When is the best time to move in with an SO when one of you has a child?

[Anonymous]

0-3 months

3-6 months

6-9 months

9-12 months

12+ months

[Anonymous]

I’d say after 12 months or longer. I never introduced my son to my girlfriend till about 2 years, just because I wanted to make sure she was going to be in my life for good. I didn’t want my son getting attached for her to leave later on down the road. I mean yea after two years there was still a chance of that happening but at least after about two years I knew more about where this was going. We are still together now after 13 years. I think that’s a good time frame. I know someone pointed out not till after marriage but I’d have to disagree w that. You don’t fully know someone till you’ve lived w them. Like man those dude is a freaking pig, or this girl is dirty. I can’t stand a dirty house, a dirty car. A lot of women I’ve dated were just that. That’s why I didn’t end up w them.

[SnowedIn]

You absolutely cannot, cannot, cannot assign a number to it. Everything has to do with the child. No, they're not in charge, but their comfort with it is 100% your barometer. Only when they're ready to handle it -- maturity, comprehension, behavior, acceptance, etc. -- do you do that. And that might be an excruciatingly long time. No way you can attempt to put a number on that.

[kylee2437]

That depends person to person. I personally wouldn’t allow it until a valid relationship has been developed between the two and if it was my child, I would want to make sure my child actually likes them and they provide substance to my child’s life

[Asker]

If a new relationship had progressed rather quickly what would be the absolute minimum to your mind that would deemed acceptable?

[kylee2437]

@asker again it’s something that would depend on how my child feels because a relationship progressing quickly doesn’t guarantee that the man you are with is a safe person for you or your child. That doesn’t represent that he will even be there for you child. So as much as it may have developed quickly for YOU , you need to put your child in this situation before you

[dustybiker]

Probably when the child is comfortable with you being around. That would be at their pace.

[Asker]

If a new relationship had progressed rather quickly what would be the absolute minimum to your mind that would deemed acceptable?

[dustybiker]

That would be most important. To me anyway.

[Drumlin2001]

I wouldn't put a time limit on it per se. But a new partner, where possible, shouldn't even meet the kid until you're sure it's a serious relationship. Living together should be a long way down the road.
Slightly different if kid is under 1. Then maybe timeline is accelerated as they won't remember anything

[AdithyaR]

There's no specific timeline for that.
In a situation like that, the kid is the priority so before moving in you gotta make sure
1. The kid is comfortable around the SO and is okay with them cohabiting.
2. The relationship is stable enough that there won't be any spontaneous changes after the move in. Now naturally this can't be entirely predicted but the couple should make sure they really do wanna move in together and are in the relationship for long term.

[TheSpaceGnome]

If her child is also mine, immediately, if it's some other guy's kid, never.

[Stevefiveo]

I think it is when everyone feels comfortable with each other especially the child with the SO.

[OlderAndWiser]

When you are married.

[Guy13]

When married.

[exitseven]

Maybe when the child is in high school.

[Anonymous]

The answer: it depends.