New girlfriend asking about paying bills already multiple times , should I just pay them?

[Anonymous]

So I really hit it off with this new sexy latin girl in Miami,. We've been out 4x and hooked up the last two dates. The problem is she keeps bringing up bills. Please tell me what is going on here;

1st meeting- I met her at a lounge in Miami, we do drinks, I drive her home she says "well I can stay with you tonight, but if I do I'll miss work the next day and will need you to pay me the amount of money I would normally make at work" I was totally taken aback and said no.

2nd date- I ask her if she is a working girl or something, she says no. That was a one time thing from an acute financial problem she said. We do dinner, kissing, no sex, no money request.

3rd date, Dinner, dancing at night club, but she says afterward her work schedule is tough and " what I really would love is my gringo to pay my bills so I don't have to work as much" Had sex first time.

4th date, dinner , dancing until 6am, total cost $650. On way home she says " I have a list of bills, but its not that that is the only thing I want and you can choose" she then lists all her bills line by line. We had sex again.

That Monday she talks about wanting to see her family in Brazil for holidays, but says the ticket is too expensive. I tell her I bought a Christmas gift for $500 and I can return it for cash value to put towards her ticket. She says that won't cover an entire ticket ($1,350). I didn't respond after that.

Tuesday I say good morning, and ask her about doing dinner,...(SILENCE) for next 36 hours,,,, then says- " I've come to the conclusion this isn't the relationship I want and your not the right guy for me"

Is this purely about money? She wouldn't answer my question as to what "issues" she was referring to. It seems insane to me if she doesn't want to talk now soley over this $1350 ticket AFTER I offered providing Christmas cash value of $500 WTF? Do I have any move here?

Pay the bills and ticket

Don't pay the bills and ticket

Updates

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I forgot to add that the first night , she waited until I got to the hotel to drop the (I need my missed work wages to stay with you) on me, I actually said listen I was going to spend this amount $200 (which I had in my wallet ) at the club anyway so if you want this you can, she said no "$500 only baby". I'm like there's no way you make $500 a day doing nails at a salon.

I offered her to fly with me to Chicago for a vacation for holidays, but she insisted she wants the entire Brazil ticket

[virtue2332]

Look you should have pd her for missing work that first night and been done with it. I mean how much is minimum wage in Florida? It can't be that much. The way I see it cost you way more money and more importantly time to do it your way. You knew better your gut was telling you that first night it didn't feel right you have to learn to trust those instincts they are that part of your DNA that has allowed your bloodline to exist still. Don't go fucking it up now. Fuck around and get kidnapped in Brazil man. Hope it was worth the time lesson learned you are getting off relatively cheap.

[Asker]

No , well I thought as you did. She did eyelashes, so I was like ok, here is $200 (I was planning on dropping that anyway) , but she refused and said $500 minimum. Thats when I got pissed and was like ok, this is just a BS story to extract $500. (I later learned she didn't work on Sundays)

[Truthatanycost]

Stop simping, don't pay anything, stop giving out money to women (or anyone), walk away from users. I would absolutely laugh in the face of any woman who even dared to merely suggest something as ludicrous. I certainly wouldn't be sleeping with her or seeing her again. Get some standards. Control your desires... lest they control you!

[Asker]

Good points, but some of these Miami latinas are just so unbelievably hot.

[jorfan3]

You never really had her in the first place, the second she asked you to pay for her daily missed wages and you said no. She was waiting you out to see if there was a chance you'd change your mind--you sort of did, but not for enough money.

You're lucky she rejected the offer, actually. She could have taken you for more!

[Asker]

So even that was weird, she waited until I got to the hotel to drop that on me, I actually said listen I was going to spend this amount $200 (which I had in my wallet ) at the club anyway so if you want this you can, she said no "$500 only baby". I'm like there's no way you make $500 a day doing nails at a salon.

[StephiC]

If you want her you need to pay her bills.

She's telling you she's not not 50:50 woman. She wants to be looked after and she's giving you opportunities to look after her financially.

If you keep ignoring them she'll move on to a man that can/will.

[Avicenna]

Block her now. She’s all about the money.

[KaiidiraX]

It sounds like this woman is seeing the letters ATM stamped on your forehead. If you don't mind being a sugar daddy it is fine but if you aren't about that then you may want to run.

[Asker]

Well , If I'm going to be a SD , then I rather do that with someone much younger. She's my age. lol

[Billlewis]

I know I would. There is nothing wrong with being in a one sided relationship with a woman who wants you to provide financial support for her. This is my opinion only.

[exitseven]

If you don't remove this person from your life I will find out who you really am and I will smack you in the head.

[Asker]

lmao! Good to know bud. Its just when a specific type of looking latina grabs my attention I feel I can't say no.

[SphynxUK]

Why are you even here asking us? It’s perfectly clear what this about. I suggest you be a bit more picky when choosing a potential partner.

[Dinklex3]

Yes, she clearly only wants you for money.

Doesn't sound like your in a relationship. Sounds like you hired an escort tbh.

[DryGermanGuy]

You are manipulated by a professional golddigger. Better keep a healthy distance!

[douride2]

Drop her like a hot potato. It's all about her getting your money. She is conning you. I can't believe your even asking this.

[KrakenAttackin]

Bro, this chick is basically an escort. Think of her on those terms and add up the cost to see if her pussy is worth it.

[Asker]

Good point. I just can't get around giving flat out cash for putang. Tought makes me cringe. I don't mind going all out on dinners, entertainment, trips, but straight cash exchange? nah , can't do it.

[XXblack88]

I don't think you should pay for her bills or ticket. She sounds like a gold digger to me.

[Twalli]

It's about money. She's looking for a bank, not an actual boyfriend.

[Iron_Man]

Let the Miami girl help you