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How can I get her to open up more?

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So to cut straight to it, i began seeing this girl and our chemistry was amazing. We were very into eachother and we done lots of flirting with eachother around our friends but we ended up becoming best friends pretty much and i eventually asked her on a date and things began to change.

she's been single 3 years now, however it ended poorly with her ex and her family hate him and she is also very cautious to date as well. We dated for a few months and while i could see she was really starting to fall for me, it would also cause her to almost pull away more. It took ages for her to begin to hold my hand or cuddle, to where i was so shocked when she did she got embarrassed. She also always forced herself not to admit feelings as if it would hurt her to do so and i felt the closer she got to admitting her feelings as time went on, the more shit tests she began to throw at me. I eventually failed a few which led to her finding me needy and me finding the tests irritating and i eventually went no contact for a bit.

She reached out, we began talking etc and met up at a friends party recently. It was like we were an item, we spent all night laughing and talking and i invited her back to mine which she agreed. While waiting for the taxi she apologised for playing too hard to get with me and said she just wasn't sure on a relationship yet but felt i was and it scared her.

When we got to mine SHE initated sex and i was shocked. She had a great night and wanted to cuddle and began talking about dating again. While we woke up and continued cuddling, we didn't build on it much. I didn't want to say anything and come across as needy which she feared so we just talked a bit. I was curious how to help her continue to open up more to being with me, as it clearly makes her happy, but she fears being "suffocated" and "locked away" in another relationship after the ex. How do i approach this?

How can I get her to open up more?
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