Is it wrong to love two men at the same time?

[Reemaa]

Yes

No

[elizamichale1]

No not at all... love is not in ur control honey... i was n am in love with 2 guys n i m married to them both

[AmandaYVR]

We can't always control how we feel. The heart expands. There is room for more sometimes.

[Tracker1958]

Who gets to father the kids? Does to third guy father the kids? Who pays the child support? What if her favorite gets another woman pregnant and now his money goes to another woman? This only works for men if none of his finances go to raising any of her kids.

[AmandaYVR]

@Tracker1958 The Asker's q is about loving two at the same time. You took it to the farthest extremes of financial responsibility and genetic propagation.
Her question does not specify action on the feeling. Nor does it eliminate scenarios such as a past ex, where thoughts linger even though both have decided the relationship is over.
Life is not tidy, and feelings are not always neatly delineated. When people learn to accept that some amount of messiness will undoubtedly be a part of one's experience (and other's), they'll be closer to finding peace, instead of living in a state of constant bitterness, feeling slighted, and wronged by the world.

[ChillaxingLove]

I understand that, but you got to try and snap that heart in order because that’s the same heart that will say it wants a divorce after 40 years of marriage because its not in love anymore

[AmandaYVR]

@ChillaxingLove People do also fall out of love. Most relationships end at some point. (Look at all relationships, not just 50% of marriages. Even family members go separate ways and don't find common ground enough to stay in contact.) People change, evolve, and sometimes devolve or become stagnant. When people are hurt, left, their emotions can blind them to reason, and they look to find fault in the other who has hurt them. But relationships have two parties involved, and they are, and always will be, free will.

[Lynnfriend]

I like that but sometimes it is hard to except and resentments are built and it is hard to not feel wronged by the world and bitter, but that is great if you can keep from hanging on to those resentments because you won't like who you become if you don't or can't release them.

[AmandaYVR]

@Lynnfriend Exactly. It's very difficult. Very. Being a human isn't easy.

[OlderAndWiser]

If you think you are in love with two guys at the same time, then you need to define what you mean by "love," because in my world, this would be impossible.

[AmeerX]

It's not impossible

[bamesjond0069]

Agree. It's not possible.

[blueonblack22]

She’s more in love with concept of being in a “love triangle”. It’s feeding her fantasy in being in some stupid twilight movie or something. I bet one guy is more of an asshole and the other is more of a nice guy. It’s about getting the “best of both worlds” in her selfish pov.

You watch she will likely make a decision to pursue the asshole and friéndzone the nicer guy. She has zero clue how much agony this will ultimately cause the guy who gets rejected. But the drama of being in a love triangle makes it all worth it.

[AmeerX]

@blueonblack22 may be she is a poly?

[bamesjond0069]

@AmeerX not possible.

[AmeerX]

@bamesjond0069 it's a world. Everything is possible

[bamesjond0069]

@AmeerX so flying pigs are possible? 🤣 cucking is sure sign of a mental disease.

[AmeerX]

@bamesjond0069 not cucking. Just saying that it is possible. May be they agree on something. Don't know what to say

[OlderAndWiser]

In my world, "I love you" means I want you to be in my life every day and every night for the rest of my life. I want to devote myself to our relationship because I know you feel the same way. It doesn't mean 'I feel that way half the time.'

[bamesjond0069]

I don't quite agree with your angle even though we agree overall. I think it's humiliating and disgusting and no woman who even cares about you, let alone loves you would ever disgust you and publicly shame her man. Period.

[AmeerX]

@bamesjond0069 she isn't shaming any

[bamesjond0069]

@AmeerX yeah it is. Everyone makes fun of cucks and rightfully so. They are the biggest wimpy pos dudes one could possibly be.

[blueonblack22]

@AmeerX have you ever been in love with someone? Has someone ever been in love with you?

When that happens you are number one person in that persons life or/(hopefully and) vice versa.

But a decision is made that you don’t have any control over. You might find other people attractive/fun but deep down you have your sights set on only one person.

Bottom line is that the female QA is full of shit. There is a reason she posted anon. Deep down she knows this is wrong but it’s just too exciting for her.

She is just in love with love triangle scenario but not in love with “two” people. She definitely has stronger feelings for guy A but can’t let go of guy B. It’s because guy B offers something guy A doesn’t and vice versa. She thinks it okay to “piecemeal” her perfect man. But you can not serve two masters.

100 bucks she will ultimately go to the asshole because he’s more of a challenge and she will try to friéndzone the other guy because he is too available and less intriguing.

There can only be one winner here. Someone will lose. But she wins either way and doesn’t care about the agony that’s in store for one guy in the near future.

And seriously quit telling her it’s okay. I am not going to outright call you a cuck but it definitely is a simp move to agree with that female bullshit.

[AmeerX]

@blueonblack22 lol, she is not anon. Her name is clearly written Reema. You can go DM her if you like.

