Is dating really that hard?

[Justneedtokno]

Just getting to know a person can be hard when you are only shown one side the good side.

I think this is why women and men give each other such a hard time to know how we react in a difficult situation

[Anonymous]

Today's culture of showing off on social media, seeking validation from likes from strangers, living in a fuck culture/I don't trust you perception is what life is today unfortunately. To top that off, I think there are toxic traits with masculinity and there are toxic traits with feminism. People from both genders think with these different levels of extreme. I don't support third wave feminism because it teaches women to solely focus on the career, find loop holes to divorce men, that marriage is pointless that having children are worthless. We live in an era where men don't trust women, and women don't trust men.

The political structure of this system, the media has driven a wedge in society. I know this is GAG and people are going to read this and give one of these emojis to signify 🫤 a dislike, go ahead. I can't trust women nowadays. I've had girls hit me up on IG to be a Friends with Benefits dude, I can't take young women seriously. We over complicate things when it comes to dating but to the poster and to other women reading this... Sorry but it's y'all who have extremely higgghhh expectations in men and guys with this Prince Charming/Disney Fairytale mindset. I don't go out in public thinking I AM GOING TO PURSUE A BAYWATCH BABE WHO LOOKS LIKE PAMELA ANDERSON... Come on now. I want this system to collapse, the corrupt political, economic, entertainment, social-norm system we follow today that has led to higher rates of depression, that has driven a bitter hatred for this world, higher rates of suicide, higher rates of divorce. I want God to purify the minds and hearts of those around the world where we can respect each other again.

I do believe this world will change for the better

[Opinion Owner]

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[bamesjond0069]

Dating is hard because there are almost no date able women. And from what I can tell very few dateable men either.

So that's why people don't give a shit. Like how many women are qualified to be any kind of wife? Almost zero %. So it doesn't matter if I fuck over a bunch of skanks who have insane expectations some man will marry a woman who has an OF or fucked 20 dudes... laughable.

And same way, these dudes want a mommy and play video games and smoke weed all day so I mean seriously I don't feel bad girls cheat on them, especially they have gfs who already slept around so duh they going to keep sleeping around and honestly those men do not fulfill the role of men so they are just signing up to be cucked, they practically know or should know this.

Common sense people. And then you got like 1% of men and women trying to do the right things and it's not about doing the right things it's about living with all this crap out there and making the best of it. Because man or woman, to have to talk to 100 people to find 1 possible right person is time consuming and takes forever.

[BlackBeauty90]

It depends.

If you're after cheap sex and causal hookups no "dating" isn't hard. Because celebrities and societal constructs (e. g online dating) is increasingly making hook-up culture as acceptable as wiping your ass after using the toilet. 10 years ago it wasn't quite so.

If you're after an actual date with a decent man or woman yes dating is hard. Because the normality of hook-up means for every decent man or woman who may contribute to your life / future there are 5 to 10 losers (cheap, etc.) you have to weed through.

It's discouraging & why a lot of respectable women/men usually end up dating colleagues, people who go to the same clubs or events as them, etc. rather than meeting strangers because by default you already have a concept of what the person is like before saying "hey wanna grab a coffee".

[BlueScorpio]

It's harder now cause people have become very cautious cause they don't want to run the risk of being hurt or taken advantage of during to personal experiences or observations.

[Guy13]

Dating used to mean Him/Her Person simultaneously in same time and same place. Now with the dating apps and social media, we hang out.

Basically modern daters holding phone with left hand and swiping with thumb while gaming “stick” in the right hand. And, if we man are feeling the Gigolo tonight, Gaming with Girl while swiping Left snd Right and 🍸 🫒 💪

[coachTanthony]

Dating is hard when you show up without authenticity. People don't show themselves so it's hard to be attracted to an empty shell.

[Summeroflove]

I think it is yeah. Not gonna lie. It’s hard but worth it if you find someone you truly love and loves you back

[Messianic_Monk]

I'd say it's hard if you don't know where to look for what you want or how to act in order to get it.

You want a hookup? You go to the bar, learn how to chat people up superficially and then you go home. Chances are, you pull this stuff in a church or some place like it, and you will be thrown out the door.

