Is it normal for my boyfriend to spend time with a female friend alone at her house? ?

[Anonymous]

He’s been secretive about her, saying that he never liked her, but things didn’t add up, his dad told me he recently asked her to be his girlfriend. I’ve never met her and when I suggest I meet his friends be says I only see them at work. Claims she’s not in to relationships, but keeps seeing her at her house, says she needs single male friends, everyone thought they were a couple.

[Anonymous]

How many girl’s do you know deep down that don’t want to be in a relationship? He’s full of shit. If she’s cute then watch out. Why do you think men try to make friends w the cities chicks? Because in our warped little minds we’re hoping she breaks down crying, her man dumped her so we console her thus her dropping to her knees sucking our dicks lol not that same scenario but it all leads to a possibility of sex. It’s like this one dude same, when this girl told him not in a million years “So you’re saying there’s a chance!” Lol

[Asker]

I’m scared on what she’ll do if she changes her mind

[Opinion Owner]

You know unfortunately we can’t control things like that. You just have to hope that e doesn’t but you can’t let that bother you constantly you.

[Kaneki05]

It's normal unless there is reason to think otherwise. Which as you described below is enough reason to think otherwise.
Sounds like he has a crush on her yet she don't feel the same back but likes the attention so chooses to stay friends with him for that.

[Asker]

Yeah she’s not in to him but his father has admitted that he’s asked her out but told me he never she

[Summeroflove]

Bad gut feeling. Well he’s allowed to have friends. But in the context you explained it. His dad is even trying to warn you and he lied about her. Yeah I would break it off.

[Asker]

He told me that he never had feelings for a girl before he met me but used she didn’t want a relationship as a reason he won’t have her, I’m hearing two different things from his dad and he won’t let me meet her

[Summeroflove]

Yeah Asker that’s weird. I would break it off with him. Because it’s all really weird to me too

[Asker]

Yeah it doesn’t seem right others think he is only with me cos she said no

[Summeroflove]

No it’s very weird. If you’re not happy I would leave. It’s very suspicious

[Finchie40]

Yea he is talking out his ass, kick him to the curb , how would he feel if you were hanging out with some guy behind his back? People
Like that are selfish people that only care about themselves , you are best to move on from him and find someone that values and respects just you

[Asker]

He goes if trust you

[Finchie40]

The truth is a guy is not
Going to hang out with a girl all the time especially if he has a girlfriend that he loves and cares about already , just to be her friend, he is talking out his ass , he either wants to bang her or be with her , no guy is going to invest a lot of his time with a girl just to be friends , something you girl’s need to understand when you get into a relationship with a guy , when a girl tells her boyfriend oh he is just a friend , in her mind she might see it that way but the male friend doesn’t , and her boyfriend isn’t going to be happy about it , the male friend is hanging out with her because he likes her more than just a friend and hoping she dumps her current boyfriend for him , why you girls’ in relationships need to stay clear of male friends that want to hang out with you all the time. Why do you think guys get jealous and territorial over a girl they commit to? Because us guys know what other guys are thinking.. For a relationship to last and for love to grow between a guy and a girl you both have to remove selfishness for each other , make each other you top priority over friends and over family , when a partner doesn’t make you their top priority it’s time to kick them to the curb where they belong. You both have to wear each other’s shoes before making decisions, just because you might feel something is ok it might not be ok to your partner , just like I said how would your boyfriend feel if you were investing a lot of your time with a male friend? The fact that your boyfriend didn’t even consider your feelings shows he is a selfish piece of shit that doesn’t deserve you , Never be in a relationship with someone that makes you feel like you have Sucker written on your head , because little do you realize you do. So let that so called girl friend have him because she will be doing you a favor , because he will eventually do to her what he did to you , or she will cheat on him before he does , but all in all who cares it won’t

[Finchie40]

Be Your problem anymore

[Asker]

Thanks

[Anonymous]

You sound very insecure.

[Asker]

I’ve had bad experiences and he’s secretive, he’s met all my friends except one

[Snedger____]

Not normal

[Asker]

Do you think I need to be concerned

[Snedger____]

Yes I think. If she need just a friend, why does he have to be single?

Also I think it’s disrespectful to meet in such way while in a relationship.

You could try telling him you’re going to a guy friend’s house to make him realise how it feels

[Asker]

I did he says he would trust me, but he also knows I wouldn’t cheat due to my past experiences. I have no single male friends. Things don’t add up, he said I’d friends leave work he’ll never see them again, but ge kept in contact with this girl, he’s autistic too so I don’t know if that explains things, the fact that everyone thought they were a couple including the father is concerning