is this punishment appropriate?

[Anonymous]

I have a younger brother and sister...my brother is 15, my sister is 13. Well a few months ago my brother made fun of my sister, calling her ugly, fat and a bunch of other hurtful stuff about her body until she started crying. Well as punishment my parents made my brother take his shirt, pants and socks off each day after school for 3 days...he was only allowed to wear his boxer-briefs around the house for those 3 days so he (and me and my sister) could see that he too has faults of his own.

I have two questions: 1. Do you think this is appropriate as punishment, requiring him to stay in just his underwear? Why or why not?

2. If you think it was appropriate, do you think it would be appropriate if my brother and sister were reversed...in others words would this be an appropriate punishment for a girl if the situation warranted it? Why or why not?

[ShesSoSilly]

I understand your parents were just doing what they thought was best but I personally don't think that was the best approach. I wouldn't of done that but who am I to say that's "right" or "wrong", you know what I mean? Its also hard to say because every child is a different individual and they all respond to certain types of discipline differently.

Add to it the ages of your brother and sister, though they still are impressionable, they already have learned behaviors and such so a different approach might not affect them as greatly as if they had that type of discipline their whole life.

I would let him sit somewhere alone (obviously with nothing to do, its a time out) to calm down if he's worked up and to reflect on what has happened. Then I would calmly communicated with him. I would ask him what he is feeling and thinking and his reasons for behaving that way. Then I would try to get him to understand how his actions/words affect someone else and explain to him why its not okay.

I believe in instilling calm and open communication early on and that's what I will do when I have children. It teaches them to use their words in a rational way and have a clear understanding of why something was wrong. Not just a, "don't do it because I told you so".

Anyway to answer your second question it would absolutely not be appropriate if it was done to your sister. To me it wasn't right either way but it would be worse to do that to a girl who is starting to develop physically and emotionally. At her age I think its such a sensitive time and to shame and humiliate her like that would cause some problems down the road.

[Asker]

Thanks for your opinion. So in your personal opinion since talking to him about it in the past didn't help, something like this type of punishment would be appropriate for a boy?...since I will admit it has seemed to help with my brother. However this type of punishment wouldn't be appropraite for a girl, correct? Just trying to understand your thoughts. I do agree with you that girls do need more privacy then boys, especially around this age.

[ShesSoSilly]

Well I don't know what your parents have and have not done for you brother or what would work for him because I don't know him. All I'm saying, because its all I know for sure, is what I would do and how I would handle things. I still believe properly communicating things is the best way to handle any situation, not just with parents and their children and its never to late to start doing that. I personally don't find that punishment appropriate for a boy or girl.

[ShesSoSilly]

Also its not so much about privacy, but how we grow up at that age. Its a really sensitive age and I think humiliating them like that could cause more damage than helping. They might take that humiliation more than was intended and have self esteem issues, have anger issues, want to humiliate others because of their anger, etc... so I just don't think its a good idea. But again I don't know any of you so I can't say what is right or wrong.

[Asker]

Thanks. Yeah they've tried other things, including disussing it with him before, but it never really worked. I think this has helped though. I know you said you felt it's not appropriate, but as a 'last resort' or if other methods didn't work, would you then say it's okay or appropriate? Or you still feel it should never be done?

[ShesSoSilly]

I personally wouldn't ever do it, I feel there are other ways of handling it. I think your parents should take the initiative as parents, to research healthy ways to parent children. This is just one example with a lot of good information. link In short its important to examine their own behaviors

[ShesSoSilly]

and seek out other possible options and find out the reasons he his behaving the way he is.

[Asker]

Alright. Thanks for your opinion and sharing the link. Just one last question, If needed again, I assume you would say this type of punishment should not be done to my brother again...or if it's effective would it be okay again if needed since it's already been done? And also, since this was already done to my brother, if the need occurs would you feel it should be done to my sister out of fairness or no?

[ShesSoSilly]

I'm sorry, don't mean to be rude, but you must not be understanding what I've been saying. No, I don't think its right and I think there are other alternatives. No it should not be done to your brother or your sister. But your parents will do what they want to do as they have done all these years. Good luck with this and I truly hope it works out.

[Asker]

No I understand what you were saying, I was just trying to say since it's already happened, would it be okay again and obviously you feel it would not be. Thank you for taking the time to reply.

