Lately I have been doing “coffee dates” to prequalify women. The upsides are:
- it’s lower stress. Don’t have to worry about dressing up. Women feel more comfortable meeting a guy for the first time in a public place. It’s usually during the daytime.
- cheap and easy. I absolutely don’t mind spending $3 to $5 bucks on a girl’s coffee.
- it’s more honest. Neither one of us are fronting and/or having alcoholic drinks. We are both clear headed and see each other in an honest light.
- it’s quick. Only meet up for 30 minutes to an hour tops.
Anyway I took a girl I met on hinge on a quick coffee date yesterday. She smiled and gave me a hug when we first met. I have to admit she actually cuter in person than what I saw online. Also it seemed like she had a good first impression of me in the first 30 seconds.
But the conversation felt like it got more awkward the more we talked. She choose the seats and they weren’t very comfortable. I tried to talk about traveling and adventures where she was more of a homebody. I also tried to make eye contact and she only locked eyes briefly at would look away.
Her body language did look relaxed though. That could be a good thing or a bad thing. Good if she felt comfortable but also bad she felt comfortable because she isn’t worried about how she looks in front of me.
Anyway I decided to wait a few days and maybe send a follow up message. I did find her attractive and I wouldn’t mind doing a second date if she’s interested. Maybe grab a drink this time. But I got a bad feeling she is going to ask me to “just be friends”. I felt like the coffee date came off as too boring.
