationship coz I tried to date a guy and I ended thinking about him (crush). I seriously don't want to hurt any other guys coz of my stupid feelings. I'm scared to contact my crush coz I'm scared that he hates or not single anymore. 😥 I know I'm stupid for waiting for him but it's worth it. If he gets married to someone, I would just stay single with my dogs and cats. 😞

[WisdomWest76]

Hi, to start with your totally going through the normal process. Our girst love/crush is always the hardest to overcome for. me i took years even though i was hurt the same way. She chased telling me she could marry a guy like me but as soon as she had me and knew how much i. loved her she went cold on me and avoided me. The following years i never felt the same with any girl i dated even though i was treated much nicer and loved in return by later girlfriend's. It wasn't till 12yrs later i finally felt a love greater than that 1st love and i knew her spell on me was broken unfortunately im sinhke again and at 40 years old never married no kids and live alone with my cat. All i can suggest is don't focus on the lovely compliments he gave you which im sure as true as they are there not productive to moving on. Think of what he said to your friends and the fact you are not together now, this man is living rent free in your beautiful mind which there are thousands of great men out there that would love and treat you 1000 times more thsn you can imagine possible and that requires you yo love yourself and free your heart.# loveislife.

[Asker]

Aww. Thank you so much. It's better not to focus on love life anymore. I'm sure there will be something on the way, but I'm not expecting much and I'm ready To be single forever. I feel sad for you. I think you should let it free and I really hope that you'll find a soulmate that will last forever.

[MackFreeze]

It's time to move on and let him go.

Realize he was the past and appreciate what you've had together. But also, your lives aren't intertwined anymore.

Realize you broke up for a reason, and look forward to finding another person to make memories with.

Be at peace that their with someone and you are on your own path. Let them go

Do not hate, hate only hurts you!

Realize that its time. And there is gong to be another person if you let there be. Stop holding on to him, you will keep comparing your current with him and make things complicated. Let him go.

You do not have to forget him, but you have to move on for what's ahead.

You cannot think in the past and expect to live in the present. He's the past, and you need to let him go.

I know it's hard, it takes time.

Cheers!

[Asker]

Thanks. Will try my best to move on. by the way he's not my ex. We were never been in relationship before. We just had feelings with each other and quite close. I was the type of girl that don't really talk to guys and I'm quite shy at that time. So, maybe I took it wrongly that he's being special to me. Day by day, I'm not hating him. I am happy that i met such a wonderful person in my life. Thanks. You did help me a lot. ☺

[MackFreeze]

I'm glad I could be able to! Cheers!

[Anonymous]

the first dick is the sweetest as the saying goes.

[Asker]

Lol. I never been any sexual relationship with him and I'm a virgin.

[Overmind]

Because you lost a piece of your heart. I remember every crush I had, (only 7 so far), and will wonder at times how they are, hope they are happy.

Sometimes I think I am just a sentimental old fool for investing so much of myself in others but it's not a conscious choice.

Everytime this happens you lose a small piece of yourself and it's like a part of yourself dies then it becomes much more difficult to keep putting yourself out there.

[Asker]

Totally agree with you. Its hurting.

[Harlock2045]

cause he was your first, and guys can be selfish pricks at that age only looking to add another notch to the bed post. plus the biological unfairness of it where women experience chemical changes making them love the ones who they have intimate contact with where guys can act simply out of carnal desire with no chemical attachment. cats are great though, I would pick them over people on most days, but don't let yourself miss out on life because one got away, we have the capacity to love many people in different, and exciting ways. no two loves are the same, but that doesn't mean we experience any less passion for trying

[Asker]

Sure. I really loved to but I'm quite introvert and reserved type. That's the problem. 😶

[lordpuru]

look the main reason u just can't forget your ex is that you haven't told him about your love just told him if he said ni atlest you can move on

[Asker]

I will. If he's still single and if I have a chance to meet him somewhere. 😞

[lordpuru]

yeah okk u can use social website

[Anhtonybrown]

Many people guys never cherish what they have until they lose it, i guess he never knows what he is missing. A woman will never get the best love and care ever except they try a new date with a very good guy, i means very lovely person.

[Asker]

Not interested in any one right now. I've been single forever so.. I'm scared to be in a relationship. I tried once.. And I literally hurt that poor guy like hell.

[ThereGoesThatBadMan]

This happens to many of us baby, you are not alone. You will fill that void and find happiness. Stay patient with life and love and remember you are still beautiful inside and out, even if that chump didn't appreciate you for it!

[Asker]

Thank you so much. I appreciate it. Will take that in my mind. I hope that he's with someone who's much better than me. I really wish for his happiness.

[Anonymous]

I have a very similar problem with broken heart and unrequited love, it has always been like that with me, I just don't have any luck, that's why I'm still single, never been in a relationship, never had a kiss, virgin in my late 30s
:(

[Asker]

Ohh shit.. Same here! But the only difference is I'm just 20. Don't worry about it. Cheer up! She'll regret it later for sure. I hope that you'll meet someone that really loves you and makes you the happiest one soon.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the support, I hope so too 🤝

[BabaNovac]

If you do not have the will to fight for what you want you deserve to loose! If you fought and lost just move on, life is like a train station, things are coming and going!

[Asker]

Thanks. I agree with you. Will try to move on and fight with my inner feelings.

[John_Doesnt]

Because you need a boyfriend. Find a real man now and you'll forget the past.

[RyanMoran]

Cuz u don't have fucking memory loss

[Asker]

😂🤣 But, I don't want to forget him. He's special.

[TheSpartan]

Send me a PM. I'm very similar and I think we could help each other out.

[disgustingweebtrash]

You'll never forget your first

[Asker]

True tho. 😥

[DESTROY]

cause you dont stop thinking about it.

[Asker]

Not really, my life is quite busy with assignments and stuffs, so I don't really think about him always. Unless, my friends or some stuffs reminds me about him and then poof.

[Anonymous]

Don't become an animal hoarder! Chill!

[sanioc]

just let it go