Reading through some of these comments they are all vaildaited for opinion but you really aren't setting yourself up for the best advice, just the words you want to see (Hopefully not to use against him). Some good facts I saw, why is he hanging out with her? Is there a problem she is dealing with that maybe he is experienced in? Have you defined what you expect out of your relationship with him and have come to a compromise. Have you used a nonaccusatory dialogue to explain how you feel and attempted to resolve through compromise? Who has he known longer you or his friend? Then ask yourself, would you feel the same if he was hanging out with his guy friends the same way? Be real honest with yourself here because many times relationships are made difficult because of the fear of a stronger presence of the similar sex. Guys go through it too, of a lady is hanging out more with a guy friend. Maybe sit down and have a conversation, tell him how you feel let him tell youbhow he feels and create a compromise. This if done correctly can only make your relationship better, and even if it doesn't work out, learning to openly communicate will only make you better at other things as well.
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I don't believe it is normal or healthy. I would never tolerate that and would dump her and move on. Some people just seem to think friends are more important than SO on the social ranking ladder. I personally feel once a relationship becomes established, your friends become secondary. Having friends be the priority is one thing, but when they are opposite sex friends, this is where it gets dangerous. Truth time! Guys only have female friends because they are a potential source of sex, or they have hot other friends that they are sexually attracted too. It is completely naive to think and accept girls and guys can be 100% platonic friends. There is always some sort of sexual interest. Therefore, I would never tolerate my girlfriend having a bunch of guy best friends and/or hanging with them all the time. Complete conflict of interest.
It's normal to feel unloved. Here's my opinion on this subject, I have experience with this.
About six months ago, I started dating my boyfriend. I was well aware of his friends and how many he had, who they were, etc. The thing I was most aware of is the fact that his best friend is a girl and that worried me. All three of us (his best friend, my boyfriend, and myself) had to agree that we wouldn't fight over spending time with this guy.
I feel that having open communication with this subject is most important. Express your concerns with your boyfriend and his friend. Don't be aggressive or controlling with this, just be friendly and open to suggestions.
Trust that your boyfriend or his friend will come to you if anything changes or happens between them or you. Communication is first. Don't continue to beat yourself up over this, just talk to them.
Tell him, maybe his friend is going through something. The best move is to not make any assumptions and be straight up with him. If he's your boyfriend, he shouldn't have any trouble answering any questions about his friend. Don't blame him for anything– that won't get you anywhere. Just ask him calmly about his relationship with his female friend, and tell him how it upsets you. There is no use in being angry, anger doesn't get through to anyone.
In my opinion, no cuz he's been spending more time with his female friend than you and he might fall in love with her then break up with you. He has to spend more time with you since you're his girlfriend but he still can spend time with his female friend. All you have to do is talk to him about this (that you're feeling unloved cuz he's been spending more time with his femae friend than you) and he would understand.
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No that's a red flag, you're supposed to be his female bestfriend.
No, that's pretty disrespectful of your feelings. He shouldn't prioritize another girl over you. With that said, I know some people have very close friendships with people of the opposite sex, and this can be really confusing to sort out for an SO. But at some point you have to decide yo trust him or not. Most of the time its what it is, a friendship and getting in the middle of that won't help you at all. If he treats you right and displays affection towards you when she's around, you don't have anything to worry about. But if he downplays you in front of her or distances himself from you when she's around, that's not cool and it's pretty clear something else is going on.
Toughie - How secure are you in your relationship and feel there is no feelings between the two then it just becomes a case of he wants to spend more time with a friend which is a totally different question which I think falls into the quality not quanity answer.
Depends on how new the relationship is. If his female friend is a childhood friend or a friend of the family, he may be very close to her like a sister. If you have been together for a while though, if he really loves and cares about you, then he would be trying to make as much time as he can to spend with you. I know I would.
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I think you need to talk to your boyfriend and let him know that this upsets you that he spends more time with his female friend than he
does you , don't be afraid to speak what's on your mind.Been there done that, talk to him, if he can't respect your feelings might be time to call it quits, honeymoon period of a relationship is not the time to bring in a 3rd party.
I used to be the female friend nothing ever happened between us romantically but you definitely need to ask him why spending time with her is more important.
It's fine for him to have female friends, but if his relationship with you is well established and serious, then you should be his priority.
It’s not normal at all! He should spend more time with you then with any of his girlfriends honestly
Some guys prefer relationships that involve less time with girlfriend, it could mean nothing that he is with his friend, but on the other hand you should keep an eye on him if he is about to cheat on you with this "friend".
Hell no. Its not normal!
I would be so pissed off if my boyfriend did thiswith no more details than this
you aren't really expecting any comments other than
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... are you?Nope its not if he would love you, then would definetly more time with you
No I'd tell him how you feel, you're supposed to be the one that loves him and does things for him
No that's called being an asshole.. Tell him you don't like it.
Completly...
un-normal..me too feeling unloved.. sad honey.. he should be giving much time to you
Why are you still loving him then? Leave him. He is a bad boy
No. But what you gonna do?
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