Do I have the right to be with someone?

[Anonymous]

I’m so toxic that I even know that I don’t. I try constantly to stop having feelings for anyone but it’s hard. People say it’s normal to want someone, but it doesn’t feel normal to me. I have to constantly keep myself distracted but it’s impossible. I always end up feeling bad and it scares me shitless. I need helpful advice.

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4 mo

If I think about staying single, it calms me down. Because I believe if you stay single, nothing can go wrong.

[DaveJord]

I have messaged you in the past with good advice and you have turned toxic with me... so I got nothing to add to all my perceive attempts to assist you.

[Asker]

I can’t afford therapy.

[DaveJord]

That's a shame.

[Anonymous]

stop being toxic. Next time you wanna be a cruel bitch to someone just bite your tongue and look in a mirror. The more shitty behaviour you put out into the world the less good things you will attract

I won’t read a reply to this message if you leave one. Healthy people are gunna avoid you until you stop being toxic. Maybe a relationship with a toxic person is what u need; could act as a nice mirror

[Asker]

I want a toxic relationship anyway. It’s what’s best for me.

[Anonymous]

Therapy 👏🏻 you won’t be like this forever if you get help. But if you refuse to seek help, then that’s on you and it’s silly to complain and say “woe is me”.

[Asker]

Well, I did come up with one solution. If I stay single, I think everything will be alright.

[Opinion Owner]

That’s a sad way to live, and you’re likely only toxic because you self sabotage by having that mindset, so the sooner you go through therapy and stop self sabotaging, the better your life will be in general.

[Ms_Facesitter]

You have the right, but perhaps not the capabilities to be with someone if you're as toxic as you say you are.

[Asker]

Oh, I’m super toxic. It’s why I’ve never been in a relationship before.

[qwert1234]

Have you tried working on not being toxic though?

Love is a normal human reaction.

It's part of being a person. Even Hitler fell in-love.

[Asker]

I’ve always been toxic my whole life. If I stay single, nothing bad can happen.

[weysally]

that is rubbish talk, sorry but I speak straight, you find the right person, whether its a male or fmale, that person will help. self pity gets you no where,

[Asker]

I don’t want to bring someone into my life. That’s what I’m trying to avoid. And besides, people advise you to stay away from toxic people.

[weysally]

no one can run forever, shake yourself up, I have put two things over to you, others will also give you some advice, its up to you to either take it or leave it, but if you deci you want to be single and avoid other do so, but don't burden this on too much on to others

[Asker]

I usually keep this stuff to myself. I don’t talk to anyone I know about this.

[weysally]

why do you have the need to be with toxic people as you put it,

[Asker]

Because I know that’s who I go better with.

[jshm2]

You are either a narcissist or a pessimist, it seems.

Perhaps a bit of therapy might help.

[slatyb]

No, you don't. You don't have a right to anything that must be provided by another individual.

[Mansearching]

More opportunity than right

[PatriceONeal]

You need therapy on a bad way.

[In_Trance]

you have to earn it

[Asker]

Well, I haven’t done anything to earn to be with someone.