[ShesSoSilly]

No I don't feel it would be okay to continue because its probably harming him emotionally more than constructively teaching him how to treat other people. No problem again I hope it works out.

[xHoneyxBeex]

It's not really appropriate, no. He definitely should not have been making fun of her at all and he should have been punished but I don't necessarily agree with that as an effective form of punishment.

I mean, first of all, he's a brother. Most brothers poke fun at their sisters. Siblings in general don't always get along. And although it's not right of him to pick on her looks especially, I can't see how that punishment would make him see what he did as wrong. It was just humiliating him. I think it would have been better for them to just explain to him and TEACH him about why it was wrong and why he shouldn't make fun of his sisters (or anyone's) appearances. Embarrassing someone does nothing except just that, cause embarrassment. It doesn't exactly teach them about WHY it was wrong.

And no, if the situation were reversed it would not be appropriate for the girl to be punished in that way either.

[Asker]

Thanks for your reply. So if all else fails and this is an ongoing problem, is there ever a time something like this is appropriate in your opinion?

[xHoneyxBeex]

Well, I don't really agree with humiliating anyone. But like Stacyzee said, if he doesn't act like that anymore then I guess it was effective. I'm just more the type of teaching people why things are wrong and maybe taking away something they like rather than simply embarrassing them as punishment.

[Asker]

Thanks. Yeah I think it has helped. So just in your opinion is it appropriate for a punishment like this to be done to a girl/sister if needed or it's okay for a guy but not a girl?

[xHoneyxBeex]

No, personally I don't think it's okay for anyone. Neither girls or guys.

[Asker]

Okay. Just one last question, since this was already done to my brother, if the need occurs would you feel it should be done to my sister our of fairness or no?

[xHoneyxBeex]

No. Two wrongs don't make a right. So I don't think it should be done to her. Just my opinion.

[Asker]

Okay. So if my brother were to complain it's not fair, how would you explain it to him?

[xHoneyxBeex]

Well life isn't fair. Just because someone gets screwed over doesn't mean other people should too just out of that person's spite. That won't solve anything. He should just understand that even though he was punished in that way, that doesn't mean his sister should too. There will always be something that's "not fair" in life, he just needs to accept it and move on.

[Asker]

Hmmm, well you know how teen guys are! What if he says that he had to strip and his sister got to see him in nothing but his boxers, how come she doesn't have to strip and he will never get to see her.

[xHoneyxBeex]

I already answered that, for those same reasons. Life isn't always fair and you should just tell him to deal with it. A better question to ask him at that point would be why do you WANT to see your sister in her underwear? That might make him re-think it. I mean all in all, it shouldn't have been done to him but that doesn't mean it should be done to her too.

[Asker]

I have a feeling he would say 'because she got to see me strip to just my boxers it's not fair'!

[xHoneyxBeex]

Well that just falls back to my "life isn't fair" comment and in all honesty, he doesn't need a reason. It just is what it is.

[Anonymous]

Hmmm...I would say yes it was appropriate. Although it may seem harsh, it gave him a dose of his own medice I believe. Requiring him to be only in his boxers let him see that embarassing or hurting someone else is not necessary. It let him see he is not perfect.

However, no I don't believe this would be an approrpriate punishment for a girl because girl's need more privacy with their bodies, especially in their teen years. It's one thing to have a guy strip down, but it wouldn't be right to make a girl strip.

[Asker]

Thanks. I do agree it's a bit different to have a guy in his boxers versus a girl in her underwear.

[bDizzie]

I think it's very inappropriate to punish a girl that way, you don't need to dangle a young girl (even if it's his sister) in front of a prepubescent guy. No good can come of it. So I don't think it's a good idea for the guy to be punished by wearing boxer-briefs around either.

[Asker]

Thanks for your opinion. So if it is only done to the guy, do you think it's okay then? Since it already happened with my brother and seems to be helping, do you think it's acceptable?

[blackkid4]

It was not appropriate. Attempts at humiliation do not do anything constructive in relation to these issues. Rather than learning how to respect other people he simply learned that you just disrespect people when you won't get caught. Evasion versus Education.

[Asker]

Thanks for your reply. So if all else fails, is there ever a time something like this is appropriate in your opinion?

[blackkid4]

No. Never.

[Stacyzee]

All this is causing him is humiliation , embarrassment and more built up anger.

