Why is it a challenge for guys to find girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

It looks like just a simple question at the first time you read and some people might have perhaps been against my statement but I strongly believe that finding a girl is pretty challenging for guys since most of the girls have coercive and puzzling characteristics and on the other hand they have super ego who don't give any chance to men unless they are considered as handsome and above average looking appearance.. When you message a girl, you get "pervert" label, when you want to hookup with a girl, she gets creeped out of you as if we could immediately rape them. Why is it very challenging for guys to find a correct, discreet and thoughtful girl to have long-term relationship?

[OlderAndWiser]

"Finding a girl is pretty challenging for guys" Many guys are out there dating, having fun, and meeting girls. If you aren't succeeding, that doesn't mean the rest of us aren't, either.

"since most of the girls have coercive and puzzling characteristics" Yes, women are different from men and you should be damned glad for that!

"they have super ego who don't give any chance to men unless they are considered as handsome and above average looking appearance." Do you REALLY think that only very hadsome guys get dates? Go hang out in the mall and watch the couples strolling around. All them dudes and dudettes aren't Hollywood movie stars!

"When you message a girl, you get 'pervert' label," Depends on what you message to her.

"when you want to hookup with a girl, she gets creeped out of you as if we could immediately rape them." Why are you talking about hookups since you want a serious relationship?

"Why is it very challenging for guys to find a correct, discreet and thoughtful girl to have long-term relationship?" Almost nobody finds their ultimate partner without dating many others first, and that process helps us to refine our thoughts about what we want in a partner. It's all part of the process. If that's too much for you, don't do it.

[inhua]

because the majority of guys don't meet a bare minimum standard for the majority of women which well above the average guy.

and by standards, I'm not talking about internal qualities i. e. good character/good personality which is so easily obtainable to the point, a man could be accused of being fake just for having them. I'm referring to external qualities which can not be faked i. e. money, status and especially good looks (can't fake these by the way)

every now and then we see an odd, seemingly mismatched couple, but those are not the norm, they are outliers like age gap relationships and gay relationships are not the norm therefore they can not be used as "if they can do, we can do it too".

the basis of a lot of relationships these days is founded upon superficiality but unlike women, men can not afford to be picky thus they often have to lower their standards and have to compensate and settle with someone who wasn't their first choice but they had to learn to love them eventually, something the more pickier gender doesn't tend to do very well thus leading to a lot of divorces being filed by them.

[sassy_receptor]

because a lot of guys aren’t worth women’s time. that’s the hard truth. a good majority of men in today’s dating pool who are ugly, weird, super entitled, broke, and emotionally/mentally damaged and women don’t want to deal with that. then there’s another group of guys that are looking for women to basically act like their mothers, maids, cooks, and sex dolls all in one. women aren’t trying to be enslaved, they want a partner that can pull their weight.


guys aren’t finding girlfriends because these guys dont have any qualities that make them relationship material. and the great thing about modern society and dating is that women get to choose partners they genuinely like and want. if guys aren’t being chosen by women they don’t have anything women like or want.

[CubsterShura]

It's a challenge for everyone to find a partner.

[OddBeMe]

Unfortunately expert researchers are busy on cancer, or the pandemic. But I would be interested in a serious study of who finds a date more easily, gals or guys. From what I see as a married man, being an unbiased observer, it appears both sides have equally the number of issues. Just different ones.


So while it appears to you that girls get dates easier, perhaps they’re approached easier because guys are more expected to do that. But that doesn’t necessarily lead to dates.


And then gals have issues…I don’t know. We’ll just leave it there. Gals have issues. Lol

[UniquelyBasic]

I feel a lot of men can be average or above average looking if they worked out a little and had good hygiene. Maybe get a good haircut and dress well and I think you'll be ahead of many men already.

[Cedman]

1. As a man you have to ask girls out which leads to fear of rejection

2. typically it expected for pays for dates and drive girl to a date which leaves out men on the lower economic spectrum out.

3. Competition there is always more men seeking women , than women seeking men. This means some guys are straight up outcompeted and left to be single.

[FilmGuy93]

Because in addition women’s standards for men; the women have to be emotionally in a place where they can handle a relationship. Many times women need to work through their own baggage before they can open up to a man.

[sassy_receptor]

lmao

[FilmGuy93]

@sassy_receptor so, I guess you disagree with my answer then? Lol

[sassy_receptor]

just found it funny

[FilmGuy93]

@sassy_receptor gotcha

[Looksnicholas]

Well, I'm quite happy being single, and that's cool by me in that I am single. I don't feel like I'm missing out on much, so I just enjoy my own quality time.

[Hermitess]

Men are going after the wrong women. They need to stick to prostitutes and strippers and nude cam girls…. Then they’ll live happily ever after

[Anonymous]

I don't know, if a guy became my friend and asked me out... I'd give him a shot. If we hit it off there's a chance it could be one something.

[AdmiralSirJohn]

When you find out, let me know. I'm 54 and still don't know the answer to that question.

[FunkyMonkee]

Because women are so fucking picky!!

[Anonymous]

Only for short , ugly and poor guys