And I didn't say love for two people can be equal. Ideally the first person she found will always be privy to more of her love while the second person will be loved but less intensely

[Lynnfriend]

I think you can love more than 1 person at a time humans are designed that way. But depends on what you mean by love. If you mean have a sexual relationship than no. I had a friend who lived next door to me for many years and we were close he helped me with a lot of things. When my boyfriend and I broke be up. This guy ask me out on a date. I turned him down because I was not interested in him in a romantic way. But that was not the only reason he was an alcoholic and had no ambition. His routine was get up at 10:00 am go to the store and buy beer he stated drinking as soon as he got home and stop

[Lynnfriend]

Stopped when the case was gone I could not see my life that way. I know this is going to sounds bad but he was on social security disability and received $680.00 a month and he wanted to take me out in a nice date dinner and dancing but I would feel guilty if I accepted because he could not afford it. So he's my friend am I supposed to go out with him help him spend his disability check and leave him broke the test of the month. He would not have let me pay for anything because that would have hurt his pride. Needless to say it still hurt his pride

[Lynnfriend]

What I was trying to get at was eventually you will have to make a choice, they need to know it's not fair to leaf them on. That's kind of what happened with my friend he would never talk to me again after I turned him down but I was doing it for his welfare I thought.

[Moose304]

I really can't make any comments much because I have several ladies that are friends with benefits. I choose to live this way because I have no desire to settle down. So to quote Tina Turner

Tina Turner - What's Love Got To Do With It (Lyrics) - YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/embed/mw78mrc6K5A

Now! If I am 30 years younger and attempting to have a loving relationship I REFUSE to be the pivot person in a 3 way! I rather live alone!

[FinalFantasyBro]

It depends on the circumstances despite most popular beliefs it isn't wrong to love two or more people at the exact same time regardless of the gender, but you need to be clear on those men don't just lead them.



I feel like most people tend to forget you don't have to be in a monogamy relationship you know the traditional two person couple, polyamarous relationship or do one of those open relationships. But you need to be honest with these men and see who you really love if you can't decide or if you really want an open relationship or a polyamarous relationship than you have to be straight up with those guys you tell them how you really feel if they can handle this than it might be a polyamarous relationship there being sparked now if they don't want to get caught in a love triangle or didn't imagine there was another dude involved both guys would mostly either fight for your affection or they bail out because they aren't into two timing women.

[SeriouslyFunny00]

“No one can serve two masters, for either he. will hate the one and love the other; or else. he will be devoted to one and despise the other.” — Matthew 6:24

I think this verse can be applied to relationships as well. You'll have to choose between them.

[mamuma02]

Maybe one gives you emotional love and the other sexual love?

Anyway its impossible for me to love two men at the same time.

Seen videos of people having many partner they claim to love the sam. Or a man who loves rwo twins. Maybe you are polygamous?

[blueonblack22]

You will end up falling more in love with the guy who is less available and ultimately trying to friéndzone the one who likes you more.

This can’t go on forever. I know women love having “love triangles” because it makes them feel like hot and it adds more exciting drama. But there can only be one winner and one loser on the guys end of things. The guy who loses is usually devastated all said and done.

[Sour-rose]

Well loving them and "loving" them are two different things. :)

Love- well you should love everyone and have no hate towards anyone, it'll darken your soul.
"Love"- Noow if you Love them while in bed... at different times... that's a different thing that can't end well. :)

[SnowedIn]

It's not wrong. I think you're better served by keeping one of those loves inside a quiet box in your mind but it's not wrong.

And although part of me agrees with @akam93 because she's right, there's also poly relationships and that works for some folks.

But, again, you can love a person while loving another. And I don't think it's wrong to do so, again, provided it's in your mind (assuming you're in some sort of committed relationship with one of them).

[mobiusforniner]

Is it wrong? No. I think for men, its even more likely to love more than one woman at the same time. Life is about self control, knowing ones own limitations and recognizing that actions have consequences. Is it wrong to love multiple people? Of course not. Is it wrong to act in ways to deceive others for ones own selfish impulses? Yes.

[aaron210419]

It's not wrong if they know about each other, if they don't know about each other and you love them I would reevaluate what your definition of love is. Do you really love them if you have to hide it from them, or do you love how they make you feel, or do you love what they provide for you?

[mT2359]

Emotionally loving two men at the same time is nothing abnormal. It's is normal for females to have that kind of a relationship with males.

[Reemaa]

Happy to hear that 🙏🏻🥺🌹😍

[mT2359]

Reason: Women are more mature emotionally than Men.

[weysally]

no, but no one can love two men at the same level, and depending on the reason for love, but I know a married woman whose husbands sexual appetite is zero, but great in everything else, so she loves one man for himself, and one man for sex

[PBandJ_Nerd]

If crushing on more than one person isn't wrong, then neither is loving 2 people at the same time. Relationship wise, as long as the people know you're with more than one person, there's consent, and commitment then everything is fine.

[bamesjond0069]

It's not possible. It's disgusting for a woman to love or be with more than one man like this. If I was one of these men I'd dump you out of principle, it's gross. Go be with the other dude if he'd have you. Which he might feel the exact same way.

[BullShark]

Platonically and as best friends? Sure.
Romantically and sexually? Impossible.

I cannot even begin to start where so many things can go wrong here either.

[DarkCarousel]

I think it’s wrong if you’re leading either of them on or if you’re in a monogamous relationship with one of them.
Are you certain that you love both? Are you certain that it’s love?

[DubiousIntentions]

Depends on your intentions with them.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/xFB1yytGLRA

[Anemone978]

No one loves two people at once... this idea is just selfish and not true love... Learn what true love is and then come back lol

[anon1903]

Are you sure you're monogamous? Because polyamorous has it's pros and cons, and if you want a family then I'd probably have to ask you to pick a lane.