Kids fight each other all of the time, it sort of comes with the territory of having siblings in the same age group.

I think your parents should have spoken to your brother about his rude behavior and removed the possessions that he likes.

Whatever happened to that ?

If this was effective and he is no longer calling your sister names, then I don't disagree with it that much.

Could they have done it a better way ?

Yes.

But if he no longer does this then they accomplished their goal.

[Stacyzee]

Chances are he will think before he speaks.

[Asker]

Thanks for your opinion, yes it has been a problem for sometime before this. And yes I think making him wear only his boxers has helped. Let me ask you, do you think this would be appropriate for a girl or no?

[Stacyzee]

Yes.

I believe in treating sexes equally.

Whatever punishment you give to a boy should be the same given to a girl.

[Asker]

Thanks for your reply. So you feel having a sister in just bra and panties in front of her brother would be acceptable?

[Stacyzee]

I'm not a fan of this type of punishment but if it is effective for the parents that choose it, then by all means do so. I agree with a girl receiving this same punishment because as a woman (once a young girl). I had an older brother by 2 years and we weren't treated the same. At the time, this made me resent my parents and my brother at the time. I feel if you have kids you try to treat them equally. Even if that means carrying out a harsh punishment.

[Asker]

Thanks for your viewpoint. I don't mean to be personal, but can you cite like an example or two of how you were not treated fairly that it was so bad it makes you resentful?

[Stacyzee]

It wasn't in disciplining but it was ex. He got to stay out later, when he had friends over he could have them in their room with the door closed (I had to keep mine open), when he made wrong decisions (entering into adulthood) all he got was a pat on the back (like it doesn't mean much because he's a boy. But when I made wrong decisions as a young lady I got called harsh names and belittled by my mom etc.

[Asker]

I see what you mean, that must have really felt bad. It sucks you have to think about that for like ever now.

[Stacyzee]

I still love my parents and realize that it was hard on them and it was their way of trying to "protect me". Because ultimately women are more likely to be raped or hurt (even though I felt they went about it I effectively). It also made me learn that I will always treat my kid(s) the same no matter what sex they are.

[Stacyzee]

I meant Ineffectively.

[XRabbitHeartX]

It's very inappropriate imo. I think each person should be entitled to not being exposed like that. Our bodies aren't meant to be humiliated like that. I understand he insulted your sister but there's a difference in insulting someone and forcing a kid to actually walk around exposed in such a manner. Even though he wasn't naked, the way he was dressed is still revealing. Very disturbing way to punish a child.

[lace1228]

I think you have very loving parents who did what they thought best for your family and for your brother. I wouldn't do that to my girls because it wouldn't be right for them but a I do believe in disipline and I believe in raising my children to be loving,respectful humans. I will do whatever I need to to ensure that. I Would tell your parents everyday thank you.

[Asker]

Hi. Thanks for your opinion. So overall you feel this is an appropriate punishment for my brother? However it wouldn't be right for girls? Just to clarify what you meant.

[lace1228]

For the most part. Girls are subjected to look a certain and girls 12 years ans up start changing and usually put a bit of weight on. Boys don't wear shirts at the beach but girls have to cover up

[Asker]

Thanks, yeah I do agree. It's one thing to have a teen boy in his boxers, but it would be inappropriate to have a girl in her underwear. I know of course you said you wouldn't do that with your girls, which I understand...but if you had a son, you would use a punishment like this if needed?

[lace1228]

Yes because every child is different and as harsh as it seems to most people here (who don't have children of their own) it maybe the only thing that gets through to them. Whatever needs to be done to make them understand and realize what they did wrong. To learn and grow from that experience . This is hopeful something he can take with him as an adult and won't disrespect women in the way he did his sister.

[Asker]

Thanks. I do agree that he seems to be acting better after this. So you would use a punishment like this if you had a son if needed...but you will not use it with your daughters correct? Just curious, is that because girls need more privacy with their bodies or because you feel it wouldn't work with your speicifc girls?

[lace1228]

I wouldn't do it because girls especially your sisters age. have to struggle with self image problems and are developing curves due to periods and hormones. I do think parents should look out side of the box and disipline their children that fits the crime and in away they know their children best.

