He called the police on me because I confronted him about cheating?

[Anonymous]

I found out my boyfriend had a girlfriend and I went to his house to confront his lying ass and he called the police on me and now we are going to court for restraining order. Am I wrong for what I did? He hurt me and I thought he was my boyfriend and come to find out he was dating an old lady who works at his business.

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He had a long term girlfriend

[Izzy_3991]

You wanted the truth. There isn’t a problem with that. The truth shall set you free.
You had every right to confront him. He didn’t man up and confess to his betrayal so he called the police.
From your post, it seems like you went about the matter in a civil and proper manner ☺️

[Asker]

Yes, thank you. I was shocked he even had someone because me and him have sex so much. I don’t take people’s men. I was in love and I really believed it was just me and him. I didn’t know he was still “in a relationship” with a long term girlfriend that worked at his business. I’m not sure if it’s just a money thing as to why they won’t break up.

[Izzy_3991]

You gave your complete trust to him. He was selfish and broke that.
Goodness knows why people cheat. It could be so many reasons. Intimacy is usually the big one. Everyone craves it.

I hope you move forward from this bad time in your life.
You deserve the best. Someone to love you and care for you ☺️

All the best 🥰

[Asker]

Thank you 🥰

[Pudsmucker]

Have you ever gotten pissed off at him before? Did you start throwing things? Maybe he had been in an altercation with a woman before. And she was really pissed. Sorry that he's been dating without telling you he's the one that's cheating on his girlfriend. Your restraining order, That just means stay away from a man. That's easy to do because he didn't love you in the first place. He was using you get over it have a good day. He wasn't worth your time of day.

[Asker]

He is still asking me to have sex after the restraining order.

[Pudsmucker]

He is not worth it there are plenty of other dicks out there that'll satisfy you.

[jshm2]

Yeah you were a dumbass.

Did you think it was going to be like in the movies? Where he would break down, cry, and beg forgiveness while his colleagues would clap and cheer for you?

You should have gathered evidence and reported him and his mistress to the business heads. Then ruined their lives by getting her back, and then walked away.

Now, instead, they've got you over a barrel and will fuck you up as a crazy person.

[Asker]

I’m the mistress tho because the lady is a long term girlfriend that works at his business. He is the owner of the business. I had no clue it was his girlfriend. I was shocked because me and him have sex so much and I’m not sure why he would not broken up with the lady. It may be about money is why they won’t break up.

[A_Bell]

You "confronted" him. That sounds like domestic violence. Switch your private parts in this story and how do you think it should end.

Women are learning that guys are waking up to violence by women and are no longer remaining silent. We want equality and this is it.

Grow up.

[Asker]

Get a life witch

[A_Bell]

Your anger is why you'll end up in jail. Take a breather.

[Anonymous]

Depends on how you confronted him. If you did it by screaming and/or hitting, then yes, you would be in the wrong for how you handled it and he was correct to call the police. If a restraining order is being granted, then it stands to reason you did something to qualify for a restraining order.

[Asker]

I just argued no physical fighting

[User3191989]

Doesn't sound like he has a right to a case here. There's nothing illegal about cheating. It's immoral but, there's nothing illegal about it. You didn't do anything wrong here and they'll likely look at him and think "wtf"

[Asker]

The thing is he made it look like we sent together because he’s been using a different number with me and he denied us all together.

[User3191989]

Like I said, if you caught him cheating, they’re just gonna look at him and go “wtf”

[Asker]

Made it seem like we are not together

[Asker]

Yes they did look at him and his lawyer like they are crazy 😂 the other lady didn’t even want to testify

[Nomina]

Yes, you went to confront him. But HOW did you confront him? Confrontation can go from a calm and collected discussion on the couch to grabbing the first blunt object you can find and you know...

What did you do?

[Nomina]

I'm making an assumption here. I'm not saying it's what you're doing. However, enough time on the internet has shown that when there are posts like this with massive bits of information are dropped yet it's all vague, you gotta dig a little deeper.
Plenty of people keep their story purposely vague to garner support and validation but after some probing they turn out to be the crazy one in the story.

So it's too soon for me to come to a conclusion about your situation. Gonna need more answers. How long had you been together? You say you thought he was your boyfriend, does that mean it wasn't clear to you, you weren't exclusive? How did you confront him? What did he say? Had you spoken at all before he called the police or he just saw you and called?

