Are coffee dates still a thing?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

In my area (Detroit Metro), I don't know.

There are coffee places all over... but women don't seem to do dates there - unless maybe they are ALREADY dating and this is a group hangout with a serious couple. I rarely see "dates" unless MAYBE it's high schoolers or college kids in a group (or a double date).

I've SUGGESTED coffee places, and usually gotten laughed at, or the old eye roll... I did have ONE sort of blind date at a coffee place. It was fun. She was cool enough that she seemed fine with cool experiences as opposed to having to go fancy every time. It didn't work out, but she was fun.

Women friends have told me they don't do coffee dates "because it shows the man is 'a cheap ass.'" They all tell me that if it isn't at least a fairly expensive wine bar or fancy restaurant, they won't do it.

I think coffee is a great first date. But apparently, I couldn't be more wrong. Which is unfortunate, because I'd never suggest an expensive dinner or wine bar as a first or second date. I think the area is huge on drinking, so a date isn't fun for most people unless you can drink (or probably get hammered).

Bubble tea or fancier "smoothie/dessert" places are a little more popular. $10 per Macaroon, $20 for a smoothie or specialty gelato or something... I'd be fine with those... I just don't see them as "date" places, at least when I happen to be there.

SnowedIn · Accepted Answer

I think yes in whatever form folks want it to be.

It could be a date date whether first or otherwise.

It could be exploratory... perhaps the two just want to get to know each other.

It could be two professionals catching up.

It could be two moms on a break from the kids.

It could be two dads talking about their Bible group at church.

Coffee dates are still a thing. If you doubt that, ask the Starbucks, Peet's, and Tim Horton's shareholders.

Changiis07 · Accepted Answer

Oh yes!!! I love coffee dates with my friends or as a date. Best thing ever!!! Talking and sipping on coffee, I'm actually going this Saturday with my co worker

PBandJ_Nerd · Accepted Answer

Yes, they are. And if one person doesn't feel like coffee or tea there's other sweet options for a drink.

Guy13 · Answer

No but whatever works for you is what matters on this kind of thing.

connemara_crocodile · Answer

If they aren't, they should. To me are the best first date.

You talk more than in the cinema.
You feel more at ease than at a bar (drinking with a stranger).
It's cheaper than the restaurant (so if the date doesn't go well at least you didn't spend a lot of money, and if it goes well, you aave yourself that awkward moment of deciding who paya the big bill)

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Depends on who you ask. Some people suggest that “coffee” isn’t a date at all.
I’m not much of a coffee drinker, so i never suggested a coffee date or meetup of any kind. Frankly, i’d rather get together and eat caramels. Ell oh ell!

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Sure they still exist, I tend to see if the person wants to go to the park though rather than sitting in a coffee house, tough to get to know someone with all kinds of other background noise/conversations going on around you.

Kabluie · Answer

Yeah, we still do those. Like sometimes we may decide to meetup in the morning or for afternoon coffee. It makes it easier to know someone without really committing anything other than time.

Part2603 · Answer

Never been on one! Even though I used to regularly play chess at a coffee shop with the love of my life!

Bricealan · Answer

They must be. My hair dresser suggested I ask a lady friend our for coffee to 'break the ice"

cloud9vortex1234 · Answer

Yes, it's good way to get to know who your talking to. The caffeine brings out more of the personality. Then if you like her (and vice versa) you can take her out to better place for a Second Date.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Yes and they’re my ideal first date although i hope neither of us actually order acoffee

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Nowadays I think people have online coffee dates.

Wish4UrB00ty · Answer

I love coffee dates!! Although I wouldn’t typically call them a date. But they are so fun!!

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I hope they are still a thing! I like coffee dates. ☕️

loveslongnails · Answer

Yes they are, and some Gen Z'er guys are so cheap they even want to go "dutch" on those! LMAO.

Fryday_Knight · Answer

I've never done those before, and it might even be too late now. Are these really just short dates.

RockyHammock · Answer

Coffee dates are where its at. It's a great way to figure out who you should and shouldn't date

Hardworkingguy · Answer

In my opinion that's still something nice to do with someone you want to get to know better or at least that's what I do

Timid-guy · Answer

I don't know but i wish i had one

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, I love a coffee date.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Only for people who actually drink coffee.

Phoenix98 · Answer

As far as I know they are.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I still meet people for coffee

Minahh · Answer

Yep. I've been on a few recently.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course they still are, lol.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

They are :)

LavLavLuv · Answer

of course :)

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Not for me.

TheMoreMiffed · Answer

Why not

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