[Asker]

Thanks. I do think it is a pretty interesting punishment, by requiring a boy to be in just his boxers it let's him see his own faults, although I do agree with you that this type of punishment should be limited to only boys. I agree it wouldn't really be appropriate to make a girl strip down or anything like that. It's one thing for a boy to be seen in his boxers by his sisters or others, but it wouldn't be right to make a girl do something like that.

[lace1228]

If my girls were to bully someone they would be disiplined for their behavior. Not sure what I would do but it would be something different. I really think you have amazing parents and I don't think they would ever do anything that would "scar" any of you for life. Your parents know ypur brother better then anyone here and know what he can and can not handle. Everyone who answered for the most don't have children and have no idea how far a child will go tp push their "luck" with their parent.

[Asker]

Thank you. I agree and I do think it was a very unique punishment. If you had a son do you think you would this punishment or it would depend on his personality/type?

[lace1228]

It would depend on his personality type. I would never subject my children to anything Ii didn't think they could handle. That's why I am kind of surprised with all the answers against this. They don't know your brother. What is the diffrence between. underwear and going to the beach in a bathing suit?

[Asker]

Thanks. Your right, I'm not sure why everyone is against it? I mean I could understand if I said my sister was stripped to her underwear in front of my brother, that I wouldn't feel would be appropriate under any circumstance. But having a boy in boxers isn't really that big of a deal...and if it works, then why not? So for you if you had a son you might use it depending on his personality, but you would never use it with a girl no matter what, is that correct?

[lace1228]

Yes. I don't see why not. Also remember no one her are living in your parents footsteps they don't know what it is like to have children or better yet teenagers.

[Asker]

Just to clarify, when you say 'yes. I don't see why not'...your saying yes you might use it with a son, but not a daughter and you don't see why it's a big deal or what were you referring to?

[lace1228]

Yes for a boy I don't see a problem with doing something like that to a boy but wouldn't for a girl.

[Asker]

Thanks. Completely agree. I think that while unique punishments like this can be effective, punishments like being in underwear around others would only be appropriate to use on boys. I agree that something like this type of punishment should never ever be used with a girl. And now that I said that, I can see my brother arguing my sister should be punished in the same way to be fair.I guess either myself or my parents will need to explain females need modesty/privacy to him if he says anything?

[lace1228]

Yes but don't worry I think you have smart parents and wouldn't let that happen anyways.

[Asker]

Thank you. Yes I'm positive they would never make us girls do anything like that. But since you've provided good advice, may I just ask...if my brother does say something like that about not being fair that he was seen in his boxers...how would you reply to him or handle it? Like if he said his sister should be punished the same way when she is in trouble, what would you say to him?

[lace1228]

I would tell him that every choice he makes has a consiquence behind it, either good or bad. His behavior towards his sister was a choice he made and therefore disiplined accordingly. He needs to own it and accept things as they are. You should tell him that he was in his boxers to learn a lesson based on what he needed to learn. Your sister someday will get in trouble and I am sure she too will be disiplined accordingly to her choices.

[Asker]

Thanks. Yes I'm sure he understands that being in his boxers was a punishment for his actions. But I mean like if he tries to say that next time our sister is in trouble that she should also be punished by being made to strip to underwear since he had to...how would you handle that? Like if he says it's not fair he had to be in just his boxers, but our sister is never made to strip as punishment, what would you say? Like would you explain it's not appropriate and girls need more privacy or ?

[lace1228]

Tell him that when his sister gets in trouble her punshiment will be fitting to what she has done. Tell him being stripped down was to show him and your sister that everyone has flaws and that making fun of someone else's flaws is wrong. Striping down for something else won't make since and that punishment should match up to what is was that person did.

[Asker]

Thanks, that's a really good answer. Just one last question, I don't think my sister would ever be disrespectful and call out another's flaws...but just to play devil's advicite...if she were to do something like that at some point in the future and my brother said she should be made to strip like he was since she called out flaws and hurt someone like he did...how would you respond to him in that kind of situation? Like how would you explain she will not face the same punishment as he got?

[lace1228]

It really isn't his business or his decision to decide what displine she gets and to know that she would be punished in a different way but just as harsh. Every child is differwill not work tor everyone ent and one disiplan

[Asker]

Thanks. So if you were faced with the situation of him saying it's not fair he had to strip, but she doesn't...you would simply tell him that she will be punished differently in a way that fits her, correct? If he continued to say it isn't 'fair' would you explain that girls need more privacy and this type of punishment wouldn't be appropriate for her or would you just say she will be punished as you see fit and that's the end of the story?