I don't know anything abour restraining orders but are they handed out willy-nilly... without cause? Does he have a cause?

[Asker]

Arguing only

[Nomina]

How did you argue?

[Asker]

Pissed off because I had no clue he worked with a long term girlfriend at his business and I was shocked because me and him are always together

[Nomina]

I'm really sorry. The cheating part isn't disputed here. But it's the confrontation and restraining order part that's a bit vague.
I'm not saying it's wrong to confront someone after finding out they were cheating. You may not have done anything to warrant a restraining order and that was just a cowardly act on his part, I don't know. But when you say pissed... did you hit him at any point?

[Asker]

No, I never hit people and I wouldn’t want to hurt him because I love him. I was just enraged and did a lot of cursing.

[Nomina]

Okay. Would a restraining order against you hurt you in the future? For like a job or anything?

[Asker]

Not sure about that

[YourFavoriteFriend]

No, you are not wrong! I hope everything turns out fine for you and that this scumbag gets what he deserves!

[MzAsh]

He’s not going to get a restraining based on the fact that you dropped by his house. He has to be able to prove you’re a danger to him. Either he’s an idiot or there’s more to the story here.

[Asker]

No physical fighting. I just argued with him

[MzAsh]

Well, in that case I think he’s just trying to evade accountability for his cheating by deflecting a case against you. Think about it. HE cheats but somehow he’s acting all “omg she’s crazy, showing up at my house, I’m the victim!”

[20yearsolder]

Obviously this relationship is over. If you caused enough scene to get a restraining order placed against you then You went too far

[Asker]

He still wants sex and saying he loves me

[watercolor_lions]

I mean, he has a right to get a restraining order because you went to HIS house and probably yelled at him.

But if he's going to be like that, why fight? Just leave. He's not worth it.

[jayhams]

If he told you to leave and you didn't he had every right to. You have to realize no one is obligated to care about your feelings just because you care.

[nawtee_me]

Yep you were wrong, you have called the other girl an old lady which means you blame her when you should be blaming him. And you have a part to play in this too. You reacted to the situation instead of calmly talking to him about it.

[Asker]

But she is old… I’m 20 years younger than her and he was with her and I had no clue he had a long term girlfriend

[inhua]

the cops are probably there as witnesseses in case a domestic dispute happens

[Asker]

I never hit anyone. I just argued only and he filed so quickly I could not do anything

[A_Bell]

Never hit "anyone." How much property damage?

[Batz2u]

Very wrong! you just should leave him thats all, you are not married and if you were then just divorce him never confront anyone over a relationship he's not into you anymore

[Asker]

You are right it is pointless because it’s not my husband. He is still asking me for sex. I’m not sure about the status of his long term girlfriend and the business

[Asker]

It was more so me being mad that he used my body and I’m thinking we are going to be wife and husband someday. He was calling me wifey

[Batz2u]

You know what! if you want sex from him use the crap out of him just dont get emotionally involved if his cock gets you off use it! and leave it! crap i would

[Asker]

I feel like the long term girlfriend is dumb because he won’t marry her and I think she gives him investment money.

[Asker]

It sounds bad but I do want to use him for hurting me and lying. He has a lot of money and I want to get pregnant by him so I get to his money

[Batz2u]

Thats a real dumb thing to do sweety. getting pregnant by someone you dislike is stupid why make a childs life miserable. get passed that

[Asker]

Yes that’s true. Only if her changes and treats me right and gets rid of the old girlfriend I will have his child

[Batz2u]

can i ask how old you are?

[Asker]

I’m 30 and he is 40

[Batz2u]

this relationship does not sound stable

[Asker]

No it’s not but I hope we can move on from this and he get rid of the old lady and we get married

[Shamalien]

Did you hit anything or anyone? Cause property damage? If you showed up and rang the doorbell he can’t get a restraining order

[Asker]

No physical fighting just arguing

[Shamalien]

Seems out of line for him to get a restraining order then

[FilmGuy93]

Of course you were wrong. Physically confronting someone is never a good idea

[Wise4myage]

Sounds like you need to make him an ex boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

When you confronted him how did you do it? And what triggered him to call the police?

[LimitedBenefits101]

The guy would have whooped your ass

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[LimitedBenefits101]

Should have*

[Anonymous]

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