I accused of cheating and he talks to me horribly when I accused him?

[Anonymous]

I accuse my husband of cheating several times because our relationship isn’t good. He also has accused me and calls me a cheater and horrible names.

Today he said “ You said “ I will get someone to split your shit you ugly ass ho. You ugly bitch. Shut the fuck up. You’re an ugly bitch.” This was after he was bringing up me talking casually/friendly online (that’s it) to another man about 10 years ago. he gets so angry at me but when I accuse him he freaks out on me.

Is this considered abuse? Is he just trying to get me to end the relationship?

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1 y

“Split your shit” means break my skull I’m assuming.

[Valdemort]

Abuse? I would say this is a very endearing and heartfelt way of talking to your spouse. Seems like the kind of marriage anyone would feel appreciated in... 🤨

[Summeroflove]

He probably is cheating on you… Most of the time these people feel if you’re too dumb to figure it out and too weak to stand up for yourself you deserve it. I’m sorry he is abusive to you these people have a sense of entitlement they feel like if you tolerate it then you deserve it.

The worst part of it all is many times dark personalities will drop hints that they’re cheating. Because they have to show you what they’re doing to you but also give plausible deniability as well. They will gaslight you when they call you on it and again… You deserve it in their minds.

You need to file for divorce before he ends up killing you or you do something because you reach your end that will not make you look good. Remember these people will be heavily abusive to you. Cheat on you… But then lie about you. Tell the world that it was YOU doing all of these things. Make excuses for the things they done but turn everything around on you.

[incorrected]

I don't know where it went wrong, or who fired the first shot, but that relationship is OVER.

[Flower7]

Sounds like the relationship does need to end. Why would you want to stay with someone when neither of you trusts each other and he has a complete loss of respect for you?

[Nikki1989]

These are deeply hurtful and degrading insults that attack your appearance and self-worth. Yes, it is ABUSE.

[AnonAndrew]

You should end this. If he's not physically abusing you yet, I imagine it's only a matter of time. until he starts.

[abc3643]

Just end it already. You two need to move on.

[jahaims]

You are both super immature