Am I dumb for entertaining a prisoner?

[Anonymous]

Nothing major, he’s just doing 6 years for distributing drugs. He’s completed 3 and needs needs 3 more. He’s so so so handsome and tbh he’s my type…. which is weird because I have an excellent career, my own place and my own everything. We’re total opposites but get along great…. I see a protector in him, something I never had. Not into parties or any of that. Am I dumb for even entertaining him?

[Datboi65]

Yes you are. This is not a "Bonnie and Clyde" love story, and no you cannot change him. You cannot believe how many times I've heard this scenario before.

You maybe a decent person with a nurturing side, but you're naive. You think you can parent a broken man and fix him, but that's his job to fix himself. No, he won't protect you because he cannot protect himself. If he could, he wouldn't be in jail.

You say he is your type. Could it be you're blinded by lust? A drug sentence is a serious charge because there's other people's money involved in that sort of business. If he owes someone money, he will put you directly in danger and he may even steal from you to pay his supplier. You did not think this through.

You said you never had a protector. You mean a father figure, or an actual father? You don't have to answer that question if you don't want to, but what I can tell you is that a dealer is not going to fill this gap that you have. I would recommend that you seek therapy first and deal with that before you consider dating so you are more aware of the impact of your decisions.

All the best 👍🏾

[WindAtMyBack]

If I understand this right he is still in prison? If that's the case you should stay away from him. Most of those guys are cons saying whatever it takes to get attention from someone on the outside, especially if that someone is a woman.

He has another three years to go. Forget about him. And don't give him anything, or send him anything. Don't feel sorry for him either.

Most likely he's just using you. Don't fall for it. He's out of reach anyway, and he's sure as hell not worth wasting three years waiting for him to get out.

[Akam93]

No. But it is forbidden in a way to flirt with him.

[Anonymous]

I will give you my insight if you bother to reply.

[Asker]

Tell me

[Opinion Owner]

I worked in a prison work release program. You won't believe the things I've experienced and heard.

Isn't this an adorable couple? When he got out, he cut her head off. Before his release he told me he didn't want out of prison. I asked him why, and he said that prison is where he belongs. He was released, and she's dead.
I never understood why so many pretty women would come and visit the prisoners. I talked to many of the guys, and they explained what a prison bitch is. It's a woman they use for money, but when they get out they dump them. But when the guys go back to prison, the prison bitch is back sending them money. Women actually marry men serving life sentences. Why? They can't cheat on or beat their wives. Their prison husbands call them and talk sweet and write nice letters in broken English. Yay!

[Summeroflove]

That’s also the justice system for you…….

[Summeroflove]

If you marry someone service a life sentence. How are you going to have and intimacy? Any children?

I know some people change or are in prison for petty offenses. But I don’t get it either

[Opinion Owner]

@Summeroflove

Don't blame the justice system for her stupidity. He was a very violent criminal, and now she doesn't have a head.

[HelloSofi97]

😢😢😢

[Guy13]

It seems like you like a ad boy and are starved for a strong man’s attention. It’s a train wreck waiting to happen. His associates have plans for him and his status has risen since his Time.
Do not be suckered…if it’s not already too late.

[Summeroflove]

You’re not dumb. Just be careful. There isn’t anything wrong with liking someone though.

[OlderAndWiser]

Dumber than a bag full of hammers.

[exitseven]

yes, this will not end well. There is a website for guys that want to meet women behind bars. There is a section where they warn people that most of these women are in prison for drug offenses and that they will ask you for money and gert you to smuggle drugs into prison for them. I imagine it is much the same for guys..

[JustinTheGreat]

I don’t think you’re dumb. It’s not like he’s a murderer or anything.
Those drug charges could be from something as minor as selling weed for all I know (but you know more about the situation than I do)

I would be more concerned if you know he’s a hard drug user himself cause being with someone with an addiction is not easy.

[Anonymous]

This is typical of a lot of women in today's culture. You are confusing toxicity for strength. You are also on a path of destruction and self sabotage. I see this in a lot of women. It probably comes from a poor relationship with your father.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like he will be a good father to your children. You should marry soon. I think he will be a good guy for you. You can discuss setting up the wedding with him and his corrections officer.

[jshm2]

Yes. You're retarded for entertaining a pusher.

[Kyyroz]

Oh feel free to and avoid the good men. But don't whine after something goes wrong. To anyone.

[HelloSofi97]

Same 😂

[Twalli]

6 years for drugs is a long time.

[KrakenAttackin]

You are not dumb, you are STUPID.

[Danny_dan92]

Oh wow. Prison cock.

[Jmmmfi4]

Are you retarded?

[Anonymous]

Yes. Sounds cliche but you can do better.

[Figurine89]

Probably