My son is dating a creepy obsessed girl?

[Anonymous]

My son is 14 and recently started dating and I’m ok with this. He’s been going out with a girl for about three months. It is very innocent and they rarely see each other. There has not been a real date between them, just a school type of thing. The problem is the girl is acting a bit obsessed with my son. She’s saying she wants his last name and children and mind you these are children. My son has dreams of college etc. I found out this girl is smoking weed and drinking and getting all Fs in school. I honestly want her to stay away from my son. What would you do in this situation. I don’t see anything good in this situation. What should I do? I think this girl has home problems and is taking this puppy relationship too serious. My son said he just feels sorry for her. Why would this child be saying she wants to be married with kids at 14? I’m creeped out and my son is as well. Should I talk to her parents?

[blackgaletiger]

I can understand your concern and for one there is no need to talk to her parents but your son. Ask him more about this girl what he likes about her what he doesn't, how she makes him feel and how he feels about her. Be natural with him and have a natural conversation without bombarding him or pushing him away. He will probably date a lot of different types of girls and women and its on him to learn about them. I can relate because I have been in the same situation. I dated a girl in high school that smoked weed wasn't doing well in school causing problems from time to time. she was facing depression because her father passed and couldnt find an escape. she talked a lot about marriage and living together and such. no she wasn't my type but i took the experience i learned from it all. how to deal with help and how to understand a different light. I stayed true to my nature and she eventually moved on. Point being yes there will be people your son will associate with but as long as he stays true to the values he is taught then he will make the right choices. You as a parent want to be there for him and parent him in a way that not really parent like ( natural without the "because I said so" kind of attitude)

[Asker]

I’m afraid she will take it hard when he wants to move on. My son is flirting and talking to other girls as Well. Other girls have good grades and are not making him there end all be all.

[Summeroflove]

You’re his mother you can end it if you don’t feel it’s best for your son

[Asker]

He ended up just ghosting her.

[Summeroflove]

Well. He really shouldn’t do this. It’s cowardly. It’s better to tell someone

[Anonymous]

I don’t like this and I don’t know how to help
I know I might sound bad saying it but teach your son or let him know at least he won’t get her pregnant this is like very important.
This is going to ruin HIS LIFE for a probably loading bitch
Just tell him exactly my previous sentence
When your son says he feels bad for her TELL your son the truth that some girls deceive boys easily to get what they want.
The only way your son get away from her is him letting her go.
Constantly let your son know she might ruin his life. Sounds harsh but truth

[Anonymous]

Yes, talk to her parents so they can have an opportunity to have a chat with her. Promiscuity and growing up too fast has always been a thing, but with the way social media gets a hold of these kids, it’s almost trendy to be a young mom and it’s sick.

[Asker]

He blocked her and ghosted

[Opinion Owner]

Oof, well maybe it is for the better!

[Anonymous]

Won't do you any good because her parents don't give a shit. They're well aware of the situation and don't care. There's trouble going on in that girl's home which is why she's acting the way she does. Her dad works to much and her mom is a drunk whore who has sex with other guys and does drugs with other guys. She comes from a very fucked up and dysfunctional home and her upbringing shows it which is why she's acting the way she does

[Opinion Owner]

Listen any blind man can clearly see that. Talking to the parents will result in, "we tried talking to her about it we just don't know what to do" or "we're aware of the problems we just don't know what to do at this point" "we thought about military school and taking her to a counselor or therapy" they'll lay that bullshit crap on you

[Opinion Owner]

Another problem since your son is 14 the more you tell him to stay away from her the more he'll want to be with her until he gets his heartbroken by her. He's 14 he's at that rebellious stage in life

[Opinion Owner]

And once he gets his heartbroken by her he'll come running to you but not wanting to talk about it at first and it'll be a painful traumatic learning experience for him. The only true way out of it is if he meets another girl who's more attractive and that he fancies over her, but here's the catch you can't set him up with someone he won't go for that he'll be rebellious if you try setting him up with someone he has to do it on his own

[slatyb]

If your son is creeped out too, what's the problem?

[Anzyy]

I think u should end it asap. And if needed speak to her parents. (If she is persistent)

[es20490446e]

Why isn't your son creeped out himself?