[lace1228]

If he didn't stop complaining I would tell it is what it is end of story. Tell him it is OK to disagree and he doesn't have to like it but that won't change things. Life is what you make it so he can choice to dwell on it or get over it but know that the subject isn't going to be brought up anymore.

[Asker]

Thanks. I like how your firm with it, you just tell him his sister isn't going to be punished with stripping like he was and end of story. I wonder if it would be too mean to tell him if he doesn't stop complaining about how his sister gets a different punishment that his clothing will be taken away again and he can stay in just his boxers for a few more days if he mentions it again?

[lace1228]

That shouldn't be needed. Just tell him no one is going to listen or take him seriously anymore. If everyone just ignores him he will stop eventually. Just have patients.

[Asker]

Thanks...and you do feel we are being fair right? I mean if he says it's not fair that he had to be in boxers in front of his sisters, but his sister will never be made to be in underwear in front of him...you think that is fine correct? Like she is simply being given a different punishment, even if it means he had to do something she does not have to do right? Like I just want to make sure everything is fair as well.

[lace1228]

Yes it is fair. Like I said he doesn't have to agree or like it but he needs to accept it and move on.

[theblondeguy]

no tht wasn't appropriate and I doubt tht did sh*t to him at all what he needs is a lecture about being a goddamn gentleman and if he doesn't heed the advice a good punch in his disrespectful mouth should fix any future problems...

thts how I was raised and pretty much every other successful person nowadays...if you don't have respect especially for women you won't get far in life...

[Asker]

Wow...abusive much? So having a boy in boxers is not appropriate...but punching him in the face is?

[theblondeguy]

the thing is if people don't teach their sons to have respect for women or people in general they will abuse steal rob and rape...what your brother needs is an unforgettable punishment for his actions

[Asker]

You don't think not being allowed to have clothes, being required to be in just his boxers in front of his sisters is unforgetable? You even say it's not approrpiate? But busting his face in is fine?

[theblondeguy]

no I don't because its his family IF he was to wear a Justin Bieber shirt and pink capris to SCHOOL then it might be an appropriate punishment but in his own home no its pointless and hell do it again...

[Asker]

Well he seems to be acting a bit better lately. Do you think it's inappropriate punishment or just a pointless one? If he was made to stay only in his boxers when guests, his friends or his sisters friends were over...would that be a better punishment?

[theblondeguy]

well when I said it wasn't appropriate I meant to light...and yea tht may be a bit better but id still say too light like being THAT mean to your own family is f***ed up...idk if you missed this part of the question but I did say to warn him with a lecture about his disrespectful action THEN if he doesn't heed the advice you then punch him ONCE to show him the light ...

[Asker]

Well he has been talked to about it before but it never seemed to help. Having him in his boxers as seemed to help. So you think a better punishment would have been to require him to be only in boxers when his friend's or his sister's friends were over? Like you think he would have learned more/been punished more by making him walk around in front of friend's in just boxers?

[theblondeguy]

yea tht would be better...but I honestly think he will learn nothing...

[Asker]

Yeah I could see where having him in his boxers in front of his friends/sisters friends may have been a better idea. So just curious, let me ask you, in your personal opinion do you think a punishment like this would be appropriate for a girl as well or only for a guy?

[theblondeguy]

theoretically speaking with equality of genders yes actually speaking no because girls are more sensitive to how they look...

like beautiful women think they look ugly naked so to force your own daughter to be in undergarments in front of stranger or even her own family I believe may be detrimental to her self esteem

[Asker]

Alright, so you would say punishing the boy by having him in boxers in front of family/friends is accaptable, but it wouldn't really be right to have a girl strip, correct? Like if you were a parent you might punish your son with something like this, but not your daughter right?

[theblondeguy]

i would punish my son with what was described in my question but no I would do nothing like tht to a girl

and as I said it still isn't acceptable but its MORE acceptable than what was described b4where ru going with this?

[theblondeguy]

**answer** not question...

[Asker]

Well I don't think violence would work for him, but maybe I can mention to my parents the idea of having his friends or sister's friends over with him wearing nothing more then his boxers if needed. But yeah I agree I don't think having a girl strip would be right as a punishment, it wouldn't be appropriate.

