Is it okay for your boyfriend to hang out with female friend? Is this normal or not?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and i will be together for 6 months. He is different from the guys in l. a. not ths hookup type of guy. I dont think he would ever cheat and he really loves me. I dont know if i am being insecure as always. But he has been in an internship where most of his friends are girls. He goes to lunch with them or with another girl. He tells me of course when we are texting. Yesterday he told me he was playing tennis with one of them who also happens to be his neighbor. She apparently messaged him and offered. He says they all know he has a girlfriend. We've talked about how i feel etc. His internship will be ending this week but he still has these girls on insta and one as a neighbor. Should i be worried or is it acceptable? If you guys have hanged out with the opp gender alone any thoughts?

[Esplorare]

Every woman has a different viewpoint on this topic and different approaches work for different couples. Me? Personally, I don't think it's okay for my boyriend to be hanging out with a female friend. I believe that past a certain age, it's impossible for members of the opposite sex to just be friends. It's likely that one of them has a physial, mental, or sexual attraction to the other on some level. This is why many "platonic friends" will end up f*cking each other or hooking up at some point. I'm also realistic about the increasing amount of sneaky, sleazy, self-absorbed hoes who find it thrilling and a major ego boost to go after taken men. So no, I don't personally think that's normal and I think those situations should be avoided so that problems are not caused in the relationship.

[Wondahwoman]

It's probably nothing to worry about. Some people just get along better with the opposite sex. If it becomes excessive and he starts spending more and more time with his neighbor, starts canceling plans with you to "help" her, or she seems to be all he can talk about then it's something to be worried about.

He lets you know when they hang out, he texts you while it's happening, and seems to be pretty open. It's when they hide things that it's an issue. I don't really see any red flags here.

Would it make you feel better if you met his neighbor? Maybe if they hung out you could tag along a few times? Maybe you two could wind up becoming friends, or at the very least you can see how she isn't a threat.

[Anonymous]

right , so you have been with this guy six months? he works with females and some of the interns are female? he plays tennis with them right? i don't think you need to be jealous about it... look guys are gonna look at girls all the time trust him... don't check up on him or want to look at his phone and that because that is being like really possessive... remember you have only been together six months you don't want to appear being to full on right... !!! give your guy space... i don't like relationships where you have to be together all the time... back off dont be jealous he loves you he will be with you and only you...

[Dark_Scorpio]

Honestly any girl who has a problem with this is insecure and a bit controlling as well. I could understand if he was hiding the fact he had female friends, but he isn't. Then one is his neighbor. I mean most people are friendly with their neighbors. This whole guys and girls can't just be friends things is made up. As long as both parties are mature then they can just be friends.

[Asker]

You're right. I am insecure and think the worst case scenarios

[guy532]

You're fine lol, most of my friends are girls (I get along better with girls having grown up with a sister who I'm very close with) and they're just that, friends. I wouldn't hook up with any of them and I would dump a girl if she ever told me I couldn't hang out with them.

[Asker]

What if you know they have a thing for you, would you still hang out with them?

[guy532]

It depends, if they have it under control (like they're aware that I'm not interested and are not pushing it) then yes I would. However, if they keep trying to pursue me then I'll keep my distance.

[Asker]

Well he says she acts playful towards him but that he is not encouraging her. Like she hasn't professed hee love for him. she's 15 as well

[guy532]

That's pretty young though so it's different. Older women are usually more open with friends. Like My female friends are always hugging me and kissing me on the cheek or walk with me arm in arm or hold my hand and it's all innocent.

[Asker]

Well we are 18. How is it different, do you think?

[guy532]

It just is, hormones are all over the place at that age and inexperience can lead to getting the wrong signals.

[Asker]

Yeah I've been there. You read too much into things

[Just1n123]

It's perfectly fine to have friends of the opposite gender. He's not hidin them so it's okay to let him hang out with them without being suspicious.

[Anonymous]

Even if he isn't the kind to "hookup", I wouldn't trust others

[Asker]

I trust him but not others

[becca123]

I'm fine with it. I have met his female friends and he doesn't hide them, so I trust him.

[Asker]

I have trust issues and i really want to work on it. What would you recommend?

[becca123]

Meet his female friends if you can. Also remember if he is open about them, he has nothing to hide :)

[Asker]

I will be going to his end of event thing this week. So he will be introducing them to me. Thats what i thought. Like i asked him why he was telling me that he was hanging out with that girl. He said he rather tell me than have me find out later. Because it would look as if he were hiding something

[becca123]

Exactly. He sounds like a good guy with common sense.

Now don't be disheartened if some of the girls are pretty. There is a reason they are "just friends."

Your boyfriend has the same mindset as mine. It is healthy, open and honest.

[Asker]

Yeah he is.

He actually has sent me pictures of hanging out with these girls. They are average but who knows when i meet them.

But yes you're right! I should trust him

[becca123]

I'd be way worried if he snuck around with them, didn't mention them, never let you see pics or meet them.

Trust me, you're fine :)

[Anonymous]

It's normal. I have female friends. It's about trust. If there's no trust, then it doesn't matter. You will always be suspecting him...

[Asker]

You're right? Even if its him and one girl hanginf out together.

I mean he was telling me about this one girl the group who he sits next to and how he was sharing his lunch with hee but he suspects she has a crush on him. The way she acts towards him