Should I reject men if they become interested?

[Anonymous]

My mental state isn’t the best. Being in a relationship wouldn’t be the best idea.

[Screenwriter]

If YOU aren't in a good place to be in a relationship, just TELL whatever guy it is this is where you are now and YOU are not interested. It's not a line. I wouldn't even entertain friendship, because many men think if they have a foot in the door, they can get it open later and they'll hang around wasting their time AND yours.

[Mansearching]

You need to work out your mental state first. Then go slowly with men. Like be friends first. Ex. go for coffee at very public place. Meet them there and leave separately. Learn how to build a friendship first. If they men or women don't wanna be friends then thats a negative you don't need.

Got to build a foundation before a house gets built. Of course that's a figure of speech but meaning is true.

[Asker]

Yeah even I’m extremely terrified of dating.

[Asker]

To be honest, I’ll never be ready to meet someone ever.

[Mansearching]

There is a difference between terrified and nervous.

[Mansearching]

Just have to get over frar of rejection. You know how many times I've been rejected? To many to count.

[Guy13]

I thought you were looking for that toxic relationship... and now you are not?

[Asker]

I guess I meant reject good men.

[Guy13]

Oh, I see. receive the bad but throw back the good?

[Asker]

Pretty much, yes

[Guy13]

YOu look like a NE girl... there's a shitload of Toxic up there... what's the difficulty for you ;-)

[Asker]

The heck is an NE girl? 🤨

[Guy13]

Northeast USA, hello blondie...

[Asker]

Oh lol 😂 I was born in New Hampshire. So I guess you got that on point.

[Guy13]

That was my first guess and Boston around Jamaica plain was my second one. You still in USA or is the toxic waste water better in Europe etc...'

[Asker]

I’m in Oregon now. Have been since early 90s.

[Guy13]

Oh, that place and it’s hooligans Eileen mss as me you damn crazy. The territory annexed by California

[Asker]

I do plan to move out of state and go back to New Hampshire.

[Guy13]

Try the Midwest or Deep South for a change.

[Asker]

Why’s that?

[kylee2437]

Why reach out to men if you aren’t going to give them a chance?

[Asker]

I’m not reaching out to men 🤨

[kylee2437]

@sasha0426 answering messages is reaching out to them

[Asker]

Should I delete my responses?

[kylee2437]

No lol just if a guy is making obvious advances for dates and such, don’t entertain the idea

[Asker]

Oh! I was thinking you were referring on here lol 😅 But, I don’t get messages from guys. I just want to prepare in case something like that happens.

[Summeroflove]

If you’re not ready. Then you’re not ready

[Asker]

I’ll never be ready.

[Summeroflove]

Okay

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In life if you never try you will never know & if your mental state isn’t the best give the guys a raincheck.

[Asker]

I don’t think that’s going to happen because I’ll never be ready.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Never say never as they say & as for the future things can change.

[Asker]

I’m so mentally fucked up I’m extremely terrified to even start something with someone.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In that case don’t start something just find a boom boom buddy.

[Asker]

I rather not 😅

[Static_In_The_Attic]

To each is own & maybe in the future things will change.

[AmeerX]

You won't know till you try. Don't worry about your mental state. No one has right to judge you

[Asker]

Shouldn’t the person know what they’re getting into? I think it would be fair to give them a chance to choose if they want to be with me or not.

[AmeerX]

You don't have to make an advertisement for that. If someone likes you in your natural ways he likes you. You don't have to act ugly just to have a self fulfilling prophecy

[KnewHOUSE]

Inmature interested yes , but interested into you being you know No.
I'm mature childish interesting No

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Yes if you aren’t ready. I apologize about the pitbull comment I made.

[Asker]

I’ll never be ready. And all is forgiven.

[kinggeorge007]

Yeah probably, but be honest with them and don't lead them.

[noohair]

So when will you be ready?

[Asker]

I don’t think ever.

[noohair]

That is sad.

[Asker]

I’m just not mentally ready.

[Anonymous]

I'm in the same situation

[misogynistic_pig]

Fuck yes.

[misogynistic_pig]

Have you already rejected someone?

[Asker]

No I haven’t