What's your love language?

Question

Do you know your love language? Mine are definitely physical touch and quality time.

Datboi65 · Accepted Answer

The first time I heard of the term "love language" I must've been a senior in high school. I almost laughed at how silly the concept was to me back then, and part of me still doesn't believe in such a phenomenon.

People aren't really that different in how they express affection. You're gonna find out among most that physical affection and quality time are the most frequent. No brainer, right? Unless the person is an introvert that really likes their space or they have had some trauma, most people like physical touch.

What I listed are the 2 basic ones, but I kinda view it as a spectrum. In a healthy setting, you should have all of them, and then some come with gender differences like gifting (men) and acts of service (women).

Looksnicholas · Accepted Answer

I said acts of service, but then maybe she'd just take me for granted hahaha. Ah well, anyways, I guess I was leaning between words of affirmation or touch. I do like consensual hugs, consensual touching. Obviously always consensual only and never in this day going up to random women for a hug. Now guy friends, sure he handshake and bro hug or shoulder hug, but that's guys being guys or even football bumps.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Its apparently quality time but i really enjoy my space so I always boot it to second place. I believe words of affirmation is the one for me. I mean, I don’t really know how to take a compliment but i’ll take it anyways 😂 Words and delivery mean everything to me. I also enjoy expressing myself through poetry and music lyrics. And If someone breaks their word more than once, the trust is already out the window for me

ch15hann · Accepted Answer

i would say my love language is definitely gift giving and acts of service. i love to remember people’s likes and dislikes, and observe them as a person (this is for people i love). But i love it when i see someone do any acts of service towards other people or me because i appreciate it when they can realize if anyone needs a helping hand

Guy13 · Answer

Physical Touch and quality Time conjoined. They feed off one another for me.

Avicenna · Answer

This is something I pay attention to. It’s physical touch and quality time.

coachTanthony · Answer

Quality time for sure.

BlueScorpio · Answer

Snuggles, hugs, kisses, time together ❤️

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

I have made this drawing. If the time comes when I find thee gorl I can call me girlfriend, I Willa gib her this as declaration of now One.

Blackmoonsns · Answer

As a man it's a emotional, women want an emotional connection men want a physical connection I've learned through my life growing up that the emotional connection is better it leads to deeper levels of intimacy trust and bonding. When a woman's emotional needs are fulfilled she is a hundred times more likely to fulfill a man's physical needs.

libsaretards · Answer

I have a bit of all 5, but here are mine in order:

1. Physical Touch

2. Quality time (Very close to physical touch)

3. Words of Affirmation

4. Acts of Service (I am better at giving than receiving this love language)

5. Gifts (I do not really respond to this at all)

A_Bell · Answer

Skin to skin contact forms a bond like no other. The warmth, the texture and muscles flexing beneath the skiln.

MoonSkies2 · Answer

quality time. I don't care about gifts. I'd rather go together to restaurant, watch a movie or travel on vacation. For me, any time spent with someone I like is quality time, regardless what we do. That and acts of service are the main ones, with the others being not very important at all. I'm more of an "actions speak louder than words" kind of girl.

Chill_Thoughts · Answer

Physical touch for sure, quality time and a few compliments never hurt

letuswaltzforthedead · Answer

Top three would be 1. Physical touch, 2. Quality time, and 3. words of affirmation. I am awkward at the other two and, not to mention, bad at gift giving.

tenor55 · Answer

Mine are physical touch and quality time. My wife’s are words of affirmation and acts of service. Anyone see how this could cause some issues? ( rhetorical question).

TrueConfection · Answer

Acts of service! Hold the door for me, make me a cup of coffee, rub my shoulders... I'll turn to putty.

Guanfei · Answer

Gifting and physical touch.
I'm terrible at expressing my feelings, so I make gifts to show someone I love her.
I'm also extremely fan of any physical touch, cuddles, hugs, caresses kisses... I could spend a day cuddling and not be tired of it.

AsaKyo · Answer

In order: 1. Quality Time (highest)  2. Acts of Service  3. Words of Affirmation  4. Receiving Gifts  5. Physical Touch (lowest)

petitedollbabee · Answer

Quality time, physical touch and words of affirmation.