You want a wife? You probably go to that church, dedicate yourself to godliness, be around lots of people and be authentic to all of them.

Both of these take time, money and a TON of resolve. It might just be more than people are willing to invest.

As for me? I am searching for a wife... but in the end it is whatever the Lord wills.

[jorfan3]

Dating is hard in multiple facets: you have to invest time and effort into getting to know someone, you have to be willing to be vulnerable and open up, you have to be willing to understand and know when to compromise, and, the hardest for me personally, you have to know when to end a relationship.

I am terrible at ending relationships because I don't really like to hurt others feelings. I also suck at it because I tried waaayyy too hard to make things work, because I genuinely wanted to believe things would work. It wasn't until I met my husband that I realized I was trying too hard to do the other person's job and make the relationship work for both of us.

[DizzyDesii]

Dating isn't hard but being patient is. Not everyone moves at the same pace in terms of when the are ready for a first kiss or sex or marriage or saying I love you. And that makes it tough when you’re not on the same page. But other than that, I don't know whats hard about it

[boggboss]

Its is because ad with anything people are good at only showing what they want too and hiding the negatives which then tend to come out later unfortunately but equally I feel because people do most there communication over text we get a sped up expirance of believing we know someone because we talk so much so when things go bad it's like how I know this person when u ain't even been on multiple irl dates

[SphynxUK]

I don’t think it’s hard. It’s called the getting to you know you stage for a reason, and you can’t do this quickly.
And when you are serious, years down the line, you need to live with someone to know if you should marry them as you get to experience everything about them day after day. This to is still getting to know them…

[AmeerX]

I don't think I did wait that long to marry. Maximum time I did give to someone is 4-6 months. If she is the one then let's get married. And no sex in between

[SphynxUK]

You cannot know someone in 4-6 months. So, good luck in your endeavours.

[AmeerX]

True but then why share a bed with them?
And some people think like this, let's find a better person after every few months or an year.

[Anonymous]

Because dating should lead to somewhere go to somewhere and there's few virgins out there I after experienced the dating market I won't invest in girl who's not virgin because most girls now days sleep around and they don't care about body count but this body count has it's impact on the long run they can't pair bond that phase is destructive it makes the girl not satisfied with one partner no matter who he is , and we can see Michael b Jordan his girlfriend dumped her why? Ist Michael? What he doesn't have? The guy is successful and high value and high status and of course millionaire. same case for so many successful millionaire men. There's a say you can't turn someone belong to the street to a house wife. Now days woman Will always look for the next best man example if her man drive Honda she will have an eye on another man who drives Mercedes and she will forget all that good man effort and money and his kindness. That's why mgtow and redpill did success

[dragoblack]

It doesn't have to be, but the current dating society and all the bullshite tactics they try to use (ghosting, hinting, manipulation, giving up when thing get even the slightest bit inconvenient, giving up if things get even slightly awkward, unrealistic expectations,... etc.) that makes it hard.

[Jamie05rhs]

It doesn't have to be. But people (mostly women) make it that way.

[LovingLoverReturned]

Not if your a decent person dating a decent person. And all persons will face so upset and down but it is normal.

[LovingLoverReturned]

Some ups* and downs.
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[KneeDragger]

If it's hard, you're doing something wrong. However, if you don't have a connection, you don't have a connection.

[exitseven]

Dating is often and awkward, messy business. Getting two people's lives to somehow come together and coexist is mostly a crapshoot.

[JSmuve]

Dating isn't hard if you have options. You just have to find the time to go through your options. But if you don't have any options, then, well, dating is non-existent.

[Shiningtempest]

@Justneedtokno Dating is hard because it's impossible to know how long a relationship will last.

[NathanDavis]

for some it is, yes...

for me, it has never been

[Datboi65]

No, people just like to overcompliate stuff.

[LiamJHayden]

Getting a date can be a task but dating itself is simply. "Just don't be fake." Otherwise it will lead to disappointment when the reality comes out.

[FilmGuy93]

Dating was never “easy,” but we make it 1000 times harder than it needs to be.