What's your love language?

[sheikalana]

Do you know your love language? Mine are definitely physical touch and quality time.

Physical touch

Quality time

Gifting

Words of affirmation

Acts of service

[Datboi65]

The first time I heard of the term "love language" I must've been a senior in high school. I almost laughed at how silly the concept was to me back then, and part of me still doesn't believe in such a phenomenon.

People aren't really that different in how they express affection. You're gonna find out among most that physical affection and quality time are the most frequent. No brainer, right? Unless the person is an introvert that really likes their space or they have had some trauma, most people like physical touch.

What I listed are the 2 basic ones, but I kinda view it as a spectrum. In a healthy setting, you should have all of them, and then some come with gender differences like gifting (men) and acts of service (women).

[Gagname]

@Datboi65
The following article…

www.huffpost.com/.../your-spouses-love-language_n_5a580310e4b0720dc4c5ab71

…says this about “The 5 Love Languages” concept…

“In relationships, people tend to show love to a partner in the way they’d personally most like to receive it [instead of in the way their partner would most like to receive it]…

Taking the time to learn and really understand your partner’s primary love language, which is often different than your own, can improve communication and strengthen your bond [with your partner].”

[Looksnicholas]

I said acts of service, but then maybe she'd just take me for granted hahaha. Ah well, anyways, I guess I was leaning between words of affirmation or touch. I do like consensual hugs, consensual touching. Obviously always consensual only and never in this day going up to random women for a hug. Now guy friends, sure he handshake and bro hug or shoulder hug, but that's guys being guys or even football bumps.

[DizzyDesii]

Its apparently quality time but i really enjoy my space so I always boot it to second place. I believe words of affirmation is the one for me. I mean, I don’t really know how to take a compliment but i’ll take it anyways 😂 Words and delivery mean everything to me. I also enjoy expressing myself through poetry and music lyrics. And If someone breaks their word more than once, the trust is already out the window for me

[DizzyDesii]

If a guy can write me a poem or love letter, he’s already leveled up in my book

[ch15hann]

i would say my love language is definitely gift giving and acts of service. i love to remember people’s likes and dislikes, and observe them as a person (this is for people i love). But i love it when i see someone do any acts of service towards other people or me because i appreciate it when they can realize if anyone needs a helping hand

[Guy13]

Physical Touch and quality Time conjoined. They feed off one another for me.

[Avicenna]

This is something I pay attention to. It’s physical touch and quality time.

[coachTanthony]

Quality time for sure.

[BlueScorpio]

Snuggles, hugs, kisses, time together ❤️

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I have made this drawing. If the time comes when I find thee gorl I can call me girlfriend, I Willa gib her this as declaration of now One.

[sheikalana]

That's very sweet of you and you're also quite talented. Keep up the good work.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Tank hYou

[Blackmoonsns]

As a man it's a emotional, women want an emotional connection men want a physical connection I've learned through my life growing up that the emotional connection is better it leads to deeper levels of intimacy trust and bonding. When a woman's emotional needs are fulfilled she is a hundred times more likely to fulfill a man's physical needs.

[libsaretards]

I have a bit of all 5, but here are mine in order:

1. Physical Touch

2. Quality time (Very close to physical touch)

3. Words of Affirmation

4. Acts of Service (I am better at giving than receiving this love language)

5. Gifts (I do not really respond to this at all)

[A_Bell]

Skin to skin contact forms a bond like no other. The warmth, the texture and muscles flexing beneath the skiln.

[sheikalana]

Absolutely.

[MoonSkies2]

quality time. I don't care about gifts. I'd rather go together to restaurant, watch a movie or travel on vacation. For me, any time spent with someone I like is quality time, regardless what we do. That and acts of service are the main ones, with the others being not very important at all. I'm more of an "actions speak louder than words" kind of girl.

[Chill_Thoughts]

Physical touch for sure, quality time and a few compliments never hurt

[sheikalana]

Love that.

[Chill_Thoughts]

Tho tbh I can't help to evolve most physical affection into something sexual. Unless it's a very quick hug or smth, even the most innocent of cuddles end up in grinding and humping before long

[sheikalana]

I know LOL. Sexual intercourse is physical touch.

[Chill_Thoughts]

Ik ik, some people just get annoyed that they can't be spooned by me and not be poked and eventually fucked before long 🤣

[letuswaltzforthedead]

Top three would be 1. Physical touch, 2. Quality time, and 3. words of affirmation. I am awkward at the other two and, not to mention, bad at gift giving.

[tenor55]

Mine are physical touch and quality time. My wife’s are words of affirmation and acts of service. Anyone see how this could cause some issues? ( rhetorical question).

[TrueConfection]

Acts of service! Hold the door for me, make me a cup of coffee, rub my shoulders... I'll turn to putty.

[Guanfei]

Gifting and physical touch.
I'm terrible at expressing my feelings, so I make gifts to show someone I love her.
I'm also extremely fan of any physical touch, cuddles, hugs, caresses kisses... I could spend a day cuddling and not be tired of it.

[AsaKyo]

In order:
1. Quality Time (highest)
2. Acts of Service
3. Words of Affirmation
4. Receiving Gifts
5. Physical Touch (lowest)

[petitedollbabee]

Quality time, physical touch and words of affirmation.

[Labokachulaa]

Mine are the same as yours, definitely physical touch & quality time.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Mostly physical touch and quality time. I get very touchy when I get affectionate and happy. And when I'm not really there or something is wrong, I start to distance myself and avoid my partner.

[NathanDavis]

all of these and more... but if you want me to select from the list, I'll go with quality time

I certainly like and need that closeness and share dedication

[TheorionMage]

Because 'quality time' is when you share one another's full attention and 'communicate' both physically and verbally savoring ALL one's senses. Totally vulnerable and with trust.