I would say that it is a POTENTIAL red flag, but there could certainly be reasons that most guys wouldn't care about.
A guy looking at you as a potential relationship partner is going to want to know that you aren't afraid of him, that you don't have commitment issues, that you aren't asexual or aren't against sex, and that you don't have serious mental health issues. Those would be red flags, and certainly some women in your situation would have one or more of those things. But some just didn't prioritize relationships, or had other outside influences or situations.
The biggest potential red flag is that you are so used to being alone that you are unable or unwilling to change and adjust and sacrifice (usually in minor ways) to be able to live with another person who grew up with different parents and different rules and expectations about things. Everyone has to make adjustments and give up minor things - and occasionally major things - for the long term health of the relationship.
Those things aside, guys are going to be far more willing to overlook inexperience than "too much experience."
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Don't worry, you're not the only one. I have never had a relationship, and I've only had sex 3 times. I'm DemiSexual, DemiRomantic, and Demipleasure, so being demi is super hard in the dating society where people mainly get into relationships via hookups, don't talk about themselves, lots of insecurities & paranoia, and ghost at the slightest awkward and/or inconvenient moments. With the fact i have very little experience with romance, it comes across as a red flag and creates awkwardness, because it makes their paranoia kick in giving a lot of negative reasons in their mind, when the reason for my single life is due to, the lack of women finding me attractive, the lack of mutual attraction, and really bad luck when it comes to romance. Because I've had a lot of time being single i have worked on trying to get rid of my insecurities, get a better understanding of what a healthy relationship is, and the dos & don'ts in a relationship.
Sadly from talking to many women, they find a healthy supportive relationship with little to no drama and/or abuse boring as hell. I've learned to just accept my single life and enjoy life when I can. So, cheer up, your frustration is valid. Focusing on it only brings depression.
Not everyone. You’d be surprised how many men haven’t had experience either. I wouldn’t consider being a virgin a turn off. Some men appreciate that you haven’t slept with many or none. If people would wait until marriage to have sex and be more careful there would be less abortions. Besides that being single is amazing and not everyone is meant to be married or have kids etc. If you feel the need to want to start dating then be honest with them from the beginning and that way you’ll know the ones that want to stick around and not waste your time. You’ll need someone who doesn’t care if you are a virgin and wants to get to know you, for you
I'm the same situation as you. I used to be bothered by it but now I don't care. I'm not interested in dating guys from where I live, so dating at this moment is not an option.
Also, I need to focus on myself and changing my life. Sure, I would like to have a boyfriend but I must be kind to myself instead of rushing and ending up dating the wrong guys.
I understand why this might be a concern to you, but I guess it's not a big deal for some men. If they like, they will like regardless of you having experience or not.
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I am going to be honest, okay… This is not directed at you but generally true.
If never married at 30 then Damaged in some major way that I am missing. Still enjoy harassing you at Indoor ⚽️.If 30 and divorced “no problem” as she was able to commit and possesses a character and personality deemed worthy to marry. Investigate.
30, never married, two divorcees then definitely or likely S O with realization ALL assets, that are not shared, will go to children.
Is your concern about dating experience or sexual experience?
Definitely. It’s not necessarily about a lack of experience though. You’re kind of like a home skooled kid showing up to public high skool for the first time. It’s strange and unexpected for everyone involved. People won’t know what to make of you, or vice versa. It’s probably going to be awkward, and you’ll likely encounter some internal and external pressures to prove you’re not damaged or defective. The good part is that everyone kind of has to do that early on in dating. So you’ll at least have THAT in common with everyone else despite having very different experiences. Good luck!
I used to see that as a red flag, but I'm changing my stance on all that stuff.
Lack of experience could definitely be a red flag, but I've also discovered that there are plenty of people who have lots of experience dating who absolutely cannot handle romantic relationships. So, it turns out that the immaturity, poor sexual performance, and other concerns I had about dating women without experience; 1000% apply to women who have experience.
So... don't be insecure... there is a lot of really shit dating out there.
You can look attractive. You need something done with your hair. I don’t know you need to find a good stylist and salon that will transform your hair. As well as take good care of it.
A makeup artist and good makeup. Maybe even using a lot. As well as good clothing.
Almost anyone can look attractive on the outside and on the inside. But many people never put the time, money, effort, or energy into their physical or inward appearance.
You look like a lot of beautiful women without makeup on. Honestly. If you seen ugly to beauty transformations.
I know people in their 50s who have no idea what they want. Granted usually by the time a person is in their late 20s and above they have some experience and a general idea as to what they are looking for, but there are also those who were more concentrated in reaching other goals like their careers and dating was a back burner thing for them. I don't see anything wrong with that, but I would caution these folks to be careful once they do begin to date because there are a lot of people M/F out there that will take advantage of them.
Regardless how scary it is, you just have to experience it. I know most of the time, people say "I'm better off being single"... but they say it because of an experience too. It's part and parcel of life. You can't always have what you want, and nothing is perfect also. You just gotta try and see.
I'm 24 and barley getting a real serious relationship since 2 years ago with my current boyfriend tbh and I know people my age who already have kids and I'm sure the pressure is so real since you're 30 and its a huge milestone but I'm sure something will happen soon and someone will like you for you:) my boyfriend Is 20 and I don't have a whole lot of experience intimately but he doesn't care.
No of course not maybe the person is just ugly or shy or both. One of the sweetest girls I know used to be 300+ no guy would ever date her now she’s lost over half her body weight she’s always been super pretty and now guys want to date her left and right. It’s a reality there’s nothing wrong with her. Now she’s suspicious of guys
It’s not a big deal for me. Although I’m 7 years younger, I also have almost no dating experience and am long past the age where it’s expected for me to have some, and it’ll probably be a bit longer before I start trying to put myself out there again.
it is not a red flag. after all, I started dating at 34. My boyfriend believes he found a rare gem. he could not believe it when I opened up that he's my first guy. Then he started wondering if I had done "bedmatics" (my term for sex) before. and at first I wanted to lie but I had to come clean that I'm still a V. He was stunned and started calling me baby girl. it was funny but he loves me to the bone.
At some point though, everyone has no dating experience. It's equally possible that the person knows exactly what they want and hasn't found anyone who encapsulates it. In that way being single is a choice and until they find the right person they'll stay single.
no to be honest some people prefer there freedom from lovers to do what they like instead of trying to get told what to watch or hardly getting to do what you like freedom is amazing u can just be free to do what you wanta do
You’re fine. You shouldn't have to impress anyone or be the one who feels the need to. Its like having no credit. The sky is the limit compared to us with poor credit. That shit is a curse to come back from
I wouldn't consider it to be a red flag. I myself being almost 30 do not have any dating experience. But I really don't feel bad about it. You're perfect even if you do not have any dating experience.
P. S. it's better to stay single rather than dating someone wrong.I'm age 54 and never had sex because I want to find the right woman/girl, but I have been on one date and the girl talked about this crush she had the whole time so that was no more with her and yes I'm a single pringle.
If she asexual then yes, but many men prefer an "inexperienced" woman, as she not a ho.
I was in same position at in my 30's. It's not easy to start dating but in my experience people are pretty understanding. If they aren't then they aren't the person you're after, just move on.
Both my husband and I were virgins at the ripe old age of 21. If we married at 30 and he was still a virgin, I would have still married him.
Yeah but you also don’t have a ton of baggage and wouldn’t be with someone just because your scared to be single.
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