Labokachulaa · Answer

Mine are the same as yours, definitely physical touch & quality time.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Mostly physical touch and quality time. I get very touchy when I get affectionate and happy. And when I'm not really there or something is wrong, I start to distance myself and avoid my partner.

NathanDavis · Answer

all of these and more... but if you want me to select from the list, I'll go with quality time I certainly like and need that closeness and share dedication

TheorionMage · Answer

Because 'quality time' is when you share one another's full attention and 'communicate' both physically and verbally savoring ALL one's senses. Totally vulnerable and with trust.

MendaciousMarxist · Answer

1. gift giving 2. quality time  3. acts of service 4. words of affirmation 5. therapy

Anonymous · Answer

words of affirmation. i know i can be annoying, but it helps me feel stable.

Wish4UrB00ty · Answer

A, B and E for me. I think at least although I speak words of affirmation like I breathe air. I don’t know where that one came from.

Guardian45 · Answer

Physical touch and smell are hardwired directly to my limbic brain, bypassing my cognitive brain. I simply emote from the stimuli.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

Physical touch, quality time, and words of affirmation

Massageman · Answer

Oh yes I know. Read the books a few times. #1 Acts of service. #2. Physical touch. (well, I AM a Massage Therapist!). My wife's are the other three! Go figure!

AdithyaR · Answer

Physical touch and cooking for them. And also kinda odd but dancing with them, i don't mean like normal club dancing, like learning a choreography together and doing it with each other.

Literalbillionaire17 · Answer

Physical touch and gifting. It doesn’t even have to be an expensive gift I have a love for the little things like handwritten letters and romantic scavenger hunts and stuff

DenizLikesTennis · Answer

Only two things Quality Time and not lying to me

YourLatinLover · Answer

I love favoring and giving small playful touches to let a guy know that he’s the center of my attention jaja

qupid911 · Answer

I don’t even know any more. Quality time and touch maybe but I just don’t know

Lucy68 · Answer

I wish there was an all of the above option

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

Mine is a combination of (Quality Time) and (Acts of Service).

Sonorous · Answer

Depends on who's the giver & who's the receiver.

Noahzaid · Answer

I can’t choose a single answer because in reality every situation has its action.

clampfan101 · Answer

I want it to be all of the above, but am still shy and poor. :/ I’d say quality time is most important, though. What good are the rest without it?

chilldude33 · Answer

same: touch and quality time but how can you touch someone without spending quality time with them? at a party, i guess but that would be weird

MoniqueTLC · Answer

Physical touch and Time

trina_x · Answer

im the same as you  but mostly touch

Rizwan_khan · Answer

I like to spend quality of time with i love the most because for me it is your time which is most valuable thing you have to give whome you love most.

Anonymous · Answer

Perhaps I am weird by todays standards. I tend to cook for them or write some poetry. It's not that, I am bad at those yet still try, many of my works got published. But nowadays most women don't like it.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Any woman who's love languages are "acts if service and/or gifts" is to be avoided like the plague.

Damian69 · Answer

Physical touch, I love kisses and holding hands, it melts my heart

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Love us not a language love is a financial transaction.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Where's the Brazilian wax? Rip the hair off my asshole and make me hulk up!

Fuentes · Answer

Acts of service such as leaving me alone lol

NewYorkCity · Answer

Physical language is The only language that matters in relationship, the rest you can get in a virtual world.

SnowedIn · Answer

Definitely acts of service

krin_m · Answer

All of the above!

Rahimi · Answer

Physical touch is best love language. it can be easily understand by any one.

Ninania · Answer

Quality time and acts of service.

Downhill20 · Answer

Quality time and physical

Anonymous · Answer

I like buying gifts, enjoying a movie/dinner together, etc

Screenwriter · Answer

Touch and time go hand in glove.

Clairebear799 · Answer

Definitely a mix of all of them

Kori1236 · Answer

Quality time and words of affirmation

Bethany22 · Answer

quality time

AnUglyBarnacle · Answer

Physical touch and words of affirmation.

alice55 · Answer

Acts of service

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