[theblondeguy]

yea maybe just do SOMETHING I'm sure your parents don't want to be raising some POS woman beater or someone is just inherently mean to women in general...

[baldballs]

i think it is appropriate punishment. your sister should of had the option of having him naked. that's what my mom did to me. I had to be naked at home for a week, and I had to be next to my sister the entire time. I had to let her say anything she wanted and do anything she wanted. she loved that. I was 10yo my sister was 12yo. my mom made sure she did anything everything to me. message me for details and yes I think if it were the other way around she should do it

[Anonymous]

I think it would have scarred me for life. But I have always have huge body issues that have caused me to be ashamed of my body. It might not bother someone else at all.

[Asker]

Thanks for your opinion. But overall would you say it's an acceptable punishment for a guy? Would it be okay for a girl as well or no?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think gender matters here. There are boys and girls that feel comfortable with their bodies and some that are deeply ashamed. I think having him strip for calling her a name was far more demeaning than simply calling her a name. The fact he had to do it for days several days is horrible. Siblings call each other names. That is just what happens. The punishment was not only more severe, but also lasted far longer. This punishment went way to far. I would never forgive my parents for this.

[Asker]

Thanks for your opinion. So you would be that upset over being required to walk around in just your boxers? I mean girls do know boys wear boxers.

[Opinion Owner]

How do you think a girl would feel about being forced against her will to strip down to her underwear for several days in front of her family? I mean guys know that girls wear underwear. If they had done this to your sister most people would consider this a form of abuse. How upset the person would be really depends on the person. If the person NEVER lets anyone see them in just their underwear it would be worse than someone that sometimes does it anyway.

[Asker]

Thanks for your reply again. I know what your saying and I don't think my parents would ever make me or my sister strip like that. I know it may sound bad, but I think it's a bit different for a teen guy to be seen in boxers versus a teen girl to be seen. Girls are usually taught to be modest, not so much for guys...which is why girls get called sluts, guys get called studs.

[Opinion Owner]

"I know it may sound bad, but I think it's a bit different for a teen guy to be seen in boxers versus a teen girl to be seen." You are right. That does sound bad. It sounds like you don't understand that a guy can feel the exact same pain and humiliation as a girl. Well... we can. Women are far picker than guys so a guy that sleeps with a lot of girls tend to be the most desirable males (studs), were as any woman can get laid a lot easier. This has nothing to do with the issue at hand.

[Asker]

I'm not saying a guy can't feel pain or humiliation, but let's be honest...if a girl asked a guy to strip right in front of her for no reason...most guys would do it. If you randomly picked a guy and girl out of a group and asked them, chances are the guy would be much more open to being seen with nothing on at all then a girl would be. It may not be perfectly fair, but in general guys are much more open about being seen with no clothing on then girls typically are.

[Opinion Owner]

There is a HUGE difference between being forced to strip, as a form of humiliation, in front of the family, and being asked to strip in front of a girl he likes. The two are not comparable.

[Asker]

It doesn't only have to be a girl he likes...it could be a party with 100 guys and girls and most guys would still have no problem...most girls however would have a problrm with it. Heck, I've heard of guys that walk around their home in just boxers even with others home...I've never heard of a girl doing that though.

[Opinion Owner]

You sound like the women that claim men can't be raped, because guys always want it. There is a huge difference between doing something because you want to, and doing it because you are forced to. Your brother's power and dignity were taken away. Losing the right to choose what you do with your body causes the same pain in men and women. If it isn't okay to do to a girl, then it is equally as bad to do to a guy.

[Malcom_Reynolds]

I don't think it's appropriate in either case. Humiliation is not an appropriate punishment for children.

[blackeagle007]

I like it. Hey anyone who has faults is in no position to make fun of others. So yea compliments you your parents.

[Asker]

Hi. Thanks for your opinion. Yeah, it seems to be helping and I think it taught him a lesson. So let me ask you, in your personal opinion do you think a punishment like this would be appropriate for a girl as well or only for a guy?

[blackeagle007]

I'm all equal view. Granted the girl should have her braw and panties on. But yea again I like it. Don't put people down. Karma is real!

[Anonymous]

He's 15 yea that's a little weird, if he was like 6 or something no big deal, chances are he would do that anyway, but 15 your parents have issues.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, that doesn't seem appropriate to me, nor do I think it would be very effective.

[edgyfox]

That's a punishment? That